Imagine having a mother who’s been nothing but a bully to your partner, and then gets jealous when you treat your fiancée to a special birthday gift. That’s exactly what happened to one man who’s been dealing with his mom’s irrational behavior for years. Now, she’s furious over the ‘scraps’ he got her for her birthday, while his fiancée enjoyed a romantic week in Paris. Let’s dive into this dramatic story!
A Decade-Long Love Story

Mom’s Unexplained Hatred

Years of Silence

An Unexpected Apology

Accepting the Apology, But…

Birthdays: A Competition?

Exhausting Gift Wars

A Slightly Improved Attitude

Birthday Celebrations

A Romantic Week in Paris

Assuming Mom’s Happiness

A Furious Phone Call

Feeling ‘Neglected’

Standing Up to Mom ️

Harsh Words and a Hang-Up

A Mother’s Jealousy Knows No Bounds
So, after years of bullying his fiancée, this man’s mom finally apologized and seemed to be on the road to redemption. But when her son treated his fiancée to a romantic week in Paris for their shared birthday, she couldn’t help but feel neglected and lash out. Despite her son’s attempts to stand up to her, his fiancée thinks he should have been more tactful in handling the situation. Now, let’s see what the internet thinks of this emotional rollercoaster…
User defends fiancé’s gift, questions mother’s expectations.

Mom overreacts to birthday ‘scraps’, commenter says NTA for setting boundaries

Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but necessary.

Choosing your wife over your mother. NTA wins the day

Son advised to cut off mom for prioritizing herself over wedding
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Prioritizing future wife over demanding mother is not AH behavior

Cutting ties with toxic family members is sometimes necessary

Mother compares birthday to proposal, OP NTA.

NTA commenter defends OP and calls mom a ‘selfish brat’

Cutting toxic family members out of your life is healthy

Supportive comment and advice for dealing with difficult family members.
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Supportive comment encouraging no contact with toxic mother

Mom jealous of son’s wife, defends birthday gift. NTA.

Cutting mom out for ‘scraps’? Harsh, but maybe necessary.

Mom’s warped view on mother-son relationship causes birthday drama

Mom expects romantic getaway like fiancée, possible emotional incest. NTA.

Setting boundaries with a difficult mother for mental health reasons.

Parenting with this mom will be a minefield

Wedding day drama predicted for OP’s entitled mom. NTA

Cutting off toxic family members for self-care

Setting boundaries with toxic family members is important for self-care

Fiancé’s birthday comes first, NTA. Mom needs to grow up

Grateful for Diane’s support, commenter deems mom NTA.

Breaking free from a toxic mother, congrats on engagement!

Mom’s apron-strings are threadbare and her expectations are high

Cutting out toxic family members for happiness ❤️

No contact with ungrateful mom?

A commenter offers support and advice for dealing with a toxic mother, suggesting therapy and firm boundaries.

A heartfelt gift sparks a warning about a toxic mother.

Insightful article on narcissistic behavior around birthdays. #NTA

Setting boundaries with family can be tough, but necessary.

Mom’s skewed view of fairness, NTA for treating differently

NTA for calling out mom’s spoiled behavior

Standing up to entitled parents

Wedding drama predicted for NTA who gave ‘scraps’ birthday gift.

Mother-in-law’s jealousy causing tension in family

User wants ‘scraps’ for their mom’s birthday too

Wedding warning amidst congratulations for Paris proposal

Let mom rock the boat and find your own ship

Find solace in r/JustNoMIL – your mom is not alone.

Setting boundaries with family can be tough

OP warned against letting entitled mother ruin their wedding day.

Setting boundaries with a jealous mother. NTA

User explains why OP is NTA for not buying expensive gift

Curious commenter asks if groom’s mom caused delayed proposal.

Cutting ties with mom over birthday gift? NTA, says commenter.

User defends man’s decision to not give extravagant gift to mom

Setting boundaries with family is important for a healthy marriage.

Cutting off mom again? NTA and congrats on engagement!

Cutting off toxic family members can lead to happiness

Setting boundaries with a parent can be tough.

Setting boundaries with a parent is tough, but necessary.

Cutting off toxic family members is sometimes necessary

User advises OP to go no contact with toxic mother. NTA

Mom’s unhealthy competition with Diane, NTA for giving ‘scraps’

Single mom defends OP, suggests therapy for mom’s insecurity.

Standing up for partner against entitled mother. #NTA

Brutal but honest reply to a difficult family situation

User defends OP’s decision and suggests unhealthy relationship with mother

Setting boundaries with unstable mom called ’emotional incest’. NTA.
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When a $50 sweatshirt isn’t good enough for mom

Mom called a spa day and dinner ‘scraps’, NTA suggests going no contact.

User doubts mother’s apology, predicts future JustNoMIL post. NTA.

Mom wants to take fiance’s position. Talk to her kindly

Why do some adults feel neglected on their birthdays?

Mom demands Paris proposal, settles for birthday scraps. NTA wins.

Cutting ties with mom for a spa day gift? NTA

Cutting ties with toxic family members is self-care

Cutting off toxic family members is necessary for your happiness

Protect your future marriage and consider going low contact. NTA

Cutting toxic people out of your life is the best gift

Mother’s birthday expectations are unreasonable. NTA.
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NTA commenter suggests cutting off mom to avoid drama
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Protect your emotional health by cutting toxic people out

Setting boundaries with ungrateful family members ♥️

Fiancé vs Mom: When pleasing both is impossible

Gifts should be thoughtful, not expensive. Mom seems jealous, NTA.

Supportive reply to OP’s difficult family situation.
