Man’s Dilemma: Parents’ Allowance or Future Savings?

Meet our 31-year-old friend, a software developer who’s just landed his first job after a career change and two years of schooling. His parents, who are nearing retirement, have asked him for a monthly allowance, viewing it as his duty. But he’s conflicted. He’s trying to save for his future, including potential kids, and he’s also aware of his wife’s sacrifices during his schooling years. Let’s dive into his story…

New Job, New Expectations

A Surprise Request

The Financial Reality

Past Contributions

Wife’s Sacrifices

The Career Switch

Feeling Indebted

The Dilemma

Family Background

Father’s Sacrifice

A Tough Decision: Parents or Future? ‍♂️

Our software developer friend is caught in a heart-wrenching dilemma. He’s torn between his filial duty to his parents and the need to secure his future. Having paid off his student loans, he’s left with just 15k. His wife has been his rock, supporting him financially during his schooling years. Now, he’s desperate to save for their future family. But his parents’ request for a monthly allowance has thrown a wrench in his plans. It’s a tough call, especially considering his parents’ sacrifices for him and his brother as immigrants. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

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NTA for not understanding cultural differences in supporting parents.

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NTA – Don’t let your parents’ financial choices burden your child

“NTA. Parents gave you a roof, you gave them 25%. No extra allowance needed.”

Grateful for immigrant parents’ sacrifices, want to repay their love ❤️

NAH: Discuss with wife and parents about financial boundaries.

NTA. Communicate openly with your wife and parents about finances.

“NTA if you don’t give them an allowance.”

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INFO: Seek wife’s input for joint goals and financial alignment

Commenter’s parents didn’t pay for degrees, relied on student loans.

Cultural differences and stereotypes make this financial dilemma complex.

Age and health of parents affect financial dilemma.

NTA, parents’ help doesn’t mean you owe them everything

Deciding on parents’ allowance: balancing savings and expectations

NTA. Parents’ responsibility to provide, but consider their sacrifices too.

NTA. Balancing cultural expectations and personal financial responsibilities.

Cultural dilemma: Supporting parents vs. future savings. Prepare for discussion.

Cultural differences impact financial support for parents. Consider their sacrifices.

Parents’ allowance: Unfair or justified? The verdict is in!

“Retirement isn’t an age. It’s when you quit or reduce work.”

Parents’ allowance: fair or unfair? Let’s discuss!

“NAH, but consider their financial situation before committing. ‍ ‍ ‍ “

Balancing financial responsibility to parents and future family.

Parents aren’t entitled to your wealth. Save for your future.

NTA: Parents’ responsibility to care for you without expecting return ‍ ‍

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NTA. Prioritizing financial security for your family’s future.

NAH. Recognizing your own success while balancing family financial decisions.

Balancing financial responsibility between parents and own family.

NAH. Filipino commenter defends responsibility to care for parents.