Man’s Chore War with Wife: Laziness or Legitimate Excuses?

Meet our protagonist, a 29-year-old IT professional, who finds himself in a domestic dilemma. He and his wife, a 27-year-old teacher, both work full-time jobs. With no kids but a lovely lab named Dilly, they seemed to have a perfect arrangement for sharing household chores. But, as summer ended and school resumed, the chore chart started to tilt heavily in one direction. Let’s dive into their story of domestic discord.

The Perfect Summer Arrangement ☀️

The Chore Chart Shuffle

The Mysterious Disappearing Act

The First Clash ⚔️

The Garbage Incident ️

The Dishwashing Dilemma ️

The Chore Ultimatum

The Breaking Point

Chore Wars: A Domestic Dilemma

Our IT whiz finds himself in a domestic quagmire as he seems to be the only one shouldering the household chores. From taking out the garbage to washing dishes, he’s doing it all. His wife, the teacher, seems to have a knack for vanishing when chores need to be done, or coming up with creative excuses. He’s reached his breaking point and has issued an ultimatum: either she chips in or he’s backing off from chores. Now, let’s see what the internet has to say about this domestic drama…

NTA. Wife’s laziness or legitimate excuses? Rubber gloves might help. Ultimatum?

Is the wife struggling with depression and anxiety?

NTA: Get her rubber gloves to solve her sore hands!

Understanding a teacher’s struggle during COVID: depression or laziness?

NTA. Go on strike, wash only your dishes.

Is the wife making excuses or is there something more?

NTA but finding a fair chore system is crucial

NTA: Partner or child? Give her other chores, she’s capable!

Teacher’s overwhelming workload and emotional burden affecting household chores.

NTA! Hiring a cleaner can save marriages

Alternate weeks for chores? Schedule them for fairness.

Living with a partner means taking turns with chores

NTA – Seek therapy to avoid escalating resentment

NTA but consider supporting your wife with meal delivery or housecleaners

NTA but there’s more to this story

Who’s doing all the household chores? Let’s spill the tea! ☕

Engaging comment suggests wife’s health may be impacting household chores

NAH, but AH for pointing out financial contribution. Show empathy instead.

Understanding spouse’s struggles with chores during pandemic

Agreed on chore split, wife taking advantage. NTA!

Supportive comment acknowledges wife’s possible depression.

NTA, but check in with your wife. Teaching is tough

Empathy and communication are key in resolving household conflicts.

Allergic to dishwashing liquids, back pain, and basic health compromise?

NTA. Discussing division of chores and potential underlying issues.

NTA suggests chore substitution to avoid ultimatums. Gloves for dishes.

Switch chores and budget to find balance in household responsibilities

NTA. Divide expenses to reflect her unfair chore demands.

NTA. Offer a chore trade to ease the tension

NTA, suggest splitting chores to eliminate excuses and resentment.

“NTA and when I read posts like his I always feel like an idiot! My husband and I both worked outside the house, demanding salaried jobs. We had two kids, I shopped, cooked, cleaned the house and did most of the kid duty. Husband took care of the yard and cars and cleaned the toilets. When the garbage was full, whoever noticed took it out. He also did anything I asked if I needed help. Oh, I made about a third more money than him. By your estimation, I sure got the short end of the stick but I was happy with it. You guys need to communicate like adults. If she doesn’t want to do the ‘gross’ stuff, then she probably should do more of the other stuff. As in, I wouldn’t do toilets or the shower. It does sound as if she’s being immature. My SO solved the problem in his marriage by hiring maids, lol.”

NTA. Set up a chores calendar for a fair routine

NTA, consider re-splitting chores based on each other’s strengths

OP’s messy house leads to realization and positive change!

NTA, renegotiate chores and find ways to make them palatable.

NAH, discuss and adjust chore plan to avoid future conflicts

Understanding the pandemic stress and giving her some slack

NTA but remember the relationship pie. Beautiful act of intimacy to be of service to your partner.

NTA: Wife’s laziness causing chore war

Is the chore division really fair? Consider all the variables.

NTA. Hold her accountable and divide chores equally.

NTA: Stop doing chores, let her face the filth!

NTA, lazy wife agreed to share chores, no right to complain

NTA: Redo negotiations, discuss chores, find a fair compromise.

NTA. Chore battle with lazy wife. Time to take action!

Gloves can solve the dishwashing dilemma! NTA

Financial burden and unfairness in relationship.

Wife’s excuses for chores: NTA’s mental health matters more

Engaging comment: NTA… Your wife sounds whiny. Get her a mask and gloves.

NTA, wife should ask to redistribute chores for fair balance!

Decide or alternate weeks for chores. NTA.

Stand your ground! Let those dishes pile up!

NTA. Husband’s 15-minute cleaning suggestion somewhat works

NTA, gloves can save her from dishpan hands!

Get a cleaner and solve your relationship problems!

Curious about wife’s excuse for not cleaning toilet and bathroom?

Lazy wife? NTA thinks so!

Fairness in chores: NTA, unless there’s a valid excuse.

Empathy or Entitlement? The Battle of Wet Hands

Negotiating chore swaps for a harmonious household

NTA: Discuss concerns with wife’s dodging responsibilities before having kids

Fair chore distribution: ultimatum vs. easing back. NTA!

NTA. She’s acting like a spoiled child.

NTA, find a fair compromise for chores with your wife!

Not the a**hole. Laziness or legitimate excuses? Let’s find out!

Not the a**hole. Laziness or legitimate excuses? Let’s find out!

NTA and her lame excuses! Teacher’s pet strikes again!

NTA: Wife is terrible! My four-year-old is less entitled