Love can be a tricky business, especially when it ends, and children are involved. Meet our protagonist, a father of two, who found himself in the midst of a heated debate after he decided to stop paying his ex an extra £500 a month if her boyfriend moved in. His reasoning? He felt he was doing his fair share for their kids, and didn’t feel obligated to support her if she had another partner living with her. Let’s dive into this tangled web of emotions, finances, and moral dilemmas. ️
An Amicable Split and a Windfall

The Shared Responsibilities

The Extra Mile

A New Chapter and a Potential Freeloader

The Controversial Proposal

A Twist in the Tale

The Boyfriend’s Reaction

A Father’s Stance

Friends Divided, Ex’s Stand

The Aftermath

Second Thoughts and a Pack of Lies

A Silver Lining

The Unconventional Breakup

A Father’s Dilemma: Fair Play or Foul Play?
This tale of love, breakups, and shared responsibilities has sparked a fiery debate. Our protagonist, a father doing his best to support his kids, proposed to stop his extra payments to his ex if her boyfriend moved in. The boyfriend, seemingly a freeloader, threw a tantrum, and friends took sides. But the ex stood by the father’s decision, even reconsidering her choice to let the boyfriend move in. While the dust settles, one thing is clear – the lines between love, responsibility, and fairness can often blur. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
“NTA! Mr Freeloader wanted you to foot the bill for him.”

NTA: Taking a stand against unnecessary interference in his decision

NTA. No explanation needed. Just ask my friends.

NTA: Smart move protecting your children from financial abuse.

NTA. Your friend needs to hear your side.

NTA. Co-parenting goals! They’re putting their kids first, not freeloaders!

Co-parenting goals! A heartwarming story of mutual support and cooperation.

Friends berate OP for one-sided story, but ex approves. NTA

NTA: Fair financial arrangement for kids, but bf should contribute too!

NTA: He sounds like a mooch ♂️

NTA. Your ex’s boyfriend cares, but it’s between you two. As long as she’s okay with it, it’s all that matters

NTA. Ex’s freeloading boyfriend should pay rent, not you.

NTA: Friend’s disturbing attitude shows signs of financial abuse. Support needed.

NTA! Respectful OP shuts down freeloading ex with bold move

NTA. Ex’s friend mooching off you. You set boundaries

Bold move: guy includes gf’s ex’s money. NTA obviously
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NTA: Ex’s new partner tried to mooch off your generosity

NTA. Keep your financial decisions between you and your ex!

NTA. Co-parenting goals! Mutual friend is just salty about money.

Heartwarming co-parenting goals!

User supports man’s decision, warns against financial exploitation.

NTA – Putting kids first and ignoring outside opinions

NTA: Freeloading creep thinks paying his own bills is enough

NTA, but ex’s friend & her boyfriend are huge AHs

NTA: Exes’ good co-parenting, but why be friends with irresponsible knob?

NTA. Great co-parenting! Boyfriend’s days are numbered.

NTA: Ex benefits from your generosity, guy wanted to freeload

NTA, hope ex reevaluates her relationship.

NTA. Boyfriend’s reaction speaks volumes. Ex better take note!

NTA defends ex against liar, hopes she finds better person

Mutual friend believes him, time for new friends? NTA!

Ex’s friend defends her against unfair accusations, justice served!

NTA: Co-parenting goals! Fair decision that matters to both of you.

Boyfriend expected free ride, ex sets clear financial boundaries.
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Ex’s boyfriend lies and causes drama over child support.
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Bold move sparks debate: Is he being fair or unfair?

Putting kids’ savings first, fair reasoning for financial decision.

NTA. Ex needs to see this thread for future decisions.

NTA: Co-parenting goals! Putting kids first and supporting each other.

Is he being fair or unfair to his ex? NTA!

INFO: Seek professional help for legal custody and financial agreements

NTA- Dad prioritizes kids over himself, sparks debate on fairness

NTA! Great co-parenting and saving money for the kids!

NTA: He’s being unfair and she deserves better.
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NTA. Guy should contribute to household expenses regardless if he lives there.

Is this guy a bad influence on the kids?
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NTA, great communication! Ex’s BF should contribute to household expenses

NTA: Ex is a freeloader, you’re a great co-parent

NTA. Ex gave approval. No drama.

Debate on financial abuse and freeloading in healthy relationship. NTA

Smart move! Avoiding unknown numbers keeps things amicable with ex.

OP is not one of the wankers. NTA

Refreshing to see respectful coparenting.

Co-parenting goals!

NTA: Exes co-parenting like pros!

Not the a**hole, but what did he do?
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NTA! Ex’s reconsideration is a blessing. Freeloader ‘friend’ exposed!

NTA. Should an adult live with kids they don’t feel responsible for?

NTA. Ex’s new boyfriend is a real winner. Mind your business!

NTA: Is he being fair or unfair to his ex?

NTA: Cut off ex’s payments, save for kids. She’ll cheat anyway.
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NTA! Ex’s boyfriend isn’t a champ. Kudos for being grown ups!
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Congrats on being NTA and having a great co-parenting relationship!

Ex’s freeloading boyfriend gets a reality check. NTA wins!
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NTA, great coparenting!

NTA! Co-parenting goals!
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Supportive commenter defends ex, applauds her confrontation with friend.

Spousal support: When does it end?

NTA: Ex manipulating situation, misrepresenting it, and attempting to freeload. Run!

NTA: Ex and you have great communication, ignore the peanut gallery

Engaging coparenting and supporting ex, despite initial judgment.

Parental responsibility: You support your children, no questions asked.

NTA. Admirable co-parenting, but beware of potential freeloader roommate. ❤️

Heartwarming story about exes with a twist!

NTA. Heartwarming story of divorced parents creating a harmonious family ❤️

NTA and loving the phrase “all the wankers under the sun” ❤

NTA: Ex’s new partner should contribute to household expenses.

NTA. Ex and kids are taken care of, fair arrangement.

NTA’s smart move for kids’ money sparks debate
