Picture this: a man, tired of his wife’s incessant spending on her sister, decides to take matters into his own hands. His wife (25F) has a sister (20F) who is somewhat disabled, making working difficult but not impossible. The wife has been financially supporting her sister for years, and the husband has had enough. He’s now threatening to take away his wife’s spending privileges if she doesn’t put her foot down. But is he going too far?
Sister’s Disability and Relationship

Wife’s Financial Support

Growing Resentment

Sister’s Financial Expectations

Fed Up with Sister’s Dependency

Sister’s Freelancing Claims

Wife’s Money, Husband’s Problem?

Prioritizing Their Daughter

Ultimatum Issued ⚠️

Wife’s Reaction

Clarifying the Situation

Financial Struggles

Man’s Ultimatum: Wife Must Choose Between Sister and Spending
In a desperate attempt to regain control over his family’s finances, this husband has issued an ultimatum: either his wife stops being a pushover and tells her sister to grow up, or he’ll take away her spending privileges. The wife, who has been financially supporting her somewhat disabled sister for years, is devastated by her husband’s demands. But is he really the bad guy here, or is he just trying to protect his family’s financial future? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this explosive situation…
ESH – Framing the situation poorly, financial abuse concerns raised

ESH: Concerning take on spending, controlling behavior, and enabling
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“YTA. Controlling move to use wife’s income to control her.”

Whiplash-inducing change in tone, but YTA for threatening wife’s finances ♂️

ESH. OP and wife both need financial boundaries and communication

YTA thinks wife’s unpaid labor justifies controlling her spending

ESH: Chauvinistic views, shared responsibilities, and financial ruin

NTA for wanting wife to stop enabling sister’s dependency

ESH. Dude, you’re married, that money belongs to both of you

Who needs financial independence more: the sister or the wife?

“NTA, it’s financial abuse for her to keep giving away assets to her sister. Cutting access is fair. “

“YTA for minimizing sister’s disability and threatening wife’s money. “

Commenter calls OP an a**hole, but realizes they’re not
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“NTA. Tough love might be necessary to stop the dependency.”

NTA. Discuss budget with wife to set boundaries for sister.

“Stop being abusive. This girl needs help, not control!”

NTA: Cutting off sister’s money, not wife’s, for household expenses

NTA – Single income family, sister-in-law’s dependency, compromise with conditions.

NTA. Wife enabling sister, but poor choice of words in title.

Commenter suggests setting boundaries on spending, but receives criticism.

Last Updated on February 5, 2024 by Diply Social Team