Imagine being a new father, working 10-hour days to support your family while your wife is on leave. You come home exhausted, only to find yourself taking care of not only your child, but also your autistic wife. This is the reality for one man who recently reached his breaking point. After years of understanding and support, he finally snapped when his wife spent their rent money on expensive Halloween costumes, leaving them begging for help from family.
A Supportive Relationship
Journals for Understanding
The Struggle Intensifies
Working Long Hours
A Sudden Change
The Breaking Point
Thoughtful, but Costly
Neglecting Responsibilities
A Harsh Ultimatum
A Difficult Situation
Risky Behavior
Feeling Alone
Considering the Child
Is He the Bad Guy Here?
This man’s story is a heart-wrenching tale of love, responsibility, and the challenges of being in a relationship with an autistic partner. He’s been supportive and understanding, but now, with the added pressure of raising a child, he’s struggling to cope. His wife’s behavior has become increasingly risky and neglectful, leaving him feeling like the only adult in the relationship. He’s reached his breaking point, but is he wrong for telling her to ‘grow up’? Let’s explore some of the internet’s top reactions to this emotional dilemma…
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NTA but wife’s burnout and neglecting child is a huge concern
Concerned about wife’s ability to parent. Limited childcare options.
INFO: Is she in therapy? Have you tried couples counseling?
NTA. Balancing the needs of a child and a disabled spouse
Is the wife severely low functioning or severely depressed? ♂️
Supportive comments suggest separate bank accounts for better financial management.
NTA: OP’s wife needs help, but may lack self-awareness.
Wife’s behavior: PPD or autism? Husband needs help and support
NTA but she needs help and therapy. Pregnancy and giving birth can lead to a lot of mental issues which could be causing this.
NTA, tough love is necessary for the safety of all
Consider adult Autism services and childcare options. NTA!
NTA. Healthy boundaries are important. Separate accounts for bills?
Understanding Autistic Burnout and the need for support and understanding
“NTA – Autistic wife needs help. Consider a nanny or babysitter.”
Autistic commenter defends wife’s capabilities, challenges assumptions about disability.
Stay focused on helping the OP. No judgement, just support!
NTA: Concerned for child’s safety, suggest temporary separation for help.
NTA, wife needs guidance. Take control of finances for relief.
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NTA, but consider therapy. Couples counseling could help both of you.
YTA for having a child with someone who isn’t capable
NTA. Protect your finances and address her irresponsible behavior.
NTA: Wife struggling with parenthood, needs help and support
NTA but suggesting evaluation, therapy, and child services intervention.
NTA: Protecting your family’s financial stability is top priority
