Imagine showing up for a casual coffee with a friend, only to find out you’ve been set up on a surprise date! That’s exactly what happened to a 39-year-old man who had sworn off relationships after a difficult breakup. His colleagues, especially the women, just couldn’t accept his decision to stay single. So, one of them took matters into her own hands and set him up on a date without his knowledge! Let’s dive into this wild story and see how it all unfolded.
The End of a Long Relationship
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Colleagues Can’t Accept His Decision
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The Persistent Colleague, S
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A Casual Meetup Turns into a Surprise Date
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The Unexpected Encounter
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The Shocking Revelation
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Walking Out on the Date ♂️
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Confronting S
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S Defends Her Actions ♀️
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The Office Drama Unfolds
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Unwanted Advice from Colleagues ♂️
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An Icy Atmosphere ❄️
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Update: Apologizing to A
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A’s Response and a Coffee Invitation ☕
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The Aftermath: Apologies and Unexpected Invitations
As the office drama unfolded, our protagonist realized that A had no idea about the surprise date either. He reached out to her on LinkedIn, apologizing for his reaction and explaining the situation. To his relief, A was understanding and even livid with S for setting them up. In a surprising twist, he invited A for a coffee to catch up properly. Will this unexpected turn of events lead to a new friendship or something more? Only time will tell! Meanwhile, the office atmosphere remains icy as everyone processes the drama that just unfolded. ❄️
NTA, S should mind her own business. Good luck!

Set boundaries at work. HR can help. #NotYourCupidCoworker

Setting boundaries at work is important . HR should handle this.

When colleagues won’t stop talking about your love life , try random frog facts or shut them down

Suggests contacting HR after unwanted surprise date and workplace trashing

Colleagues were wrong, but OP could have been gentler with A.

Choosing to be single doesn’t mean being sad

Set boundaries at work to avoid uncomfortable situations

Setting boundaries: NTA comment shuts down unwanted advice and dates

Set boundaries, respect yourself. NTA

Choosing to leave a surprise date doesn’t make you an a**hole

When a friend tried to play matchmaker without permission

NTA suggests going to HR due to dangerous work situation.

Standing up to workplace harassment with a sassy response

Defending against unfair judgement. NTA for leaving surprise date.

Standing up for personal boundaries and healthy choices.

Setting boundaries and standing up for yourself is important

Woman supports man’s decision to be childfree.

Don’t let others force you into a relationship

Stand up for yourself! NTA. Report them to HR

Long game for love, a true martyr. Update expected.

Embracing single life: a positive perspective

Surprise date gone wrong NTA called out for intrusion

Boundaries crossed at work? HR might be your best bet.

NTA. S knew she was wrong and tried to escape.

Harsh criticism for S’s surprise date gone wrong

Coworker’s surprise date intrusion sparks outrage and sympathy

Empathetic comment encourages OP to prioritize their happiness ❤️

Confronting a busybody at the gym, NTA wins the day

NTA suggests revenge plan involving false sexual harassment allegations.

Unleashing the canons: When polite hints don’t work

Manipulative colleague sets surprise date, NTA for storming out.

Venting over coffee ☕ can do wonders for friendships.

Jokes on you. Now you have a real date with A.

NTA, but speak to HR. S needs to respect boundaries

Tricked into a date, NTA but S is the AH

Setting boundaries is important. NTA for standing up for yourself

Gender reversal test raises questions about surprise dates

Standing up against workplace harassment. Document and seek legal advice.

Setting boundaries and not being at fault. NTA

35-year-old man shares his disinterest in dating.

OP reconnects with A after storming out of date

NTA! Coworkers need to respect boundaries

NTA, but the update is hilarious! Fruit basket for S?

Standing up for yourself and setting boundaries! Good job!

Gender bias in judgement highlighted in thought-provoking comment

NTA. Women projecting their dating desires onto you. Good call leaving.

Projection and red flags: the dangers of binary thinking

Supportive comment encourages reporting workplace misconduct.

Respect personal boundaries on blind dates

Setting boundaries is important. Respect people’s decisions.

Standing up for yourself is always NTA

Supportive comment encourages moving on from toxic relationship

Engaging comment about life and work colleagues.

Being single is awesome ! Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

User shares personal experience and offers sympathy to OP.

User defends OP’s decision to remain single, advises kindness.

Standing up to colleagues who disrespect personal life

NTA, but tactful exit would’ve been courteous

Women struggle with surprise dates, commenter says NTA

Mind your own business, S! NTA stands his ground.

Sympathetic comment calls out S’s evil behavior. NTA wins!

A hopeful comment about destiny and vindication ✔️

Workplace harassment and privacy invasion. Valid reasons for anger.

NTA: Standing up for yourself against toxic colleagues

Encouraging comment, suggests OP needs new friends.

Inappropriate surprise date at work? Report to HR ASAP!

Encouraging response to a disappointing surprise date
