In every family, the division of responsibilities can be a hot topic, but when it involves the care of a special needs child, the stakes are even higher. One man found himself in the middle of a family feud when he refused to increase his share of child care duties until his stepdaughter, who is paid by the state for respite care, steps up her game. His stance has sparked a fiery debate and threatens to tear his family apart. Let’s dive into this intriguing story.
The Family Dynamic
Respite Care: A Blessing or a Curse?
The Stepdaughter’s Role
Night Duty: A 5-Minute Task?
The Rare Night Call
The Dad’s Double Duty
The Wife’s Demand
The Dad’s Counteroffer
The Suggested Shift
The Family Fallout
Clarifying His Stance
No Fraud, Just Disagreement
The Night Shift Debate ⏰
The Hiring Hurdle
The COVID Conundrum
Family Feud Erupts Over Child Care: Who’s in the Right?
A family is torn apart as a father refuses to increase his child care duties until his stepdaughter, who is paid for respite care, does more. Despite his 60-hour work week and additional evening job, his wife demands more help. His counteroffer: he’ll be ‘on call’ at night if the stepdaughter helps more during the day. This has sparked a fiery debate and threatens to end his marriage. As the family navigates this complex issue, the internet weighs in. Let’s see what the world has to say about this family feud…
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Step daughter paid for care, but is she really helping?
“NTA. Need better schedule & equitable division of labor.”
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NTA wife illegally paying daughter for unnecessary work, causing family feud.
NTA – Fire the step daughter and hire a professional!
“NTA I’d suggest hiring someone capable of taking care of your special needs child. It sounds like a rough situation all around that I don’t envy and you sound at your wit’s end. I hope something works out for you.”
Stepdaughter’s lazy behavior sparks family feud over respite care
Engaging comment and replies about respite care and its details
NTA, wife committing fraud. Divorce, get caregiver for child.
NTA for hiring unqualified caregiver, but YTA for not addressing it.
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Complex family dynamics surrounding care of special needs child
Is $10/hr enough for a caretaker? Quarantine concerns complicate matters.
INFO: Family needs reassessment of step-daughter’s hours and parental roles.
NTA: She’s getting paid for a job she isn’t doing
NTA- Caregiving for special needs is like parenting, but harder. Your step daughter is taking money that should be helping your child. If your wife doesn’t agree, request a report on how the money should be used.
ESH, but why does OP keep referring to her as “her daughter”?
NTA, but communication and compromise needed for family harmony.
Caregiver pay debate: qualifications vs. certifications. Who’s right?
Choosing day care over professional care for special needs sibling.
YTA – Angry about step daughter’s overnight care reimbursement
$10 an hour isn’t much, but trust is priceless. Family meeting needed!
Fiery comment sparks family feud over special needs child
INFO: One child needs care, stepdaughter’s hours and rent unclear. Angry communication.
NTA: Working two jobs and still taking care of kids?
NTA, but hiring a professional for $10/hr is unrealistic
Parenting isn’t an on/off switch. Poor kids, no responsibility.
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Understanding the on-call role: YTA for not acknowledging it.
NTA, but maybe consider marriage counseling for a resolution
NTA, wife frustrated with caregiving, communicate and find alternatives.
Hire someone else to care for the special needs child?
Let her be herself! Give her space and freedom.
NTA suggests a better schedule for respite care.
NTA. Helpful tips for finding respite care and sympathizing with OP.
Concerns about legality and job security while caring for a child
Creative solution to provide better care for special needs child
NTA- Paid help needed, stepdaughter not pulling her weight.
Step daughter should help more in caring for special needs child. NTA.
NTA: Wasting care hours? That’s a special needs nightmare!
Husband works two jobs, wife stays at home. NTA!
NTA, but step sibling’s lack of care is concerning
Stepdaughter’s cushy job sparks family feud over child’s care
Wife demands I take care of kids while working, NTA!
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NTA. Wife and step daughter are selfish. You work hard
Cut off respite care? Or change schedule? Engaging discussion on needs.
Step daughter’s work and childcare divide sparks family feud.
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Helping more benefits your children, but is it fair?
NTA: System abuse tears families apart. Advice: work less, save money.
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Stepdaughter should be carer, wife should get job. NTA
Family feud over disabled child’s care: Everyone sucks here
Can you afford to pay more for professional care?
Hiring passionate students can help your special needs child thrive! ✨
NTA, doing the right thing is always worth it! ✨
NTA: Time to fire the SD and hire a pro!
Not the a**hole for caring about special needs child
Fraud accusations fly in family feud over special needs child
Revoking the deal with stepdaughter: legal or not?
OP needs a break! Swap roles for quality family time. #NTA
NTA. Wife manipulating you.
Stepdaughter’s job: NTA, she either wants it or doesn’t ♀️
Step daughter paid but won’t help? Wife wants it all.
NTA: Money matters. Resolving or leaving may be best options.
Step daughter has it pretty sweet, but NTA. Hope it’s resolved
