Imagine helping your sibling through their darkest hour, only to be met with coldness when you need their help. That’s exactly what happened to this 29-year-old man, who chose not to attend his sister’s wedding after she refused to lend him money in his time of need. He had previously paid for her depression treatment, but when he asked her for help, she brushed off his contributions and claimed it was the doctor and medicine that saved her. Let’s dive into this family drama!
The Wedding Dilemma
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A Helping Hand in the Past
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Money Matters
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No Help from Others
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Tables Turned
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Sister’s Shocking Refusal
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A Reminder of the Past ️
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Money Details
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Sister’s Defense ️
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Clarifying His Role ️
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Wedding Boycott
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Sister’s Reaction
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Heated Argument
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The Accusation
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The Fallout
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Family’s Plea
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Standing His Ground
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A Bitter Family Feud
So, our protagonist helped his sister through her depression by paying for her treatment, but when he needed her help, she refused and downplayed his contributions. This led to a heated argument and him ultimately deciding not to attend her wedding. Despite the family’s pleas, he stood his ground and didn’t even congratulate her. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
“You didn’t help me, the doctors and the medicine did, so I don’t owe you anything.”
“You didn’t take me to work daily for a year, your car did, so I don’t owe you anything.”
“You didn’t feed me, the food from the supermarket did, so I don’t owe you anything.”
NTA: When logic goes too far…
NTA. Sister’s ungratefulness after paying for treatment is a nasty move

Sister’s ungratefulness sparks debate: NTA for skipping wedding?

NTA for refusing to attend sister’s wedding, given her ungratefulness

Sister refuses to give money, causing family tension

INFO: The difference between helped and cured is crucial

“NTA. Family helps when family can. Fair question. “

Engaging comment and replies about financial burden and wedding expenses

“How much money did you request? How do you know she could afford that?”

Engaging comment and replies about curing sister’s illness

Did OP manipulate the conversation? Reeks of one-sided storytelling.

Curious about OP’s emergency and sister’s financial priorities

Generosity in the face of life-saving help.

ESH: Sister discredited help, OP dangled it over her head

Did she refuse to help because she couldn’t afford it?

Curious about the spending discrepancy? The numbers might surprise you!

Helping with expectations? YTA or ESH?

OP’s sister may not have been able to afford the wedding

Unpaid loan sparks tension: sister’s wedding vs. repayment plan

Skipping sister’s wedding: NTA, but family dynamics need addressing

Did you claim to cure her depression?
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YTA for calling her ungrateful , emotional blackmail and insufferable
