Picture this: it’s your birthday, and your long-term girlfriend is buzzing with excitement to give you your present. You unwrap it, only to find… driving lessons? Not exactly what you had in mind, especially since you’ve made it clear you have no interest in driving. Cue the drama, right? Let’s dive into this couple’s heated birthday debacle.
The Birthday Boy’s Dilemma
No Need for Wheels
The Unwanted Gift
A Gift for Her or for Him?
The Fallout Begins
The Birthday Boy’s Counteroffer
The Cold Shoulder ❄️
The Solo Trip
The Birthday Boy’s Defense ️
The Girlfriend’s Grievance
The Birthday Boy’s Retort
The Double Standard?
The Final Standoff
Birthday Gift or Battle Royale? The Internet Weighs In
So, there you have it. A birthday gift that was meant to be a surprise turned into a heated argument. The Birthday Boy feels his girlfriend’s gift of driving lessons was more for her benefit than his. He’s adamant he doesn’t need or want to drive, and he’s upset that his girlfriend didn’t consider his feelings. On the other hand, the girlfriend feels her gift was thoughtful and practical, and she’s hurt by his rejection. Now, she’s refusing to drive him anywhere, and their relationship is on rocky ground. So, who’s in the right here? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this birthday blowout…
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“YTA. She’s tired of driving you around. Learn to drive!”
ESH: Commenters share their experiences of being the designated driver
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“You’re the immature one by today’s standards.” – Engaging discussion on car expenses.
YTA: Gift rejection sparks controversy. Is there a deeper issue?
ESH. Girlfriend’s gift sparks controversy: Is it a dealbreaker?
YTA for not driving, she’s tired of being your chauffeur.
“YTA learn how to drive, you never know what will happen in the future – maybe there’s an emergency where you need to drive, maybe the two of you go on a trip to an area where uber service and public transport is limited (is she meant to drive 100% of the time?), maybe you both fall on hard times and catching an uber is not financially viable anymore and it would be cheaper to have a car, etc etc. Regardless, whether you ever have need to do it or not, driving is an extremely valuable skill to have. It was heavy handed to give as a birthday gift, I agree, but it wasn’t thoughtless, and I disagree that it was a bad gift because it’s something that you could use that you wouldn’t have given to yourself”
“My brother played this ‘I don’t want to learn to drive’ bulls**t with his ex-wife. Turned out he just never wanted to be the designated driver. He’s a meth addict now.”
“YTA. Stop depending on her for rides. Pull your own weight.”
INFO: How much do you pay your girlfriend for driving?
ESH: Girlfriend’s gift had selfish motivations, but he rejects it.
“YTA. Refusing to learn to drive? You’re taking her for granted. “
YTA – Learn to drive and support your partner’s needs.
INFO: How much are you spending on daily Uber rides?
Driving skills: a necessity or a luxury?
YTA for rejecting girlfriend’s gift, costing her more than worth
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YTA – Your technicalities and selfishness are ruining your relationship.
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26yr old man can’t drive, sparks controversy. Who’s the villain?
Partner refuses to drive, burdens girlfriend. YTA and terrible.
“NTA, GF’s non-refundable driving lessons for OP: AH move! “
