Imagine being kicked out of your parents’ house the day after your 18th birthday. Homeless and alone, you had to struggle to survive on the streets. Fast forward 10 years, and you’ve built a life for yourself, but you still harbor resentment towards your parents. Now, your dying father wants to see you one last time, but you refuse. Is this man an a**hole, as his family claims? Or is he justified in his decision? Read on to find out.
Why this person cut all ties with their parents
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Kicked out at 18, now refusing to visit dying father
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Homelessness as a young adult – a heartbreaking experience
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Successful despite family issues. Forgiveness not yet found.
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Reconnecting with sick father after years of estrangement ❤️
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Refuses to visit dying father after being kicked out at 18
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Man chooses sanity over meeting dying father after being kicked out.
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Kicked out at 18, man refuses to visit dying father
After being kicked out at 18 and forced to sleep on the streets, a man has refused to visit his sick father who may pass away in the next few days. Despite his family’s request, the man bears a grudge against his father and mother and has no intention of reconciling. Although he understands that his decision may make him seem like an a**hole, he values his own mental well-being over the wishes of a dying man. Read on to find out more about his reasoning and how others are reacting to his decision.
NTA. Commenters support OP’s decision to not visit his dying father.
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NTA. You owe him nothing, not even on his deathbed.
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No visit for estranged dad? NTA. Conscience visit plea dismissed.
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Engage in a little petty revenge? Therapy may be better.
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Cutting ties with family: One Redditor’s perspective. ❌
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Refusing to visit dying father: NTA or selfish?
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No sympathy for an absent father on his deathbed
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Setting boundaries with family can be tough.
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NTA for not visiting dying father, but consider possible closure.
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No obligation to visit estranged father in poor health ♂️
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Family kicked out at 18, refused to visit dying father. NTA.
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Commenter defends person for not visiting toxic father on deathbed
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Struggling with visiting dying father after being kicked out at 18.
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Heartbreaking story of a father who wanted to humiliate his son.
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Choosing not to see dying father after being kicked out. NTA.
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Visiting a dying parent doesn’t excuse past abuse. Stay strong
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Justified response to an absent father.
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Cutting ties with family: NTA comment sparks agreement
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Cutting toxic ties and moving on to a better life. ✌️
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Justified NTA response to being kicked out at 18 ♂️
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Don’t let judgmental family members bring you down.
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Forgiveness is not for everyone. ♂️ NTA for setting boundaries.
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Parents abandoned him, NTA for not visiting dying father. ✨
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Live your best life ✨ You’re not the a**hole.
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Stand your ground. No need to visit an unsupportive parent
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No respect owed. NTA for not visiting dying father.
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Homeless at 18, now refusing to visit dying father. NTA
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Family’s hypocrisy exposed in response to homeless son’s decision.
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No forgiveness. No regrets. The ultimate payback
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Forgiving toxic family members may not be worth it. NTA
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Choosing forgiveness over revenge.
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Prioritizing mental health after abuse.
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Standing up to a bad parent: NTA
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Revenge is not the answer, but writing a letter might be
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Breaking free from toxic parents.
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Homeless man stands up to family, wins internet support
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No sympathy for father who postponed regrets till death bed
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No sympathy for estranged father, commenter stands by their judgement
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Forgiveness denied: Commenter stands firm against dying father’s request
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Heartbreaking story of abandonment by family. Justified resentment towards father.
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Forgiveness denied: A son’s justified anger towards his dying father.
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Mother of 4 offers support to man kicked out at 18 ❤️
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Family’s lack of support makes NTA’s decision understandable
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No obligation to toxic parents. Self-care is important.
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Breaking family ties doesn’t mean you owe them anything
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Deciding whether or not to visit a dying parent. NTA.
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Forgive or confront? NTA seeks advice on seeing dying father
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Heartless parents kick out 18-yo, NTA for cutting ties ❤️
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Starting anew with gratitude
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Self-care first. Don’t let family take your peace. ✌️
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Uncle’s defense of father criticized, NTA for not visiting.
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Heartbreaking story. Commenter sympathizes and says NTA.
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Homeless at 18, now his dying father wants him back? NTA
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Valid reasons to avoid family, but communication is key
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Earned the right to say ‘No’
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Validating the commenter’s feelings. You owe nothing
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Cutting toxic ties for self-preservation: NTA stands up for himself.
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Don’t let guilt trip you, you owe them nothing. #NTA
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Blood isn’t always thicker than water. NTA.
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Cutting ties with a dying parent: justified or heartless? ❌
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Last Updated on April 15, 2023 by Diply Social Team