Life is never simple when it comes to blended families. Our protagonist, let’s call him ‘Dad of Many,’ finds himself in a tricky situation. He’s planned a fun-filled family vacation with his kids and pregnant fiancée, but his ex-wife has a request that’s causing some serious drama. She wants him to take her twin sons from a different relationship along for the ride. The question is, should he? ♂️ Let’s delve into this family saga and see what unfolds.
A Complicated Past

The Strain of Co-Parenting

The Divorce and Aftermath

A New Chapter

Ex-Wife’s New Life

The Vacation Tradition ️

The Unexpected Request

The Fiancée’s Condition

The Argument Ensues

Ex-Wife’s Emotional Plea

The Final Standoff

A Family Vacation Turned Tug-of-War: Who’s in the Right? ️ ♂️
Our ‘Dad of Many’ is in a pickle. He’s planned a vacation with his kids and pregnant fiancée, but his ex-wife wants her twin sons to tag along. She’s single-handedly raising the twins after their father left, and she’s desperate for a break. She argues that he owes her this favor, given their past and her current struggles. But with his hands already full and a heavily pregnant fiancée to consider, he’s standing firm on his decision. The question remains: is he being unfair, or is he just trying to keep his sanity intact? Let’s see what the internet thinks about this family drama…
“NTA. It’s reasonable to say no. Not your obligation. “

NTA. It’s reasonable to refuse taking ex’s kids on vacation.

NTA – Ex-wife projecting her problems. You’re not responsible.

NTA. Not your kids, not your fault. Offer alternative outings.

NTA: Hilarious comment turns vacation debate into a comedy show!

NTA: Ex-wife’s surprise and circumstances don’t justify her expectations.

NTA- You’re not responsible for your ex-wife’s kids.

NTA: Ex-wife’s guilt trip is manipulative and misguided. Not your problem.

NTA: Taking care of your own kids, not your responsibility.

NTA for not wanting to take ex-wife’s kids on vacation

Struggling mom blames stepson, but is she really justified?
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“NTA – It’s not your responsibility to take her kids on vacation.”

Not your kids, not your problem. ♂️ Adding more chaos?

NTA: Ex-wife’s poor choices shouldn’t burden you. Stand your ground!

Heartless ex-wife rejects son. Commenters agree.

NTA. Not your kids, not your responsibility. ♂️

NTA – Ex-wife manipulates for vacation, prioritize pregnant fiancée. Ridiculous request.

Setting boundaries with your ex: NTA and avoiding guilt trips

NTA. You’re not responsible for your ex’s kids. Stand your ground!

NTA: Ex-wife’s choices, not yours. Not your responsibility.

NTA: Ex-wife’s inability to accept your child, not your problem

Not your problem, NTA.

NTA. Ex-wife blaming you for her poor choices. Not your problem.

NTA: Ex-wife’s problems are not yours, set boundaries and prioritize self-care

NTA – Ex-wife blames you for her own choices. Stay strong!

Ex-wife wants kids on vacation, but NTA says she can handle it

NTA: Prioritizing your own well-being and relationship is completely justifiable.

NTA. Stick to your guns and prioritize your own family.

NTA: Ex-wife’s responsibility to find childcare, not yours.

NTA: Not your responsibility. Complicated lines, best to not blur.
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“NTA: Taking someone else’s kids on vacation? No thanks! “

NTA: Fairness in parenting responsibilities questioned. Would she reciprocate?

“NTA. She has another family, you have another family. So why is she expecting this from you?”

NTA. Twins have grandparents. Not your problem.

Ex-wife blames him for breakup, NTA for refusing vacation.
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NTA, but maybe consider a vasectomy?

ESH – Irresponsibility all around. The kids will suffer

Ex-wife’s kids: NTA, she’s selfish. Karma’s a b***h

NTA. Ex-wife’s entitlement and blame game is unjustified. Stand firm!

NTA. Protect yourself and prioritize your own family’s well-being.

NTA: Ex-wife’s vacation request is unreasonable. Take care of yourself!

NTA: Stand your ground and don’t let her play victim.

NTA. You’re not obligated to take your ex’s kids on vacation.

No obligation to take ex’s kids on vacation. NTA!

“INFO: Why is she putting this pressure on you specifically? Does she not have family or friends who can help her out? Seems a bit much to ask you to take on two young children you don’t know well… I don’t think you’re the a**hole, but I sympathize with how exhausted she must be.”

Ex refusing to take kids on vacation. Fair or not?

Not the a**hole: Taking a stand or being selfish?
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NTA. No obligation to take her kids on vacation.
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Ex-wife wants him to double dip as a stand-in dad? NTA!
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Not your kids, not your problem.

Ex-wife blames OP for her own mistakes, but may need help

NTA. Taking 5 kids on vacation? That’s too much stress!

NTA. Taking extra kids on vacation is logistically and emotionally draining. Offer sleepovers instead.

NTA. You’re not obligated to take her kids on vacation. ♂️

NTA. Prioritizing your own family is understandable and commendable!

NTA: Taking a stand or just being heartless?

NTA: Ex-wife should handle her own childcare and vacation plans.

Ex-wife’s bad decisions, not your responsibility. NTA.

NTA. Not your circus, not your monkeys.
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NTA: Ex-wife’s entitlement and victim mentality. Stand your ground!

Ex-wife blames him for failed marriage, but he’s not responsible.
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NTA: Ex-wife needs to cool her jets and stop blaming you.

NTA: Taking someone else’s 4-year-old twins on vacation? No way!

NTA: Ex-wife’s entitlement pushes you away from helping her.

NTA: You had 0% participation in her twins existing

NTA. Not your kids, not your problem. Stay strong!

Ex-husband not responsible for ex-wife’s post-breakup pregnancy.

Not your circus, not your monkeys, not your problem.

NTA. Ex-wife’s kids, not your responsibility. Therapy could’ve helped.

Ex-wife expects too much from fiancé. NTA.

NTA: Not responsible for someone else’s choices.
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NTA. Your breakup was due to her hang-ups. Stick to your guns.

Ex-wife blames you for relationship falling apart, but wants your help? NTA!

NTA- Ex-wife’s decisions, not yours. You’re responsible for your own kids.

NTA: Ex-wife’s choice to be depressed led to divorce.

NTA, but siblings missing on vacation. Can ex-wife join?

NTA: Taking a stand or just being heartless?

Not the a**hole. Stand your ground and prioritize your own happiness.

NTA. Life happens. You didn’t turn her world upside down.

Ex-wife’s kids, ex-wife’s responsibility. Enjoy your vacation!
