Meet our protagonist, a 37-year-old man in a relationship with a mid-40s woman named Amy. Amy has a 17-year-old daughter, Jess. One weekend, Jess asked our protagonist for a ride to a school event. He agreed, but things took a turn for the worse when Jess jokingly called him a “creepy stepdad” in front of her friends. Offended and hurt, he decided not to pick her up after the event. Was he in the wrong? Let’s dive into the story.
The Ride to School
The Joke That Started It All
Feeling Uncomfortable
The Decision to Leave Her Behind
Texting Jess
The Excuse
Amy Gets Involved
The Argument Escalates
Amy’s Furious Return
Touchy Subject
Cold Response ❄️
The Aftermath
Setting Boundaries ⏰
Staying Firm
The Fallout: Was He Justified?
Our protagonist was left feeling disrespected and hurt after Jess’s joke, leading him to decide not to pick her up after the event. This caused a heated argument between him and Amy, with Amy even driving on a suspended license to pick up Jess. In the end, he decided that Amy and Jess need to leave his residence due to this incident and other issues. But was his decision fair? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
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Teens can be childish, but adults should keep their promises ♂️
Dating someone who lies about age? ESH, but be kind.
Teenage stepdaughter’s comments were unnecessary, but OP overreacted. ESH.
Age and license issues in a questionable relationship.
Refusing to pick up girlfriend’s daughter after disrespectful comment. NTA.
NTA refuses to pick up disrespectful girlfriend’s daughter. No license, no car.
Man excluded himself from girlfriend’s daughter after being called creepy
Being single is better than a toxic relationship. NTA
Red flags in the relationship. Reevaluate before committing further.
User refuses to pick up girlfriend’s daughter and gets called a vile term. Replies agree with the decision.
ESH in this situation, but communication could have resolved it
Beware of partners hiding their age, it’s a red flag.
ESH. All parties need to mature and communicate better ♂️
Stepdaughter’s creepy comment justifies man’s refusal to pick her up
NTA, girlfriend’s behavior is concerning. Have a heart-to-heart.
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Dump her? Harsh, but maybe necessary for respect.
Being called creepy is a red flag. Troublesome situation ahead
NTA, but commenter advises leaving toxic relationship and giving ultimatum.
Stepdad not wrong for refusing to pick up girlfriend’s daughter.
Man chooses drinking over responsibility, gets called out for it
NTA. Commenter calls out toxic relationship and supports OP’s decision.
Setting boundaries with children is important. NTA for enforcing them.
Communication is key in any relationship, even uncomfortable topics
Explain the insult to your girlfriend, NTA for setting boundaries
ESH. The commenter suggests a better course of action with detailed steps.
Man refuses to pick up girlfriend’s daughter. NTA, suggests breaking up.
User advises to break up with girlfriend and her daughter.
Rescinding ride offer after dropping someone off is a**hole move
User advises to end the messy relationship due to red flags
Man refuses to pick up girlfriend’s daughter, called YTA for breaking pre-agreed responsibility.
Red flag? Commenter questions girlfriend’s honesty about age
Partner’s sketchy behavior raises red flags, unclear if OP is TA.
Age is just a number, but honesty is key
ESH for being immature and callous, toxic situation overall
Girlfriend’s daughter made hurtful comments, man refuses to pick up.
Curiosity arises about the 17 y.o.’s true intentions
User suggests a solution for a complicated family situation.
Setting boundaries after being called ‘creepy’ while helping out
Offering a ride but leaving a minor stranded is dangerous
ESH. The relationship is going nowhere good
User questions the relationship, advises to wake up. NTA.
Don’t be a sh*t and expect favors. Relationship red flag
Don’t be TA! Understanding teens is key
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Stepdad’s traumatic experience justifies man’s decision to avoid girlfriend’s daughter
NTA stands up for himself against disrespectful girlfriend and her daughter.
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Refusing to pick up girlfriend’s daughter makes him YTA
Don’t be an a**hole, keep your promises to minors
NTA, but age confusion and ‘creepy stepdad’ comment raises concerns
17-year-old daughter needs a ride, but boyfriend not obligated.
Dating less than a year, refusing to pick up GF’s kid
Stepdaughter’s behavior was inappropriate. Communication is key to resolve issues.
Navigating step-parenting boundaries, NTA for setting limits.
Should he let his girlfriend go instead?
Red flags galore! GTFO while you still can.
NTA. Boyfriend refuses to pick up girlfriend’s daughter. Explanation provided.
ESH in a messy situation involving a 17-year-old and transportation
Toxic relationship with immature girlfriend and insulting daughter
Age secrecy and toxicity call for relationship’s end
GF says she’s trapped, ESH. Relationship doomed
Mixed opinions on whether OP should have picked up girlfriend’s daughter
Setting boundaries with partner’s child. Don’t give in!
Standing up for yourself in a relationship
NTA- Man avoids potential false accusations, good riddance to toxic duo.
Teenager, girlfriend, and driver all rude and careless. ESH
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Relationship has red flags, age unknown, ESH for behavior.
NTA. Boyfriend concerned about relationship dynamics and car theft.
Be the bigger person and communicate respectfully with the child
Partner’s lack of basic information raises red flags. NTA.
Dating someone who withholds age, daughter upset, red flags
User calls out Amy and daughter, declares NTA
Refusing to pick up girlfriend’s daughter makes him YTA
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YTA for leaving girlfriend’s daughter stranded over a joke
Man refuses to pick up girlfriend’s daughter, gets called out. YTA.
Toxic relationship and damaging rumors. Get out of there!
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Adult man refuses to pick up girlfriend’s 17yo daughter. Commenter calls him out.
NTA for refusing to pick up girlfriend’s daughter. End relationship.
Harsh comment suggests dumping girlfriend and finding younger woman
NTA. Is it time to reconsider this toxic relationship?
Teenagers can be selfish, but girlfriend’s behavior is unacceptable.
NTA for not picking up daughter, but everyone else is
Age secrecy and odd behavior raise red flags. NTA for refusing.
