Imagine growing up in foster homes, overcoming the odds, and building a happy life for yourself. Then, out of the blue, your biological family comes knocking, wanting to be a part of your life. This 25-year-old man faced that exact situation, and his response was a simple ‘No thanks.’ But his biological family didn’t take it well, and now he’s left wondering if he’s in the wrong. Let’s dive into this intriguing story.
The Unexpected Message
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Introducing the ‘Siblings’
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A Simple Response: ‘No Thanks’
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The ‘Siblings’ Strike Back ⚡
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Blocking and More Blocking
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A Life Disrupted: Was He Right to Say No?
This 25-year-old man’s life was disrupted when his biological family reached out, wanting to reconnect. After sending a simple ‘No thanks’ and asking not to be contacted, he found himself bombarded with messages from his so-called ‘siblings’ and their friends. He’s now left questioning if he’s the bad guy in this situation. What do you think? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this emotional rollercoaster.
NTA. Your life, your decision. They gave up all rights.
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Standing up to manipulative bio-family. NTA
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Adopted man refuses to meet bio-family, justified.
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Family guilt-tripping? Definitely NTA
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Birth parents feel guilty, but OP is NTA for refusing.
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Boundaries set. Family’s past actions justify no contact.
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Adoptive parents can lose custody like bio parents. NTA for questioning.
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Setting boundaries and staying strong.
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NTA’s decision respected, bio-family being unreasonable and disrespectful
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NAH for not wanting to meet bio-family, but kindness is appreciated
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Adopted person finds bio-family, but they don’t want a relationship. NTA.
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Bio-family demands ignored: NTA stands up for themselves
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Donor match or not, refusing to meet family seems harsh ♂️
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Self-care first: NTA chooses not to meet bio-family
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A cynical comment with no replies.
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Adoptee shares experience waiting to meet bio family. Personal choice.
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Cutting off bio-family: justified or heartless? NTA explains.
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NTA. Commenter and reply agree that bio-family is pushy.
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Adopted person defends their decision to not meet bio-family.
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Adopted person refuses to meet bio-family, shares experience and supports OP.
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No obligation to meet bio-family. NTA.
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Boundaries respected: NTA for refusing contact with bio-family.
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NTA refuses to meet bio-family, shady tactics suspected
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Setting boundaries is important, NTA.
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Respectful choice: Man declines meeting bio-family. NTA.
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Saying no to family? ♂️ NTA explains why it’s justified.
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Don’t burn bridges with bio-family, but NTA for not meeting.
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Choosing not to meet bio-family: justified or heartless?
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Family reunion? Not obligated. NTA says it all.
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Family harassment? NTA for refusing to meet bio-family
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NTA. Adoption advice: reach out to agency, keep records.
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Choosing family or not? NTA stands by their decision.
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No obligation to meet bio-family, but medical history important
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Meeting bio-family not a priority, NTA.
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Family reunion gone wrong? NTA refuses to meet bio-family
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Family pressure? Ask for money and they’ll back off.
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Boundaries are important. NTA for setting them.
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Don’t let them bring you down. NTA.
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Handled well!
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Bio-family from 25 years ago wants to meet, NTA for refusing. Consider medical info though
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Rejecting bio-family’s request: NTA or heartless? ♂️
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Protect your mental health, you owe them nothing.
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Bio-family reached out, OP declined. NTA.
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Similar situation: NTA for being honest with bio-family.
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A plea for help: Can someone donate a kidney?
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Not the a**hole! Let’s hear more from this commenter.
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Respect boundaries: NTA for not wanting to meet bio-family
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Setting boundaries: When ‘no’ means ‘no’
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Bio-parents have no right to pressure you. NTA
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Commenter not at fault, but where’s the backstory?
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Adoptee chooses not to meet bio-family, justified decision.
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Choosing not to meet bio-family: Self-care or selfishness?
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Consent is key. No explanation necessary. NTA
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Choosing family is about love, not DNA.
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Blocking bio-family on social media: NTA, it’s harassment
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Don’t let guilt-tripping family dictate your happiness. NTA
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Commenter questions motives behind family reunion, calls out entitlement.
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Protect your privacy on social media with verified friends only
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Adopted person sets boundaries with bio-family. NTA
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Cutting ties with bio-family: NTA, start fresh, legal action?
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Family wants to meet after years of no contact, but NTA refuses. Boundaries or heartless?
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OP is skeptical of bio-family’s intentions, NTA.
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Family harasses man to meet, he’s NTA for refusing
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Last Updated on May 16, 2023 by Diply Social Team