Picture this: your brother-in-law has never held down a job, lived with his mother his whole life, and now he’s asking to move in with you and your family. What would you do? One man faced this dilemma and decided to put his foot down, refusing to let his unemployed brother-in-law move in. But with the family member now facing potential homelessness, the question remains: is he being heartless or simply protecting his family? Let’s dive into the story and find out.
The Brother-in-Law’s Situation
Mother-in-Law’s Decision
No One Wants Him
The Bold Request
The Reasoning Behind the Refusal
The Angry Response
The Truth About the Room
Attempts to Help
The Apologetic Texts
Couch Surfing and Family’s Stance ️
Family’s Prediction ️
The Bed He Made? ️
The Couple’s Stance
The Ultimate Dilemma: Family Loyalty vs. Personal Boundaries
So, this man and his wife face a difficult situation: should they let their unemployed brother-in-law move in, or stand their ground and protect their family’s well-being? While they’ve tried to help him in the past, his lack of effort and entitled attitude have left them unwilling to budge. Now, with the brother-in-law couch surfing and the family predicting he’ll be homeless soon, it’s a moral dilemma that’s sure to spark heated debates. What do you think? Are they heartless for not letting him in, or should they prioritize their own family’s needs? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
Hold your ground, NTA. He made his bed, let him lie.
NTA for refusing to house unemployed brother-in-law. He needs motivation
NTA – Brother-in-law’s responsibility lies with his parents, not you. ♀️
NTA for refusing to house entitled and r**e brother-in-law.
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NTA refuses to house brother-in-law after 14 years rent-free
From unemployed to hotel manager: inspiring story of self-improvement
BIL needs to take responsibility for his life.
NTA. Commenters agree that BIL needs to get a job.
NTA. The brother-in-law’s reaction shows why he shouldn’t move in
Teaching responsibility to family can be heartbreaking.
Don’t let family guilt you into housing them. NTA
Commenters agree: unemployed brother-in-law won’t leave. NTA.
NTA. BIL is lazy and entitled. Don’t enable his behavior
Unemployment benefits in NZ don’t require consistent job history
NTA. Refusing to house an unemployed brother-in-law with erratic behavior and potential danger to a child. Similar family experiences shared.
NTA for refusing to house unemployed brother-in-law, AH are mother and brother-in-law.
Sibling refuses to house jobless brother-in-law: reasonable or heartless?
NTA for refusing to house unemployed brother-in-law. Unemployment system differs.
NTA. You’ve done everything you can. Don’t enable him.
Unemployed for 14 years? Professional leech. NTA, hold ground.
NTA refuses to house unemployed brother-in-law, sparks debate.
NTA for refusing to house entitled, unemployed brother-in-law
No sympathy for lazy brother-in-law. NTA
BIL is an alcoholic, jobless, and always scheming. NTA for refusing.
BIL called a parasite, commenter says NTA.
NTA, but family should still help each other out
NTA. Commenter points out manipulative behavior and lack of independence.
Clear NTA verdict with no further discussion
NTA. You don’t owe anyone a free handout
NTA, you worked hard for your home and owe him nothing.
BIL needs to learn some tough life lessons. NTA!
Family enabling unemployment? NTA tries to avoid homelessness.
Sibling loyalty prevails: Wife not falling for brother’s manipulation.
Don’t be a pet leach owner! NTA for setting boundaries.
Letting him sink or swim is the best way to help.
Family feud: NTA comment sparks drama with no replies.
Supporting unemployed brother-in-law: obligation or not? NTA says no.
Setting boundaries with family. NTA, tough love needed.
NTA. Tough love may be the push he needs.
NTA. Avoiding a potential burden on oneself
Misunderstanding aside, brother-in-law’s situation justifies man’s refusal.
Brother-in-law is entitled, but mom may also be an AH
NTA commenter suggests alternative ways to help unemployed brother-in-law.
Unemployed brother-in-law won’t change, NTA for not housing.
Woman shares experience of being taken advantage of by unemployed BIL
NTA refuses to enable brother-in-law’s couch surfing lifestyle.
Not the a**hole: Entitlement is out of control.
NTA refuses to house unemployed brother-in-law. Tough love?
NTA, protecting your child and home comes first
Don’t let him move in. NTA
NTA, but maybe suggest charities for brother-in-law’s life skills
NTA – Sometimes tough love is the only option
NTA. Hilarious and savage way to put it.
Friends suggest housing brother-in-law, but NTA stands firm.
Commenter asks for more information about brother-in-law’s situation. Replies reveal he receives government support and lives with his mother.
Don’t let him live with you or give him money.
Mom’s fault? NTA thinks so. Unemployed for 14 years? ♂️
Entitled brother-in-law won’t leave. NTA for refusing to house.
Unemployed brother-in-law overstaying welcome? NTA made right call.
Commenter expresses sympathy for BIL and suggests therapy options.
Compassionate suggestion to help brother-in-law without housing him.
Entitled brother-in-law called a leech, NTA for refusing.
Commenter jokes about 14 years of unemployment, no replies.
Living rent-free with conditions is fair. Enabling leach-like behavior? Not.
NTA’s uncle overstayed his welcome for 30 years
Sibling warns against housing lazy, entitled brother-in-law. NTA
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Brother-in-law asked rudely, NTA for refusing to house him.
Commenter explains why enabling is not the solution
Compassionate advice on housing unemployed family member.
Last Updated on June 4, 2023 by Diply Social Team
