Imagine being in a sexless marriage for years, with intimacy only happening a few times annually. One man in his 30s is facing this exact situation. His wife blames her antidepressants and medicinal marijuana for her lack of desire, leaving him feeling increasingly emotionally detached. He’s tried to be supportive, but the frustration is building up. The only time his wife seems interested in intimacy is at weddings, and they’re attending one this weekend. However, he’s considering turning down her advances this time, knowing it will hurt her self-esteem. Is he justified in his decision? Let’s dive into the story.
A Sexless Marriage

Frustration and Resentment

Fantasies and Temptations

Wedding Quickies

A Bold Decision

The Consequences

Clarification ️

Emotions and Motives

A Change of Heart?

The Dilemma

Second Thoughts

The Final Decision

Resentment and Needs ️

Irrational Thoughts

The Root of the Problem

Seeking Help

A Tough Choice: Rejecting Intimacy or Staying Silent
This man has been struggling with a sexless marriage for years, and he’s reached his breaking point. With a wedding coming up, he knows his wife will likely initiate intimacy, but he’s considering turning her down to finally express his frustration. After receiving advice from others, he decides to accept her advances if they happen, but he acknowledges his resentment and the need to address the issue head-on. He plans to suggest counseling after the wedding, hoping to improve communication and work on their relationship. Will this decision help or hurt their marriage? Only time will tell.
Suggests counseling and hormone modification to solve intimacy issues.

Spicing up the wedding night or just the risk?

Consent is important, regardless of gender. ✌️

Struggling with intimacy in marriage, seeking advice on coping mechanisms.

User advises to have a serious conversation about intimacy issues

User advises man to end incompatible relationship and move on.

Spouse’s medication affecting s*x life, toys added for intimacy. Encourages communication.

User advises seeking therapy or ending unhappy marriage

NTA commenter defends OP’s right to refuse s*x with wife.
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User questions wife’s s*x drive during weddings due to medication use.

NTA spouse seeks medical help for wife’s lack of s*x drive

User shares personal experience of lack of intimacy in marriage.

Incompatible sexual desire can ruin relationships. End it early.

Prioritizing one’s own needs is important in a relationship. ❤️

Exploring the difference between thrill-seeking and emotional s*x

Refusing s*x as retaliation is unhealthy. Counseling may help.

NTA. A thoughtful response to partner’s situational s*x drive.

Communication is key for a successful marriage.

Working on being the best partner helped our intimacy

NTA if you don’t want intimacy at wedding, communicate instead

Prioritize mental health, not revenge. Seek therapy

Couple seeks therapy to maintain intimacy despite medication side effects

Wife’s low libido is not an excuse to neglect her partner.

A husband shares his experience with his wife’s antidepressants.

Choosing spite over love can only make things worse

Empathetic comment offers hope and advice for struggling relationship.

Choosing to play games in marriage is not mature

Curious commenter raises valid questions about the relationship.

User argues for importance of s*x in relationships and communication.

Rejecting advances at wedding: emotional connection > quickie

Suggests taking wife on more dates to avoid rejecting advances

Don’t let past refusals damage your relationship.

Planning to reject wife’s advances at wedding? YTA, Babydoll.

Medical marijuana may not affect libido like antidepressants. Couple’s counseling recommended. NTA

Antidepressants and s*x: a personal experience and advice for couples therapy

Addressing love languages could improve the dynamic and increase intimacy

Consider therapy before rejecting advances to avoid divorce.

Don’t be a j*****s on purpose to teach a lesson

Fixing low libido is important for a healthy relationship

Importance of mutual consent and therapy for sexual issues.

Choosing self-happiness over a toxic relationship

User suggests therapy and communication before wedding to prevent resentment

User calls out groom for immature plan to reject wife’s advances

Planning to reject wife at wedding? YTA according to comment.

Planning to reject advances to hurt spouse makes YTA.

Rejecting wife’s advances at wedding: consequences for s*x life?

YTA for intentionally hurting your wife. Counseling is needed.

Rejecting wife’s advances as revenge makes you TA! Try foreplay

LL spouse offers advice on intimacy and communication in marriage

Consent is important, but is revenge a motive for refusal?

Engage in open communication and respect each other’s desires.

Wife’s low libido may be due to hormonal imbalance. Check it!

Partner’s medication affecting intimacy, NTA for setting boundaries.

NTA for feeling upset, but denying advances won’t solve anything ️. Couples therapy recommended.

Honesty is key, even if it’s not what she wants.

Suggests counseling to address resentment affecting intimacy in marriage.

Rejecting advances out of pettiness is childish. Communicate like adults. NTA.

Communication and therapy might help, don’t be an a**hole

Counseling may help resolve complex emotions and neglected intimacy issues.

S*x isn’t the only way to maintain emotional closeness in marriage.

A commenter shares their experience and advises compassion in relationships.

Weddings shouldn’t be the only source of excitement

ESH. Communication and counseling can help resolve sexual issues in relationships.

Communication is key. Discussing issues before the wedding is crucial.

Communicate openly with your wife and suggest going to a therapist.

Petty payback or not, resentment has ruined this marriage.

Man plans to reject wife’s advances, but is called YTA.

Suggests seeking help from Jesus to improve marriage.

Turning down advances out of spite is gross and YTA.

Suggestion for counseling and addressing intimacy issues in marriage.

Delta 8 gummies saved their s*x life despite medication side effects

Wellbutrin may help with low s*x drive caused by SSRIs

Negotiating s*x in a marriage: NTA for setting boundaries

Overcoming low s*x drive from anxiety meds with medical help

Changing medication is tough, support your partner through it ♡♡♡

Anti-depressants killed o****m, but rejecting wife won’t fix anything

Sexless marriage due to wife’s health issues feels like death.

Ways to tackle sexual dysfunction due to medication discussed.

User advises OP to not waste best years with wife.

NTA. It’s a real double standard to live with.

Last Updated on February 24, 2024 by Diply Social Team