Imagine having a peaceful family dinner, only for it to turn into a heated argument over who should be cooking. That’s exactly what happened to this 27-year-old man and his wife when his mother decided to scold her daughter-in-law for not taking on the cooking duties. The husband, who had been happily cooking for his family, stepped in to defend his wife, but things quickly escalated.
The Happy Couple’s Arrangement ️

Wife’s Cooking Dilemma

A Fair Solution

Family Dinner Time ️

Mom’s Shocking Reaction

The Argument Begins

Old-Fashioned Views

Wife Fights Back

Husband Steps In ️

Mom’s Justification

The Explosive Moment

Family Fallout ️

Dad’s Mixed Response

Wife’s Suggestion ️

Seeking Judgment

A Clash of Generations and Values
This young couple found themselves in the middle of a heated family argument when the husband’s mother criticized their cooking arrangement. Despite both husband and wife being happy with their agreement, the mother’s outdated views caused a rift in the family. The husband took a stand, telling his mother to get the h*ll out, but now faces backlash from his parents. Was he too harsh, or was he justified in defending his wife? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Defending wife’s cooking duties causes family feud. NTA wins.

Mom overlooks that it’s not her marriage. NTA
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Supportive comment and friendly reply about age and criticism absence
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NTA for rejecting gender roles and standing up for wife

Discussion on cultural norms and age of marriage, NTA.

NTA. Marriage is a partnership. Defend your choices

NTA stands up for wife against mother’s sexist views.

NTA for standing up to mom’s opinions on wife’s duties

Defending wife’s cooking leads to family feud. NTA wins.

Defending wife leads to escalated argument with mom. Apology suggested.

Putting family first

Gender bias in cooking roles. NTA for defending husband’s cooking.

Standing up for spouse, but watch the language with mom
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Cooking conflict resolved. Mom needs to apologize. NTA

Proud Chinese American mom supports son’s cooking skills

Setting Boundaries with Older Asian Women

NTA. Mom owes apology for disrespecting you and your wife

Breaking gender stereotypes in marriage. NTA for finding solutions.

Don’t apologize to a misogynist.
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Fair division of labor, NTA for kicking out mom

NTA. Couples should figure out a cooking system that works for them

Fair system and responsible resolution. Stand your ground!
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Setting boundaries and apologizing can repair family relationships

NTA commenter suggests a non-apology to traditional mom

NTA. Wife scolded by mother-in-law for cooking, husband defends her

Supportive comment and relatable reply from fellow Canadian couple

NTA. Good on you for standing up for your wife

Breaking gender stereotypes and standing up for your partner

Equal partnership in marriage, not slavery. NTA
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Defending wife’s cooking, NTA calls out mom’s overstepping boundaries.
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Agreement with spouse > Mom’s opinion. NTA

Stand your ground and let them move forward without you!

Gender should not determine cooking duties. NTA wins.

Fair division of household duties, worked for them

Defending wife’s cooking duties, NTA. Mum can pound sand.

Defend your wife, apologize to mom for harsh words only

Supportive comment encourages not apologizing and offers helpful subreddit.

Gender roles in cooking questioned. NTA for standing up.

Standing up for wife’s cooking duties, apologizes for language used.

NTA kicks out mom for scolding wife over cooking duties

Cooking duties and happy marriage: who cares what others think?

Marriage is a partnership, not a master-slave relationship

Breaking gender roles: advice for dealing with traditional family members

Defending spouse’s cooking duties, NTA suggests apology for yelling.

NTA for kicking out mom over cooking duties argument

NTA for standing up to mom’s misogynistic views

Defending spouse is important, but was kicking out mom necessary?

Defended wife, but apologized for swearing at mom. Good advice.

NTA but apologize for swearing, hold firm boundary with mom

Cultural differences cause tension between son, wife, and mother.

Defending spouse against mom, NTA but swearing not necessary

Asian family dynamics strike again. NTA for standing up.

Mom thinks wife is a slave, commenter calls out toxicity. NTA

Supportive comment applauds OP for standing up against sexism.

NTA and commended for standing up for wife’s cooking duties . Curious about mother’s role in marriage

NTA for standing up to mom’s sexist comment

Empowering response to internalized misogyny in Asian communities

Supportive comment defends wife’s cooking duties, calls out mom’s behavior

Building on each other’s strengths is key to successful marriages

Cooking together is a fun experience

Finding balance in household chores is important

Defending spouse from mom’s cooking duties, NTA reigns supreme!

NTA for standing up for family, but consider apologizing for language

Defending spouse in cooking feud earns NTA commenter praise

Stand up for your spouse! NTA.

Supporting spouse against internalized cultural/sexist beliefs. NTA

Commenter defends NTA’s wife’s cooking abilities, sparks supportive reply.

Defending wife is good, but insulting mom is not justified

Last Updated on June 20, 2023 by Diply Social Team