Picture this: you’re in a relationship and struggling financially. Your partner loses their job, but quickly finds a new one with a lower salary. You start paying half the rent and tensions rise. Arguments become the norm. Then, your partner gets a promotion that could solve your financial problems… but they keep it a secret. That’s exactly what happened to Kate (25F) and her now ex-boyfriend (26M). Let’s dive into this rollercoaster of a story.
The Good Old Days

Spoiling Kate

Starting from Scratch

Sharing the Burden

Tensions Rise

The Secret Promotion

Testing Kate’s Behavior

The Breakup

Kate’s Meltdown

Was He in the Wrong?
So, our protagonist decided to keep his promotion a secret, testing Kate’s behavior during tough times. As the arguments escalated, he ended the relationship, leaving Kate in the dark about his financial improvement. When she finally found out, she had a meltdown, accusing him of never loving her and letting finances ruin their relationship. But was he really in the wrong for keeping his promotion a secret? Or was it a justified test of character? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Financial disagreements lead to relationship breakdown. NTA or ESH?

NTA. Commenter suggests ex-girlfriend was a gold digger ♂️

Dodged a bullet . Honesty not always the best policy .

Financial strain on girlfriend may change judgement on OP’s actions
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Financial expectations change, but hiding promotion is a red flag ESH

Partner only loved OP for money, NTA for hiding promotion

ESH. OP’s lying to test partner’s loyalty is toxic. GF s***s for making finances central to relationship.

NTA for hiding promotion from girlfriend, good call to end relationship

NTA. Relationship requires handling ups and downs.

Dodging crazy pants NTA wins the breakup
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Financial stress can strain any relationship. ESH for ‘testing’ her.

NTA and dodged a bullet

Choosing career over girlfriend: NTA, bro sets priorities straight

Living expenses and financial burden cause relationship woes. ESH.

Stand your ground king . Don’t let her use you.

Financial stress causes tension, but testing her was cruel

ESH for hiding promotion, but also communication and financial issues

Commenter defends OP and insults ex-girlfriend.

Partner hiding promotion exposes financial incompatibility. NTA.

Commenter defends man’s decision to hide promotion, celebrates breakup

Dodging a bullet NTA for leaving her meltdown

Financial strain leads to relationship downfall

Partner lost job, paid half rent, NTA for hiding promotion.

Cheers to the not-the-a**hole guy

Promotion ended relationship, commenter glad it wasn’t revealed

Dodging bullets like Neo in the Matrix. NTA wins!

NTA. Relationship is a two-way street. She wanted to take more.

Dodged a bullet! NTA for hiding promotion from ex-girlfriend

Money over love? Commenter calls out ex’s true motives

Ending things with girlfriend after promotion: NTA, bad attitude

NTA. Partner should support during hard times.
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Dodged a bullet NTA, good call on ending it

Relationship ends after promotion hidden from girlfriend. NTA wins.
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Supportive comment calls out girlfriend’s behavior, encourages moving on

Breaking up was the right choice, NTA
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Money can’t buy love, but it can reveal true intentions

Lucky escape for OP from a financially incompatible relationship

Commenter questions if girlfriend’s reaction was justified, seeks clarification

Financial stress caused girlfriend to snap, but was it justified?

Doubts raised about the feasibility of affording rent alone.

Paying for most expenses doesn’t guarantee a happy relationship

Short and sweet: Not the a**hole!
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Partner wanted provider, not partner. NTA for hiding promotion.

NTA for hiding promotion from girlfriend. Agree or disagree?

NTA. Ex-girlfriend was a fair weather friend , better to find out now.

Movie reference approves of NTA’s decision.

Maya Angelou would approve of this NTA clapback

Dodging a bullet! NTA gets support for hiding promotion

Choosing a partner based solely on financial status is wrong

NTA. The girlfriend’s true nature revealed.

Take responsibility for your own adulting

NTA. Find someone who’s with you for *you* and not your money
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NTA commenter discusses financial dynamics and love in relationships

Love should not be based on income.

Partner wants free ride, gets upset when life happens. NTA

Supportive partner is key. NTA.

NTA. Money isn’t everything. True love > materialism. ❤️

Partner upset over lost income, not lost love. NTA.

Girlfriend blames OP for job loss, he’s NTA for leaving.

Commenter thinks man is not the a**hole

Breaking up over promotion and unsupportive partner. NTA

NTA. Relationship is about teamwork. Good on you for leaving.

Commenter asks for more context on financial situation

User criticizes financial expectations in relationships.

Commenter defends man’s decision, Kanye approves

Choosing to observe and realizing her materialistic behavior. #NTA

The timing of the promotion and breakup is crucial

Both sides failed to communicate and work on the relationship ♂️ ♀️

NTA. Brutal honesty reveals her lack of love and responsibility.

Fairness in relationships is key. NTA wins this round!

Short and savage. NTA gets the last laugh

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Money can’t buy love

Money can’t buy love, but it can end a relationship

NTA. Harsh but fair.

Money can’t buy love, NTA dodged a gold-digger

Last Updated on June 19, 2023 by Diply Social Team