Brace yourselves for a tale of conflict, drama, and moral ambiguity that will leave you questioning where you stand. Meet our main characters: a new mom, six months postpartum, and her boyfriend, who’s grown frustrated with the frequent medical visits and the bills that come with them. Is he justified in his frustration or is he missing the mark? Let’s delve into their story…
New Mom, Frequent Doctor Visits ⚕️

Boyfriend’s Frustration Begins to Surface

Medical Concerns or Overreactions?

Doctors’ Reassurances Fall on Deaf Ears

Lactation Consultant Joins the Fray

Financial Strains Add to the Tension

Boyfriend’s Patience Reaches Its Limit

The Final Straw

Is He the Villain or Just a Frustrated Boyfriend? ♂️
So there you have it, folks. A tale of a new mom, her numerous postnatal checkups, and a boyfriend who’s had enough of footing the bills. He’s heard the doctors’ reassurances, he’s seen her quit her job due to back pain, and he’s tired of the constant medical visits. But is he justified in his frustration or is he lacking empathy for his girlfriend’s postnatal struggles? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this…
“Wtf is that comment about ‘it’s normal for urine to be red on your period’. No it is f**king not! YTA mate.”
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“YTA. She needs a second opinion ASAP! Support her! “

“YTA, but consider her pain and get a second opinion.”

“YTA. Help her get medical help, she deserves proper care!”
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Pelvic floor specialists are crucial post-birth. It’s often overlooked!

YTA for dismissing girlfriend’s health concerns, be a supportive partner

YTA. Girlfriend needs a second opinion, not judgemental minimization.

YTA. Your GF is in pain. Be more sympathetic.

YTA for dismissing her health concerns. Support and advocate for her!

Get her a referral to a pelvic floor physical therapist!

“YTA. Be a functional partner to her. Suggest a different OB/GYN.”
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“YTA. Diminishing her health is causing more issues. Her health matters! “

User accuses man of ignoring girlfriend’s health concerns. YTA

“YTA. Be empathetic and supportive, not dismissive. “
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Woman’s health concerns dismissed by partner, she needs better care.

OP’s callousness towards his girlfriend’s health raises serious concerns.

“YTA. You’re insensitive to her pain. Help foot the bill!”

“YTA. Your lack of empathy is hurting your relationship.”

YTA and her OBGYN: Painful postnatal checkups and a disgraceful bf

“YTA. No vagina, no opinion. Listen to her, not google.”

Medical professional calls out OP for dismissing wife’s health concerns

OP’s lack of empathy towards wife’s pain is alarming

Unsupportive partner during postnatal checkups? YTA bigtime!
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YTA for dismissing girlfriend’s health concerns; prioritize her well-being
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YTA for not supporting your girlfriend’s postnatal health.

YTA, neglecting her health? That’s a**hole move.

Commenter calls out OP for lack of concern for girlfriend’s health

Blood in urine is not normal! YTA for not believing partner.

YTA. Support her! Her health matters. Listen to her concerns.

“YTA. Listen to her concerns. Don’t dismiss her experiences. “

YTA gets called out for breaking the rules.

YTA: You’re an awful partner. Time for a reality check!

YTA. She needs a new partner AND a new doctor.

YTA. Trust your girlfriend and find a second opinion.

“Man complains about paying for girlfriend’s checkups. Lack of empathy.”
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“YTA. Doctors can be wrong. Get a second opinion.” ⚕️

YTA: A selfish father who doesn’t care about his partner’s pain.

YTA wants wife locked up, baby treated like wife’s mother?

YTA, but doctors make mistakes too. Get a second opinion!

YTA for dismissing girlfriend’s medical concerns. Encourage her to seek help.

Insensitive doctor dismissed cancer concerns, take your girlfriend seriously

Partner’s health concerns dismissed; valid worries about healthcare bias.

Commenter empathizes with girlfriend’s pain but calls out OP’s insensitivity.

Seeking a second doctor’s opinion? ⚕️

Woman’s serious health issue dismissed by doctors, YTA for enabling

User livid about boyfriend not supporting girlfriend’s health concerns. YTA
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Commenter criticizes man for prioritizing money over girlfriend’s health.

YTA. Your lack of empathy is causing major relationship issues.

YTA! You’re heartless! Get her the help she needs!

YTA – Invalidating her pain and health concerns is unacceptable.

“YTA. Lack of empathy for girlfriend’s pain after giving birth.”

YTA for dismissing her concerns. Trust her instincts and support.

User calls out OP for dismissing girlfriend’s health concerns. YTA.

“YTA Doctors are notorious for ignoring women’s symptoms”

“YTA She needs a second opinion from her primary care provider and possibly a new OBGYN who won’t blow her off. It sounds like she brought you to appointments as moral support and to help her navigate a hostile medical system that frequently ignores post-partum concerns as normal healing, and you let her down in that regard. How in the hell is a lactation consultant an ‘expert’ on back pain? Your girlfriend needs proper medical attention. “

Commenter blames OP for potential health issues, shares personal experience.

Red pee?!?! Is this guy clueless about female anatomy?
