Picture this: your wife is in labor with your second child, and you’re excited to be in the room as she gives birth. But then, your mother-in-law swoops in with a sob story, and your wife chooses her over you. What would you do? One man found himself in this exact situation, and he decided to leave the hospital with his son and stay at his sister’s house. His wife was left at the hospital with her mom, and now he’s wondering if he’s in the wrong for leaving her during such a crucial time. Let’s dive into the story to see what led to this dramatic decision.
Wife’s History of Choosing Mom Over Husband ♂️

Canceled Date for Mom’s Mall Trip ️

Wife Promises Husband Can Be in Delivery Room

Mother-in-Law’s Sob Story Strikes Again

Husband Ordered to Stay Outside

Husband Calls Sister for Refuge

Leaving the Hospital ♂️

Texting Wife About His Decision

Wife’s Reaction

Husband Explains His Frustration

Wife Understands, but Looks Upset

Husband’s Guilt Kicks In

Edit: Clarifying Details

More Details on the Situation

Why Son Was at the Hospital

Husband’s Dilemma: Righteous Anger or Unfair Move? ♂️
In a moment of frustration and feeling left out, this husband made a bold decision to leave his wife in labor at the hospital and stay at his sister’s house with their son. While his wife has a history of choosing her mom over him, he can’t help but feel guilty for leaving her during such an important time. Now, he’s left wondering if he was justified in his actions or if he made a mistake. As opinions fly and emotions run high, let’s take a look at what the internet thinks of this complicated situation.
NTA for missing birth due to MIL’s guilt trips, wife’s compliance.

Commenter sympathizes with new mother, calls out weird family dynamic

Wife’s mom steamrolled her way into robbing OP of once-in-a-lifetime moment. NTA

Husband defends leaving wife in labor for sister’s house. NTA.

ESH for manipulative MIL, wife’s decision, and poor timing.

Father-to-be defends absence from labor, blames mother-in-law. ♂️

Father defends missing birth due to overbearing mother-in-law.

Spouse prioritizing overbearing MIL over OP, causing tension and manipulation. #NTA

Man leaves wife in labor for MIL’s help: ESH, need counseling

Supportive comment encourages wife to understand toxic family dynamics.

Supportive subreddit for dealing with manipulative mother-in-laws.

Delayed conversation with wife after sister’s house visit

NTA, but leaving your wife in labor was not okay

Setting boundaries with family: NTA comment sparks discussion.

Denied access to wife’s labor, MIL chosen over husband

NTA husband advised to set boundaries with MIL for healthy marriage

Spouse chooses sister over wife in labor. Commenters sympathize.

Suggests couples counseling for wife prioritizing mother over husband.

NTA for leaving hospital due to emotionally manipulative MIL, but needs to go home and set boundaries with wife and MIL. Wife also at fault for breaking promise and prioritizing mother over husband.

Husband upset with wife’s decision during labor.

Father defends leaving wife in labor to bond with child.

Commenter questions wife’s intentions, suggests setting boundaries with in-laws.
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Redditor suggests support group for wife in enmeshed family situation

Setting boundaries with crying mother-in-law, NTA.

Leaving wife in labor to sister’s house: ESH, but understandable

NTA recommends counseling or divorce lawyer for abandoned wife.

Dealing with a manipulative MIL during childbirth – NTA wins

Supportive comment suggests standing up to MIL during wife’s recovery.

MIL is a narcissist, wife needs to stop it. NTA!

NTA but counseling needed. Is the marriage on the rocks?

Husband leaves wife in labor, gets NTA judgment, needs reconciliation ASAP

Supportive reply about the importance of a partner during childbirth.

Husband misses birth of child due to MIL’s childish behavior

NTA but marriage counseling and therapy could help with boundaries.

NTA commenter suggests therapy for wife’s unhealthy relationship with mom

Father takes son to sister’s house during wife’s labor. NTA.

NTA, but MIL’s behavior is enabled by wife

Setting boundaries with family is crucial for a healthy relationship

Confusion about timeline of events in labor room drama

NTA chooses not to wait for wife in labor, sparks debate

Support for NTA comment on birth without mother-in-law.

Husband not the a**hole for leaving wife’s labor.

Choosing partner over mom during childbirth: refreshing or controversial?

Encouraging response to abandoning wife in labor with clever advice.

Husband feels robbed of chance to be there for **his** child. NTA

NTA stands up to MIL, but needs to address relationship issues

Commenter contemplates divorce after husband’s shocking behavior during labor.

Curious commenter eagerly awaits update on dramatic situation �yes

Commenter praises OP for handling situation during wife’s labor

Beware of guilt trips and emotional manipulation from MIL. NTA.

Father wants to be present at child’s birth, NTA

Married man gets sarcastic response for ditching wife in labor

NTA advises seeking couples therapy for MIL issues and marriage problems.

Giving birth with only one support person due to COVID-19.

When family drama takes over labor, who’s in the wrong?
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NTA, MIL is a manipulation queen Admirable response, congrats!

Commenter believes person is not the a**hole.

Father prioritizes child’s birth over sister’s inconvenience. NTA

NTA. Communication is key for a healthy marriage.

NTA. Communicate with your wife about MIL’s behavior and prioritize feelings

NTA. MIL is the problem, couple’s therapy needed.

MIL causing drama, commenter supports husband’s decision.
