Meet our conflicted husband who’s been working 70-hour weeks while his wife has been out of work for six months. They’ve been trying to have a baby for over a year, and now his wife claims that *getting* pregnant is her full-time job. She’s stopped looking for work and side gigs, leaving our hardworking hubby to question if this is fair. Is he being insensitive or is she taking advantage? Let’s dive into the story.
Understanding Pregnancy Differences

Wife’s Unemployment Situation

Pregnancy Becomes a ‘Job’

Wife Stops Job Hunting

Income Concerns for Baby

Hubby’s Exhausting Work Schedule

Chores and ‘Working All Day’

Husband’s Thoughts on Laziness

Clarifying Pregnancy vs. Getting Pregnant

Is Getting Pregnant a Job or a Cop-Out?
Our hardworking husband is feeling frustrated as his wife claims that getting pregnant is her full-time job, leaving him to cover the financial burden and household chores. He believes she’s using this as an excuse to avoid job hunting and contributing to their future baby’s expenses. While he understands that pregnancy can be challenging, he can’t help but feel that this situation is unfair. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this couple’s dilemma…
Supportive comment on pregnancy stress and shared responsibilities.

User defends calling pregnancy ‘not a job’ as NTA.
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Empowering response to pregnancy shaming.
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NTA verdict given for wife’s ‘lazy’ pregnancy efforts

Supporting laziness? A harsh take on parenting abilities

Man deems wife’s pregnancy efforts ‘lazy’, comment defends her.

Pregnancy as a job? NTA suggests communication is key

Encouraging response to a stressed spouse, suggesting professional help.

NTA commenter suggests mental health issues may be causing wife’s behavior

NTA defends wife’s pregnancy efforts and suggests equal job distribution.

Partner criticizes wife’s pregnancy efforts, commenter suggests rethinking parenthood.

NTA comment suggests reevaluating pregnancy decision, may lead to burden

Pregnancy isn’t an excuse to be lazy. NTA.
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Humorous reply to NTA comment about lazy wife’s pregnancy efforts.

Balancing fertility treatment and work is challenging

IVF can take a toll, but pregnancy isn’t a ‘job’

Insensitive comment receives no replies.

Reconsider starting a family with someone who can’t handle responsibility

Sensible advice on dealing with lazy pregnancy efforts

NTA thinks wife’s view on pregnancy may lead to shock
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Conceiving as a job is unhealthy. NTA for sharing responsibilities.
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User defends wife’s pregnancy efforts, calls it not a job.

Concerned comment suggests underlying issues with infertility and d********n

Delay having a baby until you sort out the technicalities

70-hour workweek? Is that even safe or sustainable?
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Infertility experience is exhausting, support her during this time ❤️

Inquiring about IVF cycles and pandemic impact on pregnancy.

Honest comment about wife’s pregnancy efforts and future responsibilities.
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Curious commenter questions if wife’s pregnancy efforts are lazy

Infertility trauma can be consuming. Suggest therapy for balance.

Sarcastic NTA comment suggests drastic measures to resolve fertility issues.

NTA commenter suggests part-time job for more intimacy

Think twice before having a baby with someone who doesn’t share values

NTA thinks partner is unreasonable and gold-digger. Yikes

Suggests compromise and support for pregnancy efforts.

NTA expresses frustration with wife’s ‘lazy’ pregnancy efforts

Pregnancy is not an excuse for laziness. NTA.

NTA suggests rethinking having a baby due to lazy attitude

Suggesting therapy for fertility struggles, important for mental health

Suggests NTA’s wife should quit job and focus on other things
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Challenging the misconception of pregnancy as a ‘lazy’ effort

Fertility treatments require flexibility and are expensive. Stress may not affect conception.
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NTA defends against lazy pregnancy accusations

Struggling to get pregnant can be stressful. Valid points made.

NTA commenter advises putting pregnancy on hold due to pandemic and wife’s concerning laziness with basic chores.

Controversial take on reproduction and adoption
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A commenter questions the work involved in pregnancy efforts.
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Curious commenter questions wife’s pregnancy ‘work’

Encouraging response to NTA comment about wife’s d********n and self-esteem.

NTA thinks wife not fit to be parent due to laziness

Supportive comment acknowledges the challenges of parenthood with humor

Take a break from trying for a baby, prioritize self-care

User defends woman and advises man to leave relationship

Recommendations for therapy and self-help books to tackle issues.

Struggling with infertility may be causing her apparent ‘laziness’

Engage in a conversation with your wife about long-term plans . Stressful times call for understanding.

NTA questions wife’s obsession with pregnancy, suggests work-life balance.

NAH verdict with empathetic advice for worried husband
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Preparing for a baby during a pandemic – NTA advice

Could IVF hormones be causing her change in attitude?

Infertility can cause d********n and coping mechanisms vary. Communication is key.

Struggling with infertility is stressful, but putting life on hold won’t help

Man’s wife may be undergoing difficult treatments to get pregnant

Trying to conceive isn’t a full-time job. NTA

Suggests couples therapy for NTA commenter and wife
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Shaming pregnant women for rest and relaxation?

NTA works 70hrs/week, wife needs to contribute before pregnancy

Man criticizes wife’s pregnancy efforts, but what about him?

NTA commenter questions husband’s understanding of pregnancy and parenting

Encouraging response to husband’s concerns about wife’s pregnancy struggles

User discourages pregnancy during pandemic with strong language

Encouraging comment on job search for pregnant wife, NTA

User defends man’s criticism of wife’s pregnancy efforts.

NTA advises to run before pregnancy, it’s only gonna get worse

Insensitive comment about wife’s fertility, no replies.

Last Updated on February 13, 2024 by Diply Social Team