Love knows no boundaries, but what happens when those boundaries are the walls of a tiny apartment in Japan? Our heroine, a 30-year-old American woman, finds herself in a long-distance relationship with a 31-year-old man. As plans for a romantic reunion brew, so does a storm of domestic dispute. The bone of contention? Household chores. ️ Let’s dive into this tale of love, dishes, and vacuum cleaners.
A Love Story Across Continents ❤️
A Disagreement Brews ️
Unearthing Old Wounds
The Domestic Battlefield ️
His Vacation, Her Workload
The Financial Argument
“Spending Time” Together? ️
The Hidden Costs of Love
A Small Request, A Big Issue
Questioning Love and Chores
A Plan for the Future
A Bold Decision
Setting the Record Straight
Love or Labor: Is there a Middle Ground?
Our heroine finds herself in a predicament. She loves her boyfriend, but his refusal to contribute to household chores during his visits has caused a rift. He argues that he’s on vacation, not there to do chores. But she’s left feeling like a maid in her own home. As she contemplates calling off his upcoming visit, she wonders if she’s being unreasonable. Is expecting a vacationing partner to help with chores too much to ask? Or is this a red flag for their future cohabitation? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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“Wow. Your boyfriend is a lazy child and he wanted you to be his mom. ‘I’m just here to relax’ while you clean up after me, basically. It’s strange how he’s saying he’s here to visit YOU and relax but conveniently leaves out the part where you can’t relax because he refused to help clean with you. Wow. And your workload increases because of him, you’re both living there and making a mess, but instead of helping out for at least his share, he says he’s paying for the fun stuff you’re both doing? Well he wouldn’t have to do that if he didn’t have a girlfriend, so should that be the alternative? You are not his maid, or his mom, and he’s treating you like both. You’re his girlfriend and an equal partner. Being his servant doesn’t come with the job. He can clean up after his own self, he’s a whole adult! Wow. NTA.”
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