In a small apartment complex, a lesbian couple with a foster daughter find themselves in an awkward situation. They are the only working parents in a community of stay-at-home moms (SAHMs) and working husbands. Social functions in the complex tend to be gender-segregated, causing tension between the couple and the SAHMs. When the working mom gets called ‘condescending’ by a SAHM neighbor, she wonders if she’s in the wrong. Let’s dive into the story and see what led to this clash.
The Apartment Complex Life

Gender-Segregated Social Functions

The Invisible Barrier

The SAHM Side of Things

The ‘Wife’ in the Relationship

The Confrontation

The Accusation

The Husband’s Take

A Habit?

A Clash of Lifestyles: Working Mom vs SAHM
In a community where gender-segregated social functions are the norm, a working lesbian mom finds herself at odds with a stay-at-home mom neighbor. Accused of being condescending, she wonders if she’s in the wrong. The husband of the SAHM neighbor laughs off the situation, revealing his wife’s habit of making a big deal out of things. As the story unfolds, we see how the clash of lifestyles and expectations can lead to misunderstandings and tensions. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA. Going to events out of obligation? No fun!

NTA calls out heteronormative BS and finds allies among progressives

Lesbian mom accused of being condescending to SAHM neighbor
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NTA, exhausting situation. They may not even realize their behavior.

NTA. Misunderstanding about work schedules and feeling judged by neighbors.

NTA, but make an effort with SAHMs. Husbands are more understanding

Engaging with a neighbor’s perspective on a condescending interaction

“YTA I think in this situation. I think it’s a little condescending to say I can’t help, ask my wife. I think the appropriate response would have been ‘Y is handling that, I’ll have her reach out to you with an update'” ♀️

NTA: Breaking gender norms in a 1950s apartment block

SAHM lesbian mom faces judgment for unintentional social oops

“YTA. Honestly, you sound quite insufferable.” Engaging discussion on parenting roles and condescension.

NTA. Correcting condescending behavior and discussing regressive gender roles.

Gender roles vs SAHM: Is the commenter condescending or sympathetic?

YTA for assuming insult, but NTA for expressing preference.

Misunderstood tone leads to misinterpretation, causing unnecessary tension.

NTA. A bit condescending, but what else could you say?

NTA: Comment advises lesbian mom to be mindful of her language.

“YTA, being condescending won’t make friends. Let minor stuff slide. “

Assumptions about gender roles causing tension between neighbors

Something seems fishy about this story

“NAH, but your words come across as condescending. SAHMs deserve respect “

Accused of being condescending and judgmental towards neighbors. YTA

NTA: Breaking free from closed-minded neighbors with love and pride!

Choosing confrontation over a simple text? YTA

NTA, escape the Stepford stereotype!
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Don’t judge, try to see them as individuals worth knowing

Stay-at-home moms deserve respect too. Don’t be hypocritical.
