Left Alone After Surgery: Who’s the Real A**hole?

When you’re in a relationship, you expect your partner to be there for you during the tough times, right? Well, one woman found herself in a situation where she needed her girlfriend’s support after a massive shoulder surgery. But instead of sticking around, her girlfriend decided to go out of town to visit an old friend. Now, the woman is left wondering if she’s the one being controlling or if her girlfriend is just unsupportive. Let’s dive into the story!

Post-Op Struggles

‍❤️‍ The Couple’s Background

Staying Together

Unexpected Trip

⏰ Overnight Plans

Asking for Support

Anger and Accusations

‍♀️ The Big Question

She Left

Not the First Time

Past Indifference

Shared Home

Calling for Backup

Realizing the Truth

Finding Courage

Unmasking the Real A**hole

So, after being left alone just 3 days after her surgery, our protagonist starts questioning if she’s really the controlling one or if her girlfriend is just unsupportive. The situation gets worse when her girlfriend accuses her of being controlling for wanting her to stay. This isn’t the first time she’s felt unsupported, as her girlfriend also seemed indifferent during her father’s death. Finally, she decides she’s had enough, and calls a friend to help her pack her girlfriend’s things. It’s time for her to stand up for herself and realize that asking for support isn’t controlling—it’s just human decency. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Shoulder surgery leaves OP alone, girlfriend’s behavior raises red flags

Partner wants to leave after surgery. Commenters agree NTA.

OP’s girlfriend is NTA for wanting to see family, but her timing is selfish. No replies.

Partner asked to care for post-surgery, left for fun. NTA.

Partner’s strange behavior after surgery, commenter says NTA.

Friend insisted on taking care of OP after surgery, then left. NTA.

Being considerate is key in relationships

Asking for help during recovery isn’t controlling. NTA

GF insisted on helping post-op, but left during the hardest part. NTA.

NTA left in an immobilizer, girlfriend leaves him to fend.

Communication is key. NTA. ️

Partner bails after agreeing to support post-surgery. NTA.

Is it fair to expect your partner to be your caretaker?

Partner agreed to help post-surgery, but left for vacation. NTA.

Supportive comment, offering sympathy and advice for OP’s situation.

Supportive comment. Encourages OP to leave narcissistic partner.

Partner bailed after surgery, NTA for considering breakup.

Partner promised to stay after surgery but left. NTA.

Partner’s behavior during surgery raises red flags for future support.

Friend bails on post-op plans, commenter says NTA.

Post-surgery and left alone: NTA, gf is unfair

Partner of 2.5 years leaves post-surgery, commenter advises caution ⚠️

Partner didn’t help after surgery, commenter NTA.

Dump her! NTA’s girlfriend left him alone after surgery.

Partner insists on care, leaves after surgery. NTA for wanting decency

Gaslit and gone: NTA’s final verdict on post-surgery abandonment.

Suspicious overnight stay leads to potential relationship fallout.

Recovering from surgery is tough. A committed partner should help

Accusations of infidelity lead to GF being kicked out. ‍♀️

NTA, GF is TA for bailing on you after surgery

Supportive comment on recovery after surgery.

Putting yourself first is not selfish, it’s self-care.

Supportive comment about unsupportive partner during painful recovery

Girlfriend (ex?) left recovering partner stranded after surgery. NTA.

Partner canceled holiday to care for commenter with broken humorous. NTA.

Supportive comment calling out bad behavior, wishing good luck

Girlfriend leaves after surgery, OP NTA, dump her

Leaving partner after surgery for work, but prepared and caring ❤️

NTA. Caregiving is hard, but bailing is not the answer.

Supportive comment on surgery and breakup, NTA judgement. ❤️

Partner left after surgery, commenter supports OP, calls out selfishness

Red flag raised on partner’s fidelity. Trust issues brewing.

Basic human decency should always come first

Supportive or Selfish? NTA leaves unsupportive partner

Husband steps up after surgery, commenter suggests leaving toxic partner.

Supportive comment with a happy ending

Taking care of a loved one after surgery: NTA or red flag?

Supportive comment receives no replies, but deserves all the love

Pawsome support system: Dogs and parents help during recovery

Friend agrees to care, backs out, calls you controlling. NTA.

Pro tip: Ask for non-childproof prescription bottles for easy access

Heartbroken commenter sympathizes with OP’s situation

OP made the right choice for their health and well-being.

Moving on from a rude and uncaring partner. NTA.

Partner refuses to take responsibility after surgery. NTA.

Empathetic support for a justified breakup. You deserve better