Love, language, and secrets – this story has it all! Our protagonist, a 27-year-old woman from Berlin, has been dating her Mexican-American boyfriend, Jake, for a few months now. Jake, who’s currently working in Berlin, speaks Spanish fluently. However, he never bothered to ask if his girlfriend speaks any other languages apart from German and English. Little did he know, she’s been secretly speaking Spanish all along!
Love in a Multilingual World
The Unasked Question
Telenovelas and Secrets
No Eavesdropping Here!
The Friend’s Visit ️
Language Assumptions
Surprise, I Speak Spanish!
Anger and Embarrassment
The Aftermath ️
Taking a Breather ♀️
Unchanged Opinions
Friends Divided ♀️
The Great Language Debate: Who’s Right?
Our protagonist never revealed her Spanish-speaking abilities to her boyfriend, Jake, who assumed she didn’t speak the language. When his friend visited, she finally spoke up in Spanish, leaving Jake angry and embarrassed. Now, he demands an apology, but she’s not sure if she’s in the wrong. With friends divided on the issue, the question remains: who’s right in this linguistic love drama? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Dismissive assumptions and lack of effort, NTA.
Don’t let language barriers break your love!
Secret Spanish speaker spies, sarcastic commenter says ESH.
Hiding language proficiency in a relationship: ESH.
Ignorance and discrimination exposed. NTA wins.
Language barrier or lack of communication?
Disclosing language knowledge is basic etiquette, ESH in situation.
ESH for not communicating about speaking Spanish, and him for speaking negatively.
Revealing language skills to embarrass partner: ESH ♀️
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A commenter calls out OP for playing weird games. ESH.
NTA verdicts from monolinguals? YTA for keeping language secret.
Accusations of lying and ego-boosting lead to YTA verdict.
Don’t assume someone doesn’t speak Spanish
Hiding language skills for months? YTA and a spy!
Don’t sit on things that bother you, communicate openly.
Partner uses derogatory term, blames girlfriend for understanding it. NTA.
Communication breakdown leads to ESH verdict. ♀️
Speaking multiple languages led to miscommunication and awkward situations. ESH.
Revealing a secret in public gone wrong. ESH ♂️
YTA for not telling him you speak Spanish and humiliating him
Navigating communication barriers in a relationship
Communication breakdown leads to ESH judgement. Speak up early on.
Lost in translation: Communication breakdown leads to mutual blame.
Don’t assume someone’s preferences and speak for them.
Lying by omission in relationships – ESH. ♀️
Keeping language secret in a relationship? YTA says commenter.
User calls out OP for being unreasonable and petty.
ESH for not communicating about language and overreacting. ♀️
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Communication breakdown: ESH, but OP should have spoken up earlier. ♀️
Awkward language secret reveals communication issues. ESH.
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YTA for assuming he’s not interested in learning about you.
Lying in a relationship is a path to destruction. YTA.
OP didn’t tell BF she speaks Spanish, YTA according to comments
Keeping secrets in a relationship: Sneaky or acceptable?
Boyfriend assumes she doesn’t speak Spanish, gets angry when corrected
Communication breakdown: ESH for not speaking up in Spanish.
Awkward language barrier leads to misunderstanding.
Standing up to racism: NTA shuts down rude comment.
Accusations of lying and malice, therapy recommended for both.
Bizarre reasoning for not telling boyfriend language secret
Latina commenter defends the word ‘gringo’ and calls out dismissive partner. ESH.
Supportive comment for someone dealing with a clueless partner.
A language barrier leads to relationship troubles. ESH.
Passive language secret keeping leads to ESH situation.
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Not the a-hole for not mentioning Spanish, but communication matters
Intense criticism and disbelief of the commenter’s behavior.
YTA for not being upfront with your partner.
Toxicity alert! YTA played games instead of communicating honestly
Missed the signs ♀️ Not your fault, NTA.
Communication breakdown leads to blame game. NTA wins.
Expecting mind-reading? Both ESH for not communicating maturely. ♂️
Communication is key in relationships, but so is respect ️
Don’t assume, or you’ll make an a** out of you and me
Communication is key! ️ Glad you’re NTA in this.
Clear communication is key. NTA for being upfront
A language barrier in a relationship? NTA.
Don’t settle for someone who doesn’t value you
