Imagine befriending someone who slowly starts to mimic your every move, from your hobbies to your appearance, and even your name! That’s exactly what happened to a 21-year-old woman who moved to France for school. She met and befriended Alexa, who later came out as trans and started her transition. At first, the friendship seemed great, but as time went on, things took a strange and unsettling turn.
The Beginning of the Friendship

Alexa’s Transition

Mentor for Femininity

Interests and Tastes Align

Intrusive Behavior Begins

Copying Hobbies and Opinions

Matching Hairstyles ♀️

Tanning and Spray Tans ☀️

Learning Arabic and Decorating

Contacting the Ex

Adopting a Similar Cat

Photoshopping a Scar

The Last Straw: The Name Change

Confrontation and Fallout ️

Accusations Fly

A Bizarre Turn of Events
As the friendship progressed, Alexa’s behavior became increasingly intrusive, from copying her friend’s hobbies and opinions to changing her appearance to match hers. Things escalated when Alexa decided to change her name to a short version of her friend’s, an Arab name she couldn’t even pronounce correctly. Frustrated and disturbed, the woman confronted Alexa and ended their friendship, only to be accused of being an a**hole and transphobic. Now, their mutual friends have taken sides, leaving everyone questioning who’s in the wrong. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this peculiar situation…
NTA for cutting off stalkerish friend with identity theft tendencies

Commenter suggests contacting ex and getting restraining order against stalker

Commenter sympathizes with OP but warns of potential danger.

OP’s friend is imitating and stalking her, NTA.

Commenter agrees with NTA and someone replies with a joke

NTA is being stalked by Alexa, who is manipulating and coercing. Start a timeline and speak to the police for a restraining order.

Being yourself is key, not a copy of someone else.

NTA. Transphobia had nothing to do with cutting off a toxic friend who was stalking and being racist and culturally appropriative. OP had the right to terminate the relationship. Replies suggest that the friend’s behavior is stalker-like and dangerous.

Friendship turned identity theft? NTA, but she needs help.
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Copying a scar? That’s stalker madness ♀️

NTA defends criticism of trans person, calls out overuse of ‘transphobic’

When a comment references Spongebob, you know it’s good

Friendship turned creepy: NTA for feeling uncomfortable with stalker friend

Cut ties with creepy friend imitating your femininity. Seek therapy.

Commenters recall a similar post, warn of horror movie outcome

Deja vu or repost? Redditors call out unoriginal content.
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Redditors call out recycled post as fake news
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Concerned OP receives support for standing up to stalker friend

Doubting the authenticity of the post sparks TERF accusation

Friend’s identity theft is frustrating, NTA for setting boundaries.

NTA comment calls out creepy behavior and advises action.

Redditors call out fake transphobic post with a sarcastic edit
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Commenter called out for posting bait

Encouraging and empathetic advice on dealing with identity theft friend

Creepy friend needs to stop. NTA for setting boundaries.
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Deja vu? Redditor finds similar post from months ago.

Outsmarting a fake friend with a touch of gaslighting

Trans friend appropriating culture, cut them out. NTA.
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Déjà vu? This comment and reply say it all.

Deja vu? Commenter calls out recycled story as BS.

Comment section calling out fake story with sarcasm

Commenter calls out fake story, deems OP YTA.

Doubts on story’s credibility, accused of TERF agenda.

Commenter calls out fake AITA posts using buzzwords. YTA.

Comment and replies call out fake story for transphobia

Harsh reply receives no sympathy from commenters. ♀️

User calls out fake story and transphobia.

A fiery comment section calling out a fake trans activist account

Accusations of fake post and transphobia spark heated debate.

When a movie reference hits too close to home

Accusation of fake post and transphobia sparks heated debate.

Red flag or déjà vu? NTA for setting boundaries.

When friendship turns into serious stalking

Accusation of transphobia sparks heated debate.
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Déjà vu? Redditors question story’s authenticity
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NTA but friends’ behavior questioned

Last Updated on June 5, 2023 by Diply Social Team