Buckle up, folks! We’ve got a wild ride of a story here, featuring yours truly and my dear, chronically late friend. You know the type – always running behind, but quick with the excuses and apologies. Well, this time, her tardiness nearly cost me a big project… and maybe even our friendship! But don’t worry, I had a trick up my sleeve. Let’s dive in and see if you think I handled this situation like a champ or if I was a total a****e!
A Friend in Need… of a Deadline!
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4️⃣ Weeks In, No Mention of Work!
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Her Response: “Relaaaaax! I Got It!”
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⏰ Deadline Comes… and Goes!
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No Calls, Texts, or Social Media!
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♀️ I Had to Move On! ♂️
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Plan B Was in Motion 4️⃣ Weeks In! ♀️
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I Believe in Her, But… ♀️
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Supporting Without Risking!
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The Airport Incident! ✈️
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☕ Sipping Latte at the Gate!
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“I Don’t Miss Flights!” ✈️
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Giving Opportunities to Grow!
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♀️ Oh Well… AITA?
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UPDATE: “I F*ed Up Big!”
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Love This Crazy Woman, But… ♀️
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Flaky Friend Fiasco: AITA for Having a Backup Plan?
A chronically late friend finally pushed a friend to their limit! After she dropped the ball on a big project and left them hanging, the protagonist had to take matters into their own hands. But apparently, having a contingency plan means they don’t “trust” her. The internet had some thoughts on this one, and they didn’t hold back! Some called the protagonist a boss for looking out for themself, while others thought they were being a bit harsh.
Setting boundaries is NTA, but stop expecting change from AH.

Stop testing your friend, she’s unreliable. NTA but TAH risk.

Having a backup is smart but don’t test reliability like that

Friend’s lack of consideration for OP’s business. NTA.

Cut your losses and move on. NTA

Strong friendship, wake-up call for friend’s complacency, ignore negativity
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Curious about friend’s excuse for ghosting and missing deadline

Is it wrong to provide opportunities for friends?

Setting boundaries in business is important, even with friends.

Being a friend means being there for them.
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Supporting friends’ businesses is important, but having a backup plan too.

ESH: Friend’s blase attitude and OP’s condescension caused issues.

Cutting toxic people out of your life is a favor

Giving friends business can be tricky

Having a backup plan is natural and logical

A heartwarming comment about a rewarding friendship ❤

Long-time friend disappoints with lack of personal growth
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Contingency plans are key, NTA made the right call

Taking care of business . Two strikes and they’re out!
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Having a backup plan is key, even with friends

Offered support, not trust. Former given freely, latter earned.

Being understanding and forgiving can go a long way

Friend failed twice, got mad when confronted. NTA

Giving second chances is tough, but communication is key.

Setting reasonable expectations and executing a contingency plan. NTA

Be friends, but don’t trust her again. NTA

A commenter asks for clarification on the airport situation.

Cutting toxic friends out of your life

Friendship boundaries – NTA but don’t be condescending

Giving a friend a chance doesn’t mean tolerating unprofessionalism
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Always have a backup plan, and you’ll never let down.

When you’re over the drama but can’t look away ♀️
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Friendship dynamic criticized for condescension and lack of communication

Having a plan is smart, NTA for using it

Reliability issues in friendship and business. NTA.

Friend’s mistake is a lesson for her business

Friendship tested twice, but OP is still understanding.

Keeping business & personal separate after professional letdown.

Always have a backup plan!

Being a reliable professional is key to business success.
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Trust but verify: why having a backup plan is crucial

Giving too many chances may hinder her personal growth.
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Friendship and business don’t always mix, NTA for moving on

Why keep playing Charlie Brown and Lucy with this flaky friend?

NTA for having a backup plan, but you are TA for continuing to ask for help if she can’t be trusted.

Friend is flakey, NTA for ending friendship.

Friend always offers to help but overextends herself, NTA for declining.

Friend drops the ball twice, gets upset when given a backup. NTA
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Complimenting someone’s work ethic with nostalgia.

Don’t count on her again and avoid emojis

It’s tough when a friend lets you down, but you made the right call.

Planning for contingencies is a good trait. NTA.

Toxic friend turned out to be a sociopath. Cut ties.

Being a supportive friend without risking your business

Being flakey is tough. But being a good friend matters
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Emoji overuse rubs commenter the wrong way ESH.

Good intentions, bad strategy. Friendships aren’t parental relationships

Defending OP’s decision to confront friend, criticizing Reddit’s judgmental behavior

Hold friends to professional standards. Inform of contract cancellation professionally.

Having contingency plans is normal, but friend let OP down.

Being patient and kind pays off.

NTA. Friend messes up twice, gets offended when prevented. Untrustworthy friend.

When you meet someone who’s just too good to be true

Friend’s behavior seems like ADHD, women with ADHD often undiagnosed.

Giving a friend a chance doesn’t mean being let down twice
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Last Updated on April 11, 2024 by Diply Social Team