Meet the father of three boys and husband to one amazing woman, who has found a unique way to keep the peace in the family. When his wife has a bad day, her anger can sometimes spill over onto the rest of the family. To help everyone prepare and avoid conflict, he created a group chat called ‘Bad Day Alert’ with his sons. But when his sister-in-law discovers the chat and spills the beans to his wife, things take a dramatic turn.
The Wife’s Flaw: Anger

When She’s Unhappy, Everyone Suffers

The Kids Struggle Too

Introducing: The ‘Bad Day Alert’

A Warning System for the Family

Dad’s Preparations

The Secret Exposed!

Aunt Gets Involved

Wife Finds Out and Gets Mad

Dad Defends His Actions ️

Was the ‘Bad Day Alert’ Group Chat a Mistake?
This father thought he was doing a good thing by creating a group chat to warn his sons when their mom was having a bad day. They’d use the alerts to avoid conflict and help her decompress. But when his wife found out, she accused him of teaching their kids to treat her like an angry child. Now he’s left wondering if his well-intentioned plan was actually a mistake. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Teaching kids to cope with mom’s temper? ESH needs wakeup call

Spouse’s behavior is unacceptable, NTA for setting boundaries and seeking help

Is it NTA or YTA? Therapy is recommended either way

Protect your children from your spouse’s anger. Suggest therapy.

Teaching sons to enable bad behavior? ESH, not just wife.

User questions husband’s contribution to household chores.

Is the husband’s ‘Bad Day Alert’ group chat harmless or problematic?

Therapy can help both of you cope better. NTA

Is it really about the bad day or something deeper?

Children should not be managing an adult’s volatile moods. ESH ♀️

Toxic behavior on both sides. Therapy is needed ASAP.

User is torn between YTA and ESH for husband’s inconsiderate behavior.

Is the wife nagging or rightfully reminding them?

ESH. Husband’s secret group chat about wife’s emotions backfires.

Parental behavior causing concern. Seek professional help. ESH

NTA for bad day alert system. Spouse’s abusive behavior explained.
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Managing anger in relationships: ESH comment and parenting advice.

Suggests therapy and communication instead of ‘Bad Day Alert’ group

Suggests better communication with wife instead of secret group chat.

Clarifying the situation to avoid jumping to conclusions

Teaching sons to tiptoe around anger issues isn’t healthy communication

Parenting with a moody spouse is tough for everyone involved

Couple’s argument over bad day puts kids in uncomfortable position

Is she screaming or just snappy? Details matter

User questions division of labor at home, suggests husband and sons aren’t helping.

The ‘Bad Day Alert’ group chat: Are the men being unfair?

Opportunity for open, respectful conversations about dysfunctional situation.

NTA suggests therapy for couple and children, advises job change.

Both parties need to work on their anger management

INFO: Important questions to ask yourself about your contribution at home.

NTA. Aunt’s behavior is low emotional intelligence. Teaching kids boundaries.

Clarifying if partner is chill or abusive when upset

Early warning system for abusive behavior applauded by commenter.

Spouse’s secret group chat exposes wife’s childish behavior

A humorous suggestion for a more detailed rating system

Family therapy might help address underlying issues causing tension.

Avoiding a moody parent is a skill we all learn

User questions the severity of anger and suggests therapy.
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Wife needs therapy, kids shouldn’t change for someone else’s issues

Mature communication is key to a happy family
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Is the husband’s ‘Bad Day Alert’ just an excuse for not doing housework?

ESH for not addressing her abusive behavior towards her sons

Husband found a way to mitigate wife’s anger issues

User calls out husband for being scared of wife. YTA.

User questions assumptions and defends wife’s behavior.

Context matters: Commenter questions if mother is emotionally abusive.

Husband’s childish behavior worsens dysfunctional family dynamic

Joining the ESH crowd: Addressing spouse’s anger issues is crucial

User questions husband’s contribution to household, offers perspective.

OP’s portrayal of wife’s anger is vague and damning

Husband’s group chat with 12-17 year olds to alert bad days.

Unpopular opinion: Wife likely exhausted from doing all the chores. ESH.

Having a group chat to alert about wife’s bad day is unacceptable

Hilarious ‘Bad Day Alert’ group chat, NTA for husband’s solution.

User questions OP’s portrayal of wife’s behavior and chores.

NTA commenter calls out double standards and offers support.

Dealing with a difficult spouse: ESH or YTA?

Both parties at fault for not addressing wife’s behavior

ESH. Wife needs to manage anger issues, not burden children. Get professional help.

ESH except the children. Honest conversation needed for wife’s anger.

Is the chore division unequal? Cat’s meow of cleaning

User questions if the husband is the a-hole in the household.

Using a secret chat to make things easier for everyone

Setting boundaries with a moody partner

Suggesting therapy or counseling for marital communication struggles

Supportive comment about husband’s group chat, no replies.

Supportive mom seeks help from husband’s friends, gets backlash.

Concerned commenter seeks clarification on wife’s behavior towards kids. NTA.

Is the wife abusive or just irritable? Stay clear either way

Seek family counseling or therapy to address husband’s anger issues.

Parent concerned about wife’s behavior towards kids, suggests E-S-H.

Man’s secret chat to mock wife for expressing emotions backfires

Wife’s emotions are valid, not something to be alerted about ♀️

Unhealthy communication patterns leading to resentment and frustration.

NTA, but communication and therapy could help improve relationships

NTA suggests a funny tip for hiding chats from partners

Teaching sons to ignore women’s behavior is bad parenting ESH

NTA defends OP’s ‘Bad Day Alert’ group chat, calls SIL AH

Sibling solidarity in navigating parental minefields

Partner’s ‘Bad Day Alert’ group chat gets wholesome approval ❤

NTA comment suggests wife needs to reflect on maturity issues

Addressing wife’s anger issues crucial for children’s well-being. ESH.

Protecting your children from toxic behavior is important. NTA.

Toxic anger in the household, everyone needs better coping skills

Family safety compromised, wife needs therapy to manage anger. ESH

Kids can’t be a**holes, but wife sucks more than husband

Supportive comment applauding secret group chat to cheer up spouse.
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NTA comment suggests seeking counseling for wife’s behavior and trauma.

Support for husband’s ‘Bad Day Alert’ group chat, due to erratic behavior.
