Family Drama Alert! Buckle up, folks, because we’ve got a doozy of a story for you today! Meet our 32-year-old protagonist, a loving sister caught in the middle of a sticky situation between her sister and brother-in-law (BIL). This tale is filled with comparisons, insecurities, and a whole lot of awkwardness. Get ready to dive into a world of family dynamics, where a BIL just can’t seem to let go of his late wife’s memory, even if it means making his current wife feel like she’s constantly living in a shadow. Will our protagonist be able to navigate this emotional minefield and help her sister feel loved and appreciated? Let’s find out! ️♀️
Sister’s Struggle: Constantly Compared to BIL’s Late Wife

BIL’s Tragic Past: High School Sweetheart’s Untimely Demise

Cooking Comparisons: “Betty Always Made the Best Steak”

“I’d Do Anything to Eat Her Cooking Again” ️

♀️ Hair Envy: “Betty Always Had Such Beautiful Blonde Hair” ♀️

Sister’s Silent Suffering: Feeling Insecure and Unloved

Doggy Dilemma: “Betty Would Let Me Have a Dog”

Insensitive Remark: “Betty Was Such a Dog Person”

Confrontation Time: “Shut Up About Betty”

️ Setting Boundaries: “You Don’t Need to Compare My Sister to Her”

Disagreement and Departure: Leaving It Unresolved ♀️

Insensitive BIL Constantly Compares Wife to Late Spouse!
Our protagonist’s BIL just can’t seem to stop comparing his current wife to his late spouse, and it’s causing some serious drama in the family. From cooking skills to hair envy, this guy seems to have a knack for making his wife feel like she’s constantly living in the shadow of his past. But when our protagonist finally confronts him about his insensitive remarks, he dares to say it’s all just “funny and lighthearted”! Can you believe the nerve of this guy? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this sticky situation…
Comparing new wife to dead ex is not honoring. NTA

Using a dead ex to hurt someone is sickening. NTA.

BIL’s constant comparisons to dead ex causing major issues. NTA.
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Sister’s husband constantly compares her to his dead ex NTA

Husband’s idolization of his dead ex-wife causing major issues. NTA advises being supportive of sister.

Comparing wife with dead ex NOT funny NOR lighthearted. NTA.

BIL needs counseling, sister deserves better. NTA for setting boundaries

Comparing wife to dead ex? Seek help, dude. NTA.

Comparing your spouse to a dead ex? NTA. Support your sister.

BIL needs to understand that Amy is not a replacement

NTA OP needs to confront husband’s unhealthy grieving and comparisons
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Suggests a kinder approach to asking husband to stop comparing.

Stand up for yourself and shut down the comparisons

Comparing wife to dead ex? Not okay! NTA comment agrees.

Comparisons are natural, but hurtful comments are not okay

Supporting sister in toxic relationship with ex-obsessed husband

Comparing wife to dead ex is unfair, NTA for standing up.

Comparing current partner to ex – NTA, but keep it to yourself

BIL’s constant comparisons to late wife is cruel and damaging. NTA
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Widower calls out emotionally abusive behavior, supports OP. NTA

Dating a widow? Don’t compare them to their late spouse

“Other wife was better” jokes not funny, NTA intervenes

Suggests playing husband’s game and name-dropping an ex.

NTA for feeling uncomfortable with husband’s constant comparisons. Sad situation.

Supportive comment calling out husband’s behavior towards wife.

Intervening in a sibling’s relationship can backfire, tread carefully.

BIL’s toxic behavior needs counseling, sister deserves better.

Sarcastic suggestion to combat husband’s comparisons using NTA judgment

Comparing wife to dead ex is abuse, sister needs counseling

NTA. Husband needs therapy. Sister will suffer otherwise.

Empathetic commenter sympathizes with poster, supports NTA verdict.

Wife suggests snarky comebacks to husband’s comparisons with ex.

Comparing his deceased wife to his current wife is not okay

Dating a widower who constantly compares to deceased ex is hurtful . Therapist suggested.

Suggests making sarcastic comments to BIL to call him out

NTA commenter calls out husband’s behavior towards late ex-wife
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Spouse’s comparisons with dead ex is unhealthy and insensitive. NTA.

Red flags on husband’s love for dead ex, sister should reconsider

Supportive comment, advising to let sister handle the issue.

Deceased ex-wife’s comparison causing major issues for the current wife

NTA suggests finding a way to remember his ex differently.

Late wife comparisons? NTA says husband’s AH behavior is intentional.

NTA, husband’s behavior towards wife is disrespectful and hurtful.
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BIL’s creepy and disrespectful behavior towards sister sparks backlash. NTA.

Comparing spouses to exes causes major family tension

Savage response to husband’s constant comparisons with the ex.

Dead wife used as a stick to beat living wife

Curiosity about the timing of the husband’s behavior raised.

Comparing wife to dead ex? Not funny, definitely NTA

BIL’s constant comparisons causing major issues. NTA.

Comparing wife to dead ex is NOT harmless, NTA

“Honoring her memory” shouldn’t hurt your current spouse ♀️ ♀️

Choosing to stay single due to past trauma and fairness.
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Comparing wife to dead ex? Not cool, not healthy. #NTA
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BIL’s behavior towards his living wife is unacceptable. NTA

Using his dead wife to neg your sister is unhealthy

The husband’s constant comparisons to his dead ex-wife are disrespectful

NTZ suggests a strong response to constant insensitive comparisons.

BIL’s constant comparisons to dead ex need to stop, NTA sister needs to confront him

Husband’s toxic behavior towards wife and ex is appalling

NTA for sticking up for your sister. Encourage husband to improve.

Comparing your spouse to a dead ex is not okay ❌

Last Updated on April 12, 2024 by Diply Social Team