Picture this: you’re married, and your spouse has always had a housekeeper. You move in together, and the great housekeeping debate begins. You’re all about doing chores yourself, while your spouse insists on keeping the housekeeper. You agree, but on one condition: they pay for it. Fast forward, and your spouse loses their job, struggles to find work, and lands a part-time retail gig. You step up and cover joint expenses, but then your spouse asks if you’ll pay for the housekeeping service. What would you do? Let’s dive into this story and see what happened…
Housekeeping History
Team DIY vs Team Housekeeping
The Housekeeping Condition
Job Loss and Financial Struggles
Part-time Retail Gig ️
Covering Joint Expenses
Housekeeping Payment Dilemma
Not My Responsibility ♂️
The Argument
I Can Clean, Too!
Am I Being Unfair?
Housework Duties Clarification
More Cleaning Chores
Keeping Things Tidy
Wife’s Messes and Housekeeper’s Tasks
To Pay or Not to Pay: The Housekeeping Saga
Our protagonist’s wife has always had a housekeeper and insisted on keeping one when they moved in together. He agreed, but only if she paid for it. When his wife lost her job and started working part-time in retail, he covered their joint expenses. But then, she asked if he’d pay for the housekeeping service, which costs $190 a week. He refused, saying they’re both capable of doing chores themselves. They argued, with his wife claiming it’s a joint expense since he benefits from the cleaning. He insists he’s happy to clean up after himself and has done so in the past. Now, she thinks he’s being a jerk for not paying. What do you think? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…
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Having a housekeeper is a luxury, not a necessity. NTA.
Welcome to reality, wife. Cleaning is necessary for adults.
NTA. Commenter thinks housekeeping is basic life requirement, not worth $760.
Having a housekeeper is a luxury. If she can’t pay, that’s on her. End of discussion. ♀️
Spending $800+ on cleaning service while cutting back luxuries?
Wife needs to grow up and stop expecting others to clean.
NTA commenter calls out wife’s luxury lifestyle
Partner unwilling to pay for lazy a** spouse’s mess.
Warning to husband: expect to become the housekeeper
Cutting expenses is reasonable during income changes. Luxury services included.
Wife wants luxury, but not willing to pay for it. NTA.
Retail job doesn’t entitle you to luxury. NTA.
Joint budget struggles: Wife needs to cut back on expenses
NTA thinks paying for housekeeping is a waste of money
Unemployed? You’re the housekeeper now. No A-hole here.
Clear agreement, no more cleaning service. Adults clean their homes.
OP is the a**hole for doing all the housework with paid assistance while wife doesn’t contribute. A stable partnership requires both parties to give, not just one.
Compromise with less frequent cleaning to save money.
Setting boundaries on luxuries, NTA for standing your ground
NTA comment provides humorous support for the husband’s decision.
Think twice before having kids with this high-maintenance partner
User calls out entitled wife for being lazy
NTA for not wanting to pay for weekly housekeeping.
Fair point, it’s a shared expense and she should scale back
NTA commenter defends the husband’s decision to stop housekeeping service.
Time for wifey to put on her big girl panties
User suggests not having kids with entitled wife
Suggesting a compromise for weekly housekeeping service expense.
Lazy spouse, make her parents pay for housekeeping. NTA
User suggests wife should live like a pauper
Having a cleaner is a luxury, NTA. Learn to clean.
Having a house cleaner is a luxury. NTA for refusing.
User defends husband’s decision to stop paying for housekeeping service
Spouse called entitled, needs to clean or pay for service.
User defends husband’s decision to not pay for housekeeping service.
Concerns raised about wife’s mental well-being and cleaning habits.
Wife is entitled and should cut back on the cleaner
Wishing for a housekeeper, but can’t afford one. NTA.
Spouse refuses to pay for luxury housekeeping, Internet agrees.
Husband refuses to pay for wife’s housekeeping service, NTA comment agrees
NTA saves $60k over 5 years by not paying for housekeeping.
Not the a-hole for refusing to pay for wife’s housekeeping.
NTA suggests investing $760 instead of spending on housekeeping service.
Is hiring a housekeeping service excessive?
No more housekeeping, no more phone bill. NTA stands.
Adapt or move on: Wife can’t expect lavish service forever. NTA
Hiring a housekeeper is a luxury, not a necessity.
Fiery comment suggests laziness and privilege, calls for self-reliance.
NTA. Commenter advises husband to leave wife for her entitled behavior.
Spouse called entitled, commenter says NTA.
Spouse’s cleanliness issues escalate, leading to a child ultimatum.
Spoiled princess should ask the King and Queen
Two adults should be able to clean their own childless house
GF needs to clean up after herself.
NTA comment: Chores are part of being an adult
NTA. Cheaper options available. Reduce visits for cost-saving.
Compromise suggestion for husband and wife on housekeeping conflict
Wife’s entitlement behavior and laziness called out. NTA
Insightful comment on the challenges of parenthood and housekeeping.
User shares cautionary tale about demanding a cheaper lifestyle
NTA. Agree. Both should do cleaning. Lazy wife a red flag.
NTA. How lazy do you have to be for a cleaner every other day?
Saving money or cultural misunderstanding? NTA’s perspective.
Spoiled wife refuses to do housework, husband stands his ground.
Suggests telling in-laws to pay for cleaning service, calls wife spoiled. NTA
Is OP ready to become a full-time housekeeper?
