Imagine having a huge family that loves to gather for the holidays, only to find out that this year’s celebration is in jeopardy. That’s the situation one woman found herself in when her parents’ medical debt threatened to put a damper on their annual Christmas festivities. Desperate to save the day, she turned to her husband for help, but his response left her questioning his priorities.
The Family’s Christmas Dilemma
A Desperate Request for Help
Husband’s Financial Situation
The Husband’s Refusal ❌
A Different Kind of Celebration?
“A Ridiculous ‘Cause'”
The Argument Escalates
The Silent Treatment
A Christmas Dream vs. A Husband’s Dream
With her family’s Christmas celebration on the line, this woman hoped her husband would step up and lend them the money they needed. Instead, he refused, insisting that his savings were earmarked for a personal investment in his late father’s land. The couple’s disagreement escalated into a heated argument, with both parties accusing the other of being cruel and selfish. Now, as the silent treatment continues, the question remains: can this couple find a way to save their family’s Christmas, or will the husband’s dream take priority?
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User calls out OP for unreasonable request. Upvoted and awarded.
Borrowing 3k for Christmas? YTA. Keep it simple
Husband refuses to lend money for Christmas party, commenter calls out OP (YTA) for asking for 40% of husband’s savings with no guarantee.
Redditor calls out OP for selfishness and lack of compatibility.
User calls out entitlement in request for Christmas funds. ♂️
Husband is right, 3k for Christmas is a luxury
Suggests a more modest celebration for family gathering.
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Family argues over who should pay for Christmas celebration expenses.
User thinks husband is not the a-hole for not lending money
User thinks husband is not the a**hole for not lending money.
User calls out entitlement and suggests alternatives to borrowing money.
Financial responsibility over Christmas extravagance. YTA called out.
Savings aren’t free money, $3k on Xmas is terrible idea.
YTA for refusing to lend money for family’s Christmas celebration
Husband saves money for investment, not one-time event. YTA.
Husband refused to lend money for Christmas. Commenter says YTA.
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User thinks OP is TA for wanting to spend husband’s savings on a party
Spouse and in-laws demand money for Christmas, YTA.
User calls out OP for valuing husband only as piggybank. YTA
Getting together is the gift , not gifts. YTA for being selfish .
User calls out OP for expecting husband to fund family party
Money saved for future, budgeted Christmas instead. Don’t manipulate.
User calls out OP for being selfish and naive. ♂️
Financially responsible husband prioritizes family’s future over holiday spending
Respect your husband’s decision. Ask family to chip in
Redditors call out husband for not lending money for Christmas
Spend within your means. Potluck and dollar store gifts suffice.
YTA refuses to lend money for Christmas gifts. Bah humbug!
Husband is sensible, Christmas debt is a scam
Don’t be an a**hole, the holidays are about being together
User calls out entitlement, suggests budget celebration instead.
YTA and WTF. Creativity and flexibility can save your family.
User suggests others in family should pay for Christmas, calls OP selfish. YTA
Entitled spouse wants Christmas gifts over husband’s future savings
User calls Christmas a hoax, suggests potluck instead. YTA.
User calls out husband for being stingy with Christmas money
User calls out husband’s selfishness in funding extended family’s holiday
Husband’s refusal to lend money for Christmas party sparks YTA judgement.
User calls out OP for being unreasonable and demanding money
Family party debt? YTA. Husband refuses to lend money.
Suggests family potluck and contribution, labels OP as YTA
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User calls out OP for wanting to lend 40% of husband’s savings for Christmas party. YTA
User calls out husband for not sharing savings for Christmas
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Spouse refuses to lend money for family’s Christmas celebration. YTA.
User calls out OP for asking husband to lend money.
In-laws demand money for Christmas, OP’s husband called YTA
Demanding $3000 from husband for family’s Christmas is unreasonable. #ESH
User calls out family’s overspending, deems husband YTA.
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Spending $3k on Christmas while in debt? YTA, learn frugality
User calls out OP for expecting too much money for Christmas . YTA
Lending money to family: YTA or NAH? Discussion ensues.
Asking for money is fine, but don’t guilt trip him. YTA
User thinks OP is the a**hole for wanting husband’s money.
Redditors agree: YTA for expecting husband to fund Christmas celebration
User calls out OP for expecting husband to fund Christmas
User questions $3k Christmas party cost, deems OP YTA.
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User thinks husband is right for not lending money.
Redditor calls out OP for being the a**hole.
Don’t be TA! Family should chip in for Christmas expenses
User calls out OP for wanting to borrow money irresponsibly
Don’t sacrifice your future for someone else’s ephemeral experiences. YTA.
YTA for refusing to lend money for family’s Christmas celebration
User calls out family for being the a**holes in money dispute
Suggests alternative options for Christmas celebration, calls out manipulative behavior.
User calls out OP for materialistic Christmas and suggests alternatives.
User calls out OP for wanting to drain husband’s savings
YTA for not contributing to family’s Christmas celebration
Family should pitch in, husband is right. YTA
Family’s Christmas celebration causing financial strain and YTA behavior.
Suggests family contributes to Christmas celebration instead of husband footing bill
A comment suggests skipping expensive gifts for a family celebration. YTA.
OP wants $3000 for Christmas, commenter thinks YTA for expecting it.
Spouse prioritizes future over costly family celebration. YTA.
User thinks $3000 request for Christmas is insane. YTA.
User calls out OP for ridiculous request. Yikes
NTA Husband is saving for a purpose, lending money causes issues.
Family expects parents to host and provide presents after surgeries
Spending time with loved ones > going into debt
Spending 3 grand on Christmas is obscene , judging holiday by money is wrong
