Half-Chinese, Half-Korean Woman Rejects Her Late Dad’s Family’s Pushy Attempts to Immerse Her in Korean Culture

Imagine growing up with a strong connection to one side of your ethnic background, only to have the other side’s family try to force their culture on you. That’s exactly what’s happening to a half-Chinese, half-Korean woman who’s been dealing with her late dad’s family’s pushy attempts to immerse her in Korean culture, while constantly dismissing her Chinese heritage. Let’s dive into her story and see how she’s handling the situation.

The Family Background

The Ultimatum

The Relationship with Dad

Dad’s Sudden Passing

The Family’s Efforts to Connect

Forcing Korean Culture

Ignoring Their Calls

Backhanded Compliments

Feeling Obligated

Not Interested in Korean Culture

Heritage vs. Identity

Mom and Grandparents’ Opinion

Identifying with Chinese Culture

No Real Importance

In Summary

Caught Between Two Cultures, She Stands Her Ground

This half-Chinese, half-Korean woman has been dealing with her late dad’s family’s aggressive attempts to force Korean culture on her, while constantly dismissing her Chinese heritage. She’s had enough and started ignoring their calls, but her mom thinks she should maintain a relationship with them for the family’s sake. Despite the pressure, she remains firm in her identity, feeling more Chinese than Korean, and sees no reason to immerse herself in a culture that holds no real importance for her. Let’s see what the internet thinks about this situation…

NTA – OP’s Korean family is pushing her away with pressure.

NTA. Family pushing Korean culture, ignoring Chinese heritage.

Half-Chinese woman defends rejecting pushy Korean family’s cultural immersion

NTA. Family’s racist behavior is hurtful and unacceptable. Stay true to yourself.

Half-Korean woman rejects pushy grandparents to immerse in Korean culture

Proud of being half Korean, pushy family is at fault

Rejection of pushy cultural immersion after absent father. NTA

Empower yourself and make them taste their own medicine

Woman feels obligated to connect with pushy Korean family, chooses mental health

Not the a-hole! They’re rude and don’t accept you

NTA comment: The irony is that if your Korean grandparents weren’t racist ‍♀️

NTA. Rejecting pushy attempts to immerse in Korean culture

NTA. Grandparents want a 100% Korean grandchild, not you.

Encouraging response to navigating cultural differences with family

Korean commenter sympathizes with rejection of pushy Korean family members

21-year-old daughter discusses lack of apology from paternal family.

NTA. Korean culture rejection and racism against Chinese people discussed

Rejecting pushy cultural immersion from toxic family. NTA

Cutting toxic family out of your life is freeing

Stand up for yourself and your choices!

Navigating complicated national loyalties and racist attitudes from grandparents

Choose your own identity, not what others want for you. NTA

Rejecting pushy family invalidating identity

Respect boundaries: NTA for rejecting pushy family immersion attempts

Validating the struggle of cultural identity and self-discovery

Chinese commenter finds Korean superiority amusing due to Kpop success

Commenter supports rejecting pushy family, calls them ‘shitty’

NTA. They disowned you as a baby and now want you.

Late family involvement doesn’t dictate cultural identity. NTA

Commenter defends woman against pushy family, calls out their hypocrisy

Growing up mixed race with a Chinese/Korean mom and black dad

Respectful approach to learning family’s culture, NTA for rejecting pressure.

Don’t feel obligated, they are not family . Ignore them

Respectful compromise suggested for pushy Korean family

Family pushing Korean culture on half-Korean woman, NTA for rejecting

Rejecting racism and embracing identity!

Dealing with pushy relatives and cultural identity crises

Commenter supports woman’s rejection of pushy, racist family

Calling out racism NTA stands up for herself

NTA. Consider telling family you’re uncomfortable with their racism

NTA. Family’s sake is an invention by bad people to emotionally abuse others. They don’t care about you, don’t be their instrument of propagation.

Navigating cultural identity: advice from a former ROK resident

NTA. Late dad’s family seems racist towards Chinese. It’s okay not to feel connected to Korean culture.

Stand your ground and keep your memories. You’re not obligated

Rejecting pushy demands to learn a separate culture

NTA rejected pushy Korean family, suggests Chinese feast to troll.

Rejecting pushy and racist family: NTA, owe them nothing

Validating rejection of pushy cultural immersion with relatable anecdote

NTA, your Koreanness isn’t defined by others. Learn at your pace

Ranking Asian nationalities: Chinese on top, then Japanese or Koreans

Rejecting pushy, racist family. Better off without them.

Half-Chinese woman not interested in Korean culture. NTA

NTA for rejecting pushy attempts to immerse in Korean culture Cut contact with deplorable family.

Mixed heritage woman defends her identity and culture choices

Commenter sympathizes with OP’s rejection of pushy Korean family

NTA. Don’t let pushy family dictate your heritage. ‍♀️

Embrace who you are and cut off toxic family members.

Commenter empathizes with the struggle of family expectations and identity.

Rejecting pushy cultural immersion from racist family. NTA

Stand your ground and set boundaries with pushy family members

Heartwarming support for woman rejecting pushy cultural immersion attempts

Mixed-race woman stands up to racist family, NTA

Commenter suggests racism over genuine interest in heritage

Embrace your Korean heritage, ditch the toxic family.

NTA. Stand your ground and set boundaries with pushy family members

Embrace your identity and culture, NTA!

Don’t force culture on someone. NTA for setting boundaries

NTA. Stand your ground against pushy paternal family.

Family using her as a replacement for her father

Setting boundaries with pushy family members. NTA.

Rejecting pushy Korean family after losing Chinese father. NTA

Embrace your own culture and explore others on your own

Detaching from pushy family to explore heritage on own terms

Half-Chinese, Half-Korean woman not the a**hole for rejecting pushy family

Commenter is NTA and has no replies.

Explore Korean culture on your own terms, NTA ✨

Half-Chinese, Half-Korean woman shuts down pushy family members

Commenter supports OP’s decision to reject pushy family’s culture immersion

Pushy late family trying to change her culture. NTA