Picture this: you’re the first grandchild, but you’ve only met your grandparents a handful of times. They’ve never made an effort to be involved in your life, and you’ve never received so much as a card from them. Now, at 28 years old, you’ve just had a baby, and suddenly they want to visit. How would you feel? Let’s dive into a story that’s got people talking.
The First Grandchild’s Tale
28 Years of Silence
The Awkward Phone Call
A New Baby, A New Interest?
Not So Fast, Grandparents!
Ignoring the Request
Feeling Fake
A Rough Upbringing
No Obligation
The Dilemma
Regrets and Consequences
Siblings and Family Dynamics
A Harsh Start
A Baby Brings Out the Long-Lost Grandparents ♀️
After 28 years of silence, this new mom’s grandparents suddenly want to visit now that she’s had a baby. The first grandchild, she’s only met them a handful of times and never received so much as a card. When she called to announce her pregnancy, her grandmother’s excuse for the lack of contact was, “you know how things are.” Now, they’re planning a visit, despite her request to wait until next year. With a rough upbringing and no support from her grandparents, she’s questioning whether she should allow them to visit. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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Grandparents neglected OP, they don’t deserve a relationship with their baby.
Ignore the grandparents, it’s too late to care
NAH, but consider meeting them once for closure
Setting boundaries with estranged grandparents as a new mom.
OP may be the a**hole for inviting grandparents and denying visit.
OP may be the a**hole for opening communication with grandparents. ♀️
No obligation to toxic family. NTA
Misunderstanding with grandparents. NAH, but OP should consider rekindling connection
Grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence: NTA
Give them a chance, they might have changed
Is the grandparents’ sudden interest due to sexism?
NTA commenter suggests a simple visit, OP disagrees due to past harm.
Stop waffling, tell them not to visit or stop complaining.
Curiosity about grandparents’ sudden interest in grandchild
No love lost here. ♂️
Time for an adult discussion with dad about grandparents’ absence?
Unsure if grandparents will establish a relationship with new baby
Grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence. ESH.
Family estrangement: 28 years later, are they still family?
Polite response sets boundary with estranged grandparents.
Curious about dad’s sudden change of heart?
28 years of silence broken by baby’s arrival? NTA.
Grandparents show up uninvited after 28 years of silence. Awkward confrontation.
User regrets contacting grandparents after 28 years of silence.
Grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence: YTA.
Commenter rates OP’s decision as 2/5 for telling grandparents.
Setting boundaries is key for healthy relationships. NTA
Grandparents show interest in grandson but not daughter? NTA
Curious about their absence? NTA suggests asking politely
Disowned father demands visit with granddaughter, NTA for refusing
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Is it worth trying to mend a one-sided relationship?
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Setting boundaries with grandparents after years of no contact.
Curious about family dynamics and favoritism.
Mixed feelings on seeing estranged grandparents after 28 years
Understanding and respectful NAH situation with estranged grandparents
Respect boundaries and protect your baby from toxic behavior
No love lost: Grandparents want to visit after 28 years. NTA.
Use formal names when rebuffing estranged grandparents. Congrats on baby!
Commenter suggests possible reasons for grandparents’ sudden interest. NTA.
Set boundaries and communicate clearly before allowing grandparents to visit.
Set boundaries politely and firmly. NTA wins this round.
Blood doesn’t give automatic access. NTA for protecting family.
Politely decline and set boundaries. No is a complete sentence.
No way! They were terrible grandparents, don’t let them visit.
Protecting the baby comes first. NTA
Grandma’s toxic behavior doesn’t deserve great grandma title. NTA
Polite refusal to estranged grandparents’ visit. NTA
NTA. Grandparents only in it for baby cuddles, not long-term relationship.
Don’t stress, deadbeats rarely change. Weed them out early!
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Great-grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence. NTA.
No love lost: NTA comment shuts down grandparents’ visit request
No love lost between OP and grandparents. NTA.
No obligation to welcome estranged grandparents. Your choice.
Asserting boundaries with skeptical grandparents.
Keep calm and grey rock on.
Commenter is not the a**hole, no replies yet.
Polite pandemic excuse to avoid long-lost grandparents
Deciding whether to let estranged grandparents visit after 28 years.
NTA, but grandparents don’t deserve to know about your baby.
Respectful response to estranged grandparents wanting to visit grandkid.
Strangers after 28 years of silence. Don’t put baby first.
Grandparents want baby, not relationship. NTA for saying no.
Suggests telling grandparents to visit their son instead.
Long-lost grandparents want to visit after 28 years. NTA says it all.
Reconnecting with estranged family after a decade – NTA
No love lost: shutting out toxic grandparents during pandemic
Grandparents demand visit after 28 years, but OP says NTA
