Picture this: you’re the first grandchild, but you’ve only met your grandparents a handful of times. They’ve never made an effort to be involved in your life, and you’ve never received so much as a card from them. Now, at 28 years old, you’ve just had a baby, and suddenly they want to visit. How would you feel? Let’s dive into a story that’s got people talking.
The First Grandchild’s Tale

28 Years of Silence

The Awkward Phone Call

A New Baby, A New Interest?

Not So Fast, Grandparents!

Ignoring the Request

Feeling Fake

A Rough Upbringing

No Obligation

The Dilemma

Regrets and Consequences

Siblings and Family Dynamics

A Harsh Start

A Baby Brings Out the Long-Lost Grandparents ♀️
After 28 years of silence, this new mom’s grandparents suddenly want to visit now that she’s had a baby. The first grandchild, she’s only met them a handful of times and never received so much as a card. When she called to announce her pregnancy, her grandmother’s excuse for the lack of contact was, “you know how things are.” Now, they’re planning a visit, despite her request to wait until next year. With a rough upbringing and no support from her grandparents, she’s questioning whether she should allow them to visit. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
Grandparents neglected OP, they don’t deserve a relationship with their baby.

Ignore the grandparents, it’s too late to care

NAH, but consider meeting them once for closure

Setting boundaries with estranged grandparents as a new mom.

OP may be the a**hole for inviting grandparents and denying visit.

OP may be the a**hole for opening communication with grandparents. ♀️

No obligation to toxic family. NTA

Misunderstanding with grandparents. NAH, but OP should consider rekindling connection

Grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence: NTA

Give them a chance, they might have changed

Is the grandparents’ sudden interest due to sexism?

NTA commenter suggests a simple visit, OP disagrees due to past harm.

Stop waffling, tell them not to visit or stop complaining.

Curiosity about grandparents’ sudden interest in grandchild

No love lost here. ♂️

Time for an adult discussion with dad about grandparents’ absence?

Unsure if grandparents will establish a relationship with new baby

Grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence. ESH.

Family estrangement: 28 years later, are they still family?

Polite response sets boundary with estranged grandparents.

Curious about dad’s sudden change of heart?

28 years of silence broken by baby’s arrival? NTA.

Grandparents show up uninvited after 28 years of silence. Awkward confrontation.

User regrets contacting grandparents after 28 years of silence.

Grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence: YTA.

Commenter rates OP’s decision as 2/5 for telling grandparents.

Setting boundaries is key for healthy relationships. NTA

Grandparents show interest in grandson but not daughter? NTA

Curious about their absence? NTA suggests asking politely

Disowned father demands visit with granddaughter, NTA for refusing
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Is it worth trying to mend a one-sided relationship?
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Setting boundaries with grandparents after years of no contact.

Curious about family dynamics and favoritism.

Mixed feelings on seeing estranged grandparents after 28 years

Understanding and respectful NAH situation with estranged grandparents

Respect boundaries and protect your baby from toxic behavior

No love lost: Grandparents want to visit after 28 years. NTA.

Use formal names when rebuffing estranged grandparents. Congrats on baby!

Commenter suggests possible reasons for grandparents’ sudden interest. NTA.

Set boundaries and communicate clearly before allowing grandparents to visit.

Set boundaries politely and firmly. NTA wins this round.

Blood doesn’t give automatic access. NTA for protecting family.

Politely decline and set boundaries. No is a complete sentence.

No way! They were terrible grandparents, don’t let them visit.

Protecting the baby comes first. NTA

Grandma’s toxic behavior doesn’t deserve great grandma title. NTA

Polite refusal to estranged grandparents’ visit. NTA

NTA. Grandparents only in it for baby cuddles, not long-term relationship.

Don’t stress, deadbeats rarely change. Weed them out early!
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Great-grandparents want to visit after 28 years of silence. NTA.

No love lost: NTA comment shuts down grandparents’ visit request

No love lost between OP and grandparents. NTA.

No obligation to welcome estranged grandparents. Your choice.

Asserting boundaries with skeptical grandparents.

Keep calm and grey rock on.

Commenter is not the a**hole, no replies yet.

Polite pandemic excuse to avoid long-lost grandparents

Deciding whether to let estranged grandparents visit after 28 years.

NTA, but grandparents don’t deserve to know about your baby.

Respectful response to estranged grandparents wanting to visit grandkid.

Strangers after 28 years of silence. Don’t put baby first.

Grandparents want baby, not relationship. NTA for saying no.

Suggests telling grandparents to visit their son instead.

Long-lost grandparents want to visit after 28 years. NTA says it all.

Reconnecting with estranged family after a decade – NTA

No love lost: shutting out toxic grandparents during pandemic

Grandparents demand visit after 28 years, but OP says NTA

Last Updated on June 10, 2023 by Diply Social Team