Imagine having to choose between attending your brother’s graduation and your mother’s wedding, both happening on the same day. That’s the dilemma one person faced, and the decision they made has caused quite a stir. The family’s history is filled with drama, betrayal, and heartache, making this decision all the more complicated. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster and find out what happened.
A Family’s Painful Past
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The Fallout
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Visitation Rights, But No Visits
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Stefan’s Anger
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No More Contact
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Present Day: A Mother’s Wedding
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The Big Dilemma
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Graduation vs. Wedding
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A Mother’s Tears
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Still Unforgiven
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Non-Stop Texts and Calls
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Standing Firm on the Decision ❌
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A Possible Solution?
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A Heart-Wrenching Choice
Caught in the middle of a family torn apart by betrayal, this person had to choose between attending their brother’s graduation and their mother’s wedding, both happening on the same day. With a history of heartache and damaged relationships, the decision was far from easy. Despite their mother’s pleas for forgiveness and her desperate attempts to have her children at her wedding, they stood firm in their choice to prioritize their brother’s graduation. As emotions run high, will this family ever find a way to heal and come together?
NTA. The commenter suggests cutting off the bride until after the wedding.
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Betrayal leads to exclusion from family events. NTA.
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NTA for prioritizing brother’s graduation over mother’s wedding. Family betrayal.
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Mom pushing wedding on kids who don’t want to attend. NTA.
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Setting boundaries and taking responsibility.
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Commenter and replies criticize the cheating wife’s delusional behavior.
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Wedding on same day as son’s graduation? Definitely NTA.
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NTA. Family torn apart over graduation vs wedding date conflict.
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Sibling support and graduation celebration over entitled mother’s tantrums
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Commenter and reply condemn excusing cheating, use strong language
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Stand-up brother chooses graduation over family drama
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Commenter calls out mom’s victim mentality.
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Cheating affects the whole family. NTA for not condoning it.
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Standing up to family drama with a clear conscience
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Choosing brother’s graduation over sister’s wedding. NTA. Family drama ensues
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NTA. Demanding victims celebrate betrayal is narcissistic. Mute mom until graduation.
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Setting boundaries with toxic family members is important.
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NTA prioritizes prior commitment over mother’s affair partner wedding
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A respectful bride-to-be bears the consequences, family forgives.
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Skipping mom’s wedding: NTA, but a sad situation for all
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Commenter shares personal experience with cheating and forgiveness.
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Brother’s graduation > her and side man’s wedding!
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Commenter refuses relationship with cheating mother, causing tension.
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Commenter refuses to attend cheating mother’s wedding. NTA
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Is this subreddit out of its league? Maybe not.
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Block your family member for a while. NTA
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No a****e here, but what caused the family rift?
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Graduation scheduling conflict causes family drama. NTA wins.
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Commenter questions if cheating justifies abandoning a parent.
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Choosing brother’s graduation over mom’s wedding. NTA wins family feud
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Wedding postponed for cheater, but commenter still screwed
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NTA. Brother’s graduation is once-in-a-lifetime, mother’s wedding isn’t.
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Cheating mom gets what she deserves, according to commenter.
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NTA forgives but can’t attend mother’s wedding due to past trauma.
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Comment defends OP’s mom’s actions, suggests forgiveness and empathy.
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Family drama over graduation vs. wedding invite. NTA wins.
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Unforgiven: The lasting impact of cheating and custody battles
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Choosing graduation over unstable relative’s wedding. NTA.
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Wedding date vs. graduation date: a clash of priorities
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A grandmother shares her experience with a bipolar daughter and advice ❤️
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Sibling loyalty wins! Congrats to the graduate
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Commenter defends OP’s decision to support father after mother’s infidelity
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Attending a loved one’s wedding when you hate their partner
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NTA, but consider counseling and reconnecting with your mother
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Cutting contact with your mother may be the best choice
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Wedding conflict: NTA won’t attend even if on another day
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NTA. Make a decision about your relationship with her.
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Forgiving infidelity: NAH, but don’t shut her out forever. ❤️
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Cutting off toxic family members is tough, but necessary.
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Stick to your plans, NTA.
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Survivor reminds commenter to prioritize their own mental health ✔️
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No forgiveness for entitled sister. NTA all the way.
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Engaging with a NTA comment advising to cut the cord.
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Family loyalty tested by graduation and wedding scheduling conflict
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Commenter shows sympathy for mentally ill family member, supports OP’s decision.
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Wedding celebration for cheating partner? NTA stands firm.
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Supportive comment encourages attending brother’s wedding would betray him.
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Commenter defends OP’s decision, calls out mom’s infidelity
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Brother’s graduation vs. sister’s wedding: NTA dilemma
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Supportive comment encourages attending brother’s graduation
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Last Updated on June 5, 2023 by Diply Social Team