Girlfriend Refuses to Teach Basic Chores: Is She Wrong?

Imagine being in a relationship and considering moving in together, only to find out your partner can’t do basic household chores. That’s the situation one 20-year-old woman finds herself in with her 24-year-old boyfriend. He’s lived at home his whole life, and his mom has always done everything for him. Now, she’s hesitant to move in together until he learns to handle these tasks on his own. But is she wrong for refusing to teach him? Let’s dive into the story.

The Big Move

Mom’s Little Helper ‍

Setting Boundaries

The Teacher/Mom Role ‍♀️

Cooking Compromise

Not So Fast! ⏸️

Annoyed Boyfriend

Quality Time vs. Chore Time ⏳

Mom to the Rescue?

Winging It ‍♂️

Self-Doubt

Grateful for Advice

Is She a Bad Girlfriend or Just Cautious? ‍♀️

This young woman is facing a dilemma: should she teach her boyfriend basic household chores or not? She’s worried about taking on the ‘teacher/mom’ role in the relationship, and would rather spend quality time together than teach him how to clean. Her boyfriend is annoyed, saying she must not care about him if she doesn’t want to help him learn. She’s starting to doubt herself, but is she really in the wrong? Let’s see what the internet has to say about this situation…

Empowering NTA comment with witty replies

NTA. Commenters agree that basic chores are easy to learn.

NTA, stand your ground and don’t become his new mommy

Don’t waste your time teaching him, demand proof of competency. NTA

NTA. Comment and replies highlight the issue of unequal household responsibilities.

24-year-old man expects girlfriend to do his chores, NTA response.

Empowering response to NTA comment about sharing household chores.

NTA. Boyfriend lacks initiative and personal responsibility. Agree with replies.

NTA for not wanting to take on a mom role

NTA. Insist he lives alone first and learns to adult.

Maturity praised for seeking to learn basic chores.

Insightful advice on teaching basic chores to a partner.

Sharing chores is important in a relationship.

Living alone before moving in together can improve relationships ‍

Taking responsibility for basic chores is important.

Cooking is the Dark Arts, but no excuse for chores.

NTA refuses to be a maid for an unskilled partner.

Teaching basic chores: relationship dealbreaker or opportunity for growth?

Short and to the point. Run for the hills!

Partner needs to learn basic chores, not rely on mother.

Commenter suggests the boyfriend is lazy and immature.

NTA. Partner should take initiative to learn basic chores. Supportive comment.

NTA. 24-year-old should know basic chores and budgeting skills.

Engaging 18-year-old shares how easy it is to do chores.

Don’t fall for it! NTA and stand your ground

Learning basic chores: necessary or not? Discussion ensues

Don’t budge! Insist on basic chores before moving in together.

Don’t move in with him, he’ll be a pain in the a**.

Breaking the umbilical cord: NTA stands up for himself

Teach him basic chores! NTA, don’t coddle him

NAH, but the nasties are out tonight! Fair on both sides.

NTA You’re not his mom, don’t teach him basic chores.

Is he upset because he thinks you believe he’s too stupid?

NTA wants a partner, not a dependent

Moving in with someone who hasn’t lived alone? NTA explains why it’s not a good idea.

Teaching basic chores: whose responsibility is it?

NTA. Teaching basic chores is an adult responsibility ‍ . Moving in without a plan is a disaster waiting to happen .

Partner’s dismissive attitude towards basic chores is a red flag

NTA suggests living alone before moving in to avoid emotional labor ‍ ‍ and financial conflicts .

Learning basic chores as a child: NTA’s mother vs. commenter

YouTube can teach basic life skills, not just cat videos.

Partner should take initiative to learn basic chores. NTA

Suggests practical solution for boyfriend’s lack of basic skills

Internet is the teacher, not you. NTA

Commenter accuses OP of wanting a ‘bang maid’

Don’t let guilt stop you from setting boundaries.

Commenter sympathizes with girlfriend, suggests waiting for boyfriend to become responsible.

Teaching basic chores could lead to feeling like his mom

Couple struggles to find balance in household chores.

Partner’s lack of basic life skills: NTA for not teaching.

Don’t be an a**hole, learn to do basic chores!

Don’t be a maid! ‍ Stand up for yourself. NTA.

Stay solid and downright rad!