First Christmas Together: Battle of the Tree Topper

Christmas is a time for joy, love, and togetherness, but for one newly blended family, it’s also a time for conflict. A black mother of two 12-year-old twins recently remarried, and this year marks her first Christmas with her Caucasian husband and stepson. The holiday cheer quickly turned sour when her husband took issue with the family’s Christmas decorations, which predominantly featured black characters.

Decorating the Tree

Husband’s Commentary

The Black Angel Tree Topper

Husband’s Request

Mom’s Firm Response ✋

Husband’s Counterargument

Seeking Advice

Edit: Background Info

Husband’s Previous Decorations

“Regular” Decorations

Replacement or Add-On?

Upcoming Conversation

Tree Topper Tussle: Who’s Right? ‍♀️

The tree topper tussle has left this new family divided. The mother stands firm in her decision to keep her black decorations, while her husband argues that they should be more inclusive for their mixed family. The question remains: was she too harsh, or is she justified in her stance? Will this debate affect their stepson negatively? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA! Commenters call out husband’s racist ‘regular’ comment

Blatant racism in Christmas decorations, NTA. ‍♀️

Mixed decorations can represent a mixed family. NTA.

Interracial marriage and Christmas decorations spark conversation. ESH.

ESH. Husband’s wording was insensitive. OP should compromise on decorations.

When Christmas decorations reveal deeper issues in a relationship

Engaging in a debate about representation on Christmas ornaments

Compromise with a non-human topper and mixed decorations. ESH.

NTA stands up against white default Christmas decorations, suggests compromise.

INFO needed to determine if husband is being racist or not

A clash of Christmas decoration preferences.

User calls out OP’s language and lack of effort. NTA.

One-sided decorations causing conflict in first Christmas together

Adding new decorations is a good compromise. ✨

Get the whole fam involved in Christmas shopping ️

Stepson feels like an outsider in his own home. ESH

Commenter accuses OP of racism for wanting only black ornaments

Blended family decor dilemma: inclusivity vs personal expression ‍♀️ ‍♂️

Husband’s lack of understanding of racial disparity could harm POC kids

Creating a diverse tree will reflect on your blended family

Newlyweds navigate blending Christmas decor after moving into her house

Creating a diverse home is important, but don’t forget inclusivity. YTA.

Compromise and avoid the battle for the tree topper

Suggesting decorations are ‘irregular’? Not a good look, hubby.

Commenter accuses OP of discrimination, sparks heated debate

ESH. Both parties should work on inclusivity and understanding.

Letting stepson have a decoration – NTA or TA?

Commenter calls out double standard in interracial tree topper dispute

Adding white figurines is fine, but he should be considerate.

Commenter thinks OP is slightly in the wrong for not compromising

YTA for not including your partner’s kid in Christmas decorations ‍♀️

Using ‘regular’ to mean ‘white’ is not okay. #NTA

Blended family, blended decorations. YTA, says comment.

Commenter questions why Black woman is married to White man who doesn’t understand representation and advises to leave.

Compromise is key in a mixed household ‍ ‍

Inclusiveness backfire? YTA called out for hypocrisy. ‍♀️

Add some new decorations. Representation matters, especially to children.

Embracing diversity in holiday decor. NTA wins!

Don’t settle for regular, you deserve better!

Compromise suggestion for Christmas decoration dispute

White vs black Christmas decorations sparks AH debate. ESH.

Fighting white supremacy during Christmas? Here are some book suggestions

Stepson doesn’t need all-white tree, NTA. Ridiculous responses.

Commenter empathizes with OP’s experience of racism in decorating.

“Regular” vs. “Special” tree topper debate sparks confusion

Partner’s lack of Christmas decor knowledge shocks commenter.

Spread the holiday cheer with this guilt-free comment section

Adding white decorations won’t hurt, NTA for keeping originals.

Mixing both toppers is a fun idea, YTA verdict overturned!