Imagine facing the most important day of your life, only to have your partner issue a cruel ultimatum: lose weight or the wedding is off! That’s exactly what happened to one woman, who was already struggling with insecurities due to weight gain from COVID, work stress, and grief. Her fiancé demanded she lose 4kg by her birthday, and even wanted to know her starting weight. But the story doesn’t end there…
The Heartbreaking Backstory
The Cruel Ultimatum
Seeking Help
The Weight Loss Journey
Birthday Weigh-In
The Shocking Request
Her Reasoning
His Reaction
Seeking Support
His Accusation
Turning to the Internet
Heartbroken and Humiliated: Who’s in the Wrong?
This brave woman faced a devastating ultimatum from her fiancé: lose 4kg by her birthday or their wedding would be canceled. Despite her insecurities and struggles, she managed to lose 5kg in just 5 weeks. But when her fiancé demanded she re-weigh herself in front of him without clothes on, she refused, feeling humiliated and hurt. The couple broke up over this, and now she’s turning to the internet for impartial opinions. Was she in the wrong for refusing, or is her fiancé the true a**hole in this situation? Let’s see what the internet has to say…
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