Fiancée Lays Down the Law: BIL Can’t Stay Forever

Imagine living with a freeloading brother-in-law who believes he’s entitled to your care and hospitality indefinitely. That’s the reality for one woman (23F) and her fiancée (30F). After moving in with her fiancée’s family, the woman quickly realizes that her fiancée’s little brother (25M) has no intention of leaving their side. He’s a high school dropout with no job or domestic skills, and he’s driving her up the wall. But when he assumes he’s moving with them to their new home, she finally snaps.

The Uninvited Guest

No Skills, No Plans ‍♀️

Job Hunt… or Not?

A Blast from the Past

The Unbearable Living Situation

Starving… or Lazy? ️

Laundry Woes

Dishes Drama ️

Eavesdropping on the Future

The Unwanted Roommate

Couch Confrontation ️

Laying Down the Law ️

The Angry Exit

Fiancée’s Thoughts

MIL’s Disapproval

Update: Boundaries Set

The Verdict: Standing Her Ground

After an overwhelming response from the internet, our protagonist decides to set some much-needed boundaries. She’s not letting her freeloading brother-in-law come with them to their new home, no matter what. Her fiancée understands her decision, but wants to continue the conversation when everyone is calmer. Will this be the end of the drama, or just the beginning?

Fiancée’s brother overstaying welcome? NTA sets boundaries for future.

“NTA” Fiancé’s brother overstayed his welcome, 25 is too old

Fiancée not supportive of OP. Brother-in-law has mother to stay with ‍♂️

Fiancée stands up to BIL, commenters agree

Commenter points out age gap and wife’s lack of support. NTA.

Don’t let him crash on your couch , suggest his mom’s place?

Don’t apologize for telling the truth. NTA

Stop catering to his lazy selfishness. Draw the line.

Take him in as your new child? Maybe time to reconsider

Setting expectations with GF about BIL’s role.

Fiancée’s brother won’t leave, OP in unhealthy situation

No more Mr. Nice Guy! Set boundaries and stand firm.

Set boundaries and treat him like a child

Ultimatum needed? NTA needs to discuss BIL before marriage

NTA. Fiancé’s brother needed a reality check

BIL feels entitled to their home and finances, needs a reality check

Age difference clarified

Don’t be TA to yourself, stop enabling him. ️

Age difference raises eyebrows in comment section

Supportive replies agree: NTA for fiancée setting boundaries

Sharing one bedroom between three people? Not livable. NTA

Setting boundaries with in-laws can be tough

Cutting toxic family ties for peace

Standing up for yourself is never easy, but you’re NTA

Curious why OP cooks for BIL? Let’s find out

Engaging solution to BIL problem in NTA comment.

Don’t let your BIL overstay his welcome

Set boundaries with mooching BIL or cut off fiancée too

NTA. Set boundaries with family members

BIL overstays welcome, NTA lays down the law

Set boundaries and don’t let him move in

Don’t be the a**hole, set boundaries with your BIL

Fiancée’s brother doesn’t pay rent but expects to be served?

Fiancée’s brother overstaying, OP needs to have a serious talk

Fiancée’s brother is a deadbeat misogynistic third wheel

Commenter suggests kicking out BIL, no love lost here

Don’t let him move in with you. He needs to grow up

Set boundaries now! Don’t let him follow you

User draws the line with BIL’s laziness

MIL should take care of her baaaaby

Standing up against gender stereotypes, NTA snaps at BIL

Set boundaries but play nice, he’s not your dependent

Enabling BIL needs to go! NTA, time to move out.

Fiancée’s lack of responsibility is the real issue here

Stand up for yourself and don’t enable bad behavior

Take charge, you’re not his maid!

Fiancée’s support for brother is the real issue

Teaching responsibility with beans on toast

Fiancée lays down the law: BIL can’t stay forever NTA takes charge and sets boundaries.

Don’t let him mooch on you again

Clever move! Keep up the pretense and don’t fall for it

Stand your ground! ‍♀️ Your fiancé’s brother is not your responsibility.

BIL overstaying welcome and being lazy? You’re NTA

Don’t be a doormat. BIL can stay with his mother

Encouraging suggestion to send BIL to YouTube channel for basic skills

Fiancée’s brother overstaying welcome, NTA for setting boundaries.

Don’t let him stay, even temporarily or you’ll regret it

NTA! Fiancée’s BIL expects everything without contributing. Toxic behavior

Commenter calls out creepy age gap in GF’s past relationship

Age difference raises eyebrows in comment section

Lesbian relationship boundaries crossed with dependent BIL. NTA.

Fiancée’s family overstaying, but why is fiancée making you deal?

User suggests stopping chores for fiance’s brother, prompting change.

Age difference in relationship leads to unhealthy power dynamic

Fiancée’s brother overstaying? Tell him to leave ASAP!

NTA comment and reply: Apologize for tone but message reasonable

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