Fiancé Demands Gratitude for Unwanted Gifts: Who’s the Real Grinch?

It’s the season of giving, but what happens when your significant other insists on giving you gifts you specifically asked them not to? One woman (42f) is facing this dilemma with her fiancé (45m) of 8 years. Every Christmas, they argue about the gifts they give each other, so this year, she suggested making lists for each other. However, when she mentioned what she didn’t want – anything purple or scarves – her fiancé got angry, saying she should be grateful for whatever she gets. Is she really ruining Christmas, or is her fiancé the one who needs a lesson in gift-giving? ‍♀️

The Annual Gift Struggle

A List to Save Christmas

Fiancé’s Ungrateful Accusations

“Spoiled” and Ruining Christmas?

Standing Her Ground ‍♀️✨

The Purple Dilemma ‍

Fiancé’s Conflicting Opinions ‍♂️

Why Buy Purple? ️

Financial Abuse?

Her Contributions

“Poor” but Contributing ‍ ‍

Gift-Giving Issues ‍♀️

December Shopping Spree ️

The Battle of the Unwanted Gifts: Who’s in the Wrong?

As the holiday season approaches, one woman is struggling with her fiancé’s insistence on giving her unwanted gifts, despite her specific requests. She suggested making lists for each other to avoid arguments, but when she mentioned her dislikes – anything purple or scarves – her fiancé accused her of being ungrateful and ruining Christmas. With conflicting opinions and a history of financial contributions, it’s hard to say who’s really at fault. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this festive fiasco…

Fiancé belittles OP for not liking unwanted gifts. NTA, leave him.

Partner’s entitled attitude towards gift-giving raises red flags

Fiancé demands gratitude for unwanted gifts, commenters call out disrespect.

NTA, but reconsider relationship with someone who insults your preferences

Fiancé’s gift-giving is part of a pattern of abuse. NTA.

Insulting his fiance and ignoring her requests?
NTA, reconsider marriage

Fiancé’s entitlement over unwanted gifts sparks discussion on narcissism. NTA.

Toxic gift-giving and insults? ESH. Love shouldn’t look like this.

Unwanted gifts and demands for gratitude: NTA for feeling upset

Regifting the unwanted gift to fiancé or his mother

Gift-giving should bring joy, not obligation.

Abusive fiancé demands gratitude for unwanted gifts. NTA. Leave him.

Sassy suggestion for a gift exchange with a not-the-a**hole verdict

Fiancé demands gratitude for unwanted gifts. Red flags everywhere.

SAHM to his kids. The plot thickens.

Unmarried SAHM’s situation questioned, comment ignored by others.

Partner’s unwanted gifts cause tension, possible red flags.

Commenter defends OP from disrespectful fiancé.

Dump him and find someone who respects you. #NTA

Stay-at-home spouse deserves appreciation, not unwanted gifts. NTA

Fiancé lacks respect and gratitude. Don’t marry him.

Crafty gift-giving or selfishness? A debate over an orbital sander

Podcast recommendation sparks gratitude in comment section

Gifts should come from the heart, not obligation.

Partner dismisses feelings and calls fiancee ‘poor’. NTA.

Communication is key for gift giving, don’t shame excitement

Toxic home environment due to unemployment. Time to job hunt.

Setting boundaries is important, even with gift-giving.

Fiancé calls her ‘poor’ despite providing childcare, NTA.

Overcoming bitterness through therapy. NTA verdict.

Unwanted gifts lead to rude demand for gratitude. NTA wins.

Partner’s entitlement shocks commenter, invites discussion on relationship dynamics.

Partner demands gratitude for unwanted gifts, but relationship red flags

Commenter suspects ulterior motive behind delayed engagement.

Buying own Christmas present to avoid disappointment. Find someone better!

Don’t let him gaslight you. You deserve respect.

Small gift requests, but is gratitude owed for unwanted gifts?

Savage revenge idea for ungrateful fiancé.

Don’t marry someone who demands gratitude for unwanted gifts

Deserve better: Dump the ungrateful fiancé.

Unwanted gifts and a purple scarf: NTA wins this round

SAHM suggests trading roles with fiancé. Stop unwanted gifts & give coupons.

Don’t settle for an ungrateful partner. Petty revenge optional.

Red flag raised on financial abuse, start job search now.

Fiancé doesn’t respect you, time to leave?

SAHM called ‘poor’ by fiancé for not liking unwanted gifts. NTA

Treat yourself to a massage and coffee instead! ☕️ ‍♀️

Don’t marry someone who thinks you’re poor for supporting them.

NTA. Financial abuse and disrespect from fiance over unwanted gifts. Consider therapy.

SAHM deserves respect and gratitude for her contributions. #NTA

Buttplug suggestion shuts down A-hole fiancé. NTA wins.

What does the big purple flag mean?

Suggest therapy for unwanted gifts? Relationship on the rocks.

Commenter warns of toxic situation with addict BIL.

SAHMs work hard too! NTA for not tolerating disrespect.

Suggesting an Amazon wishlist as a solution