Imagine being a father, eager to celebrate your daughter’s wedding, but there’s a catch – your ex-wife, the mother of the bride, can’t stand to be in the same room as you. This isn’t just a hypothetical scenario; it’s the real-life predicament of a man who’s torn between his love for his daughter and the reality of his bitter divorce. His ex-wife’s resentment towards him is so intense that her rage often requires medical assistance to quell. Now, as his daughter plans her wedding, he’s faced with a heart-wrenching decision: should he pay for the wedding and miss it, or attend and risk ruining the day with drama?
The Ex-Wife’s Rage

The Price of Peace

The Absent Father’s Sacrifice

The Daddy’s Girl

The Mother’s Resentment

The Wedding Bells

The Wedding Plans

The Father’s Dilemma

The Mother’s Invitation

The Father’s Decision

Father’s Love vs. Mother’s Presence: The Wedding Dilemma
Caught in a whirlwind of emotions, this father is faced with a difficult choice. Should he pay for his daughter’s dream wedding, only to miss it due to his ex-wife’s intense resentment towards him? Or should he attend, risking a potential scene that could ruin the day for everyone? It’s a heartbreaking situation that puts the father’s love and the mother’s presence at odds. As the wedding planning continues, the decision looms – will he choose his wallet or his heart? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
INFO- Can’t you just attend without interacting?

Daughter’s manipulative mother wants to be relevant at wedding.

NTA – Ex causing drama, lobby for ground rules to ensure peace
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NAH. Asking parents for money for a wedding can be tacky. But offering money as a bribe/threat is wrong.

Will the ex ruin the wedding again? Daughter’s perspective

“NTA. If your daughter wants her mother at the wedding, she shouldn’t ask you for money. Hope the couple lives happily ever after! “

ESH: A power play to buy entry into daughter’s wedding
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Divorced parents put aside differences for daughter’s wedding

“NTA: Father’s wedding dilemma – pay for the wedding but not be invited? “

Did you cheat on your ex? The truth revealed!

Daughter wants mom at wedding, dad pays. Awkward but understandable.

NTA
Father’s dilemma: pay for daughter’s wedding or skip?
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Engaging perspective on daughter’s expectations and dealing with consequences.

Father’s dilemma: exclude or pay for daughter’s wedding?

NTA: Daughter asks dad to pay but wants mom at wedding

Heartbreaking dilemma: Divorced parents, wedding anxiety, and choosing sides.

Can they avoid each other at the wedding?

NTA, frustrated with being treated as a money bag.
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Misunderstood dad wants to be involved in daughter’s wedding.

Step up for yourself and show your children how to do it!

INFO: Daughter wants both parents at wedding, despite difficult situation.

NTA – Time to move on and let your ex make a scene.

Attending the wedding despite the ex’s presence is important!

Splitting the wedding for daughter’s sake? Logistics, but worth it!

No obligation to pay for wedding. Compromise or skip aisle?

NTA. Ex’s issues, you’ve been bigger person. More than checkbook.

NTA: Be there for your daughter’s special day and ignore the drama

Divorced parents clash over attending child’s wedding. ESH.

ESH. Provoking question: Does your ex love your daughter more?

Daughter wants money but not dad at wedding? NTA!

Divorced due to jealousy, now dealing with wedding drama.

Wedding bill: pay and enjoy or skip? NTA’s perspective.

Unpopular opinion: YTA. Ultimatum given after bad precedent. Explore alternatives.

Daughter’s plea for unity leads to happy family gatherings.

INFO: Kids’ perspective, ex’s behavior, and future family events.

️♀️ Suspicion and drama unfold as family dynamics are questioned.

Good point. The comment author explains their parenting situation.

Parental ultimatums and a difficult choice: a**hole or not?
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Contribute to the wedding, attend, and embrace the chaos!

Putting your daughter first is crucial for a healthy relationship

Suggest an engagement party as a test run before the wedding

ESH. Your daughter wants you at her wedding, prioritize her.

YTA: Be honest about wanting to be there for your daughter

Exes need to put aside differences for the sake of children

YTA trying to buy your way out of excluding her mother.

Focus on your daughter, not your own issues.

Father’s wedding dilemma: Daughter’s choice vs personal conflict. YTA.

Take control of your life and break free from her grasp.

Engaging suggestion to handle ex at daughter’s wedding

Ex’s unfairness, daughter’s choice, and OP’s stand at daughter’s wedding.

Ex’s unhealthy obsession: NTA, focus on your daughter

Go to the wedding Let her mom make a fool of herself

Go to the wedding and let your ex stay away!

Concerned about ex’s behavior? Possible mental illness?

“NTA, it’s not about you vs her. Enjoy your event! “

Two weddings: one with mom, one without. Tough situation

NTA. AJ’s acceptance of your absence on special occasions raises concerns

NTA: Should you pay for a wedding you’re not invited?

Family rivalry threatens daughter’s special day. ESH needs reconciliation.

Curious about wife’s condition? It might affect the decision.

Enabling wife’s behavior won’t help, set boundaries instead.

Daughter’s peace vs. ex-wife’s scenes: Can both parents attend?
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NAH: Father regrets not being more present, working on it
