Imagine growing up with an absent father, only to have him suddenly reappear in your life after eight long years. For our protagonist, let’s call him ‘The Med Student’, this isn’t a hypothetical situation, but a very real dilemma. As he grapples with feelings of resentment and old wounds, he must decide whether to meet his estranged father or maintain the status quo. ♂️
The Ghost of the Past
A Childhood of Disappointment
Unpleasant Memories
A Surprise at the Airport
Feeling Second Best
A Message from the Blue
The Dilemma ♂️
A Reservoir of Resentment
A Question of Respect
The Other Woman’s Role
A Self-Made Man
The Million-Dollar Question
The Med Student’s Dilemma: To Meet or Not to Meet?
Our Med Student is faced with a difficult decision. After years of feeling neglected and unappreciated, his estranged father has suddenly resurfaced, wanting to meet. But the pain of the past isn’t easily forgotten. With a childhood marred by his father’s indifference and a brother who suffered through their forced sailing trips, the resentment runs deep. Now, as he stands on the cusp of a potential reunion, he wrestles with his emotions. Should he give his father a chance, or should he protect his peace and keep his distance? Let’s see how the internet weighs in on this emotionally charged situation…
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NTA. Absent father, no obligation. Many others share similar experiences.
NTA. Dad’s girlfriend asked to get together? Dead to me.
NTA. Estranged dad reaches out after 30 years, rejected by OP.
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No obligation to reconcile. He didn’t even reach out personally.
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NTA: Absentee father gets a reality check.
“No thanks.” – A polite decline or a hint of spite?
NTA, consider therapy to address resentment. Open to half-brother contact.
Choose your own family, don’t let guilt dictate your choices.
Dad’s surprise visit: No interest or chance for reconciliation?
No attachment to absentee father, ignore and protect your privacy
“NTA. You don’t owe him anything. Just say ‘No, thank you.'”
NTA: Take charge and do what’s best for you, boo!
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NTA. Consider potential regrets. Do what you feel is best.
Choose your own path, don’t let anyone dictate your choices.
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No obligations. You’re not the a**hole.
Reconnecting with dad: NTA, take care of your feelings
Dad’s surprise visit orchestrated by his girlfriend? Drama unfolds!
“He maybe your father boy, but he ain’t your daddy”
Dad’s girlfriend making the effort, not him
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Father’s surprise visit lacks effort and seems suspicious. NTA.
Building your own family of choice, NTA. Good luck!
NTA: Absent father, pushy girlfriend. Busy med student, block her.
Dad’s a stranger, no need to waste time.
Stand your ground! Your choices matter, don’t let others dictate.
NTA. Take charge! Your GF cares more than your father.
Dad’s not interested, but the girlfriend is? Awkward family dynamics!
NTA. Your dad’s lack of effort speaks volumes. Focus on your A-Team.
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NTA. Kids grow up and form their own unfavorable judgments.
Regret and redemption: a chance to reconcile with your father?
Dad’s neglect might be unsettling to his gf. She instigated?
NTA. Standing up against pressure to reconcile with estranged parent!
NTA – Don’t overanalyze his attempt to reconnect. Your choice now.
No contact, no interest. Your time is too valuable.
NTA. Liberating to cut off toxic family. Do what’s right
NTA. Set boundaries and keep it short and simple.
Dad’s absence hurts, but reaching out might heal the wounds.
“NTA: Does she know the truth about your relationship with dad? “
Reconnecting with dad after a long time? Take control, meet in public
“Confused by the girlfriend’s message? Just ask for direct contact!”
NTA. Father’s visit may lead to disappointment and emotional distress.
NTA. Take control of your own life.
NTA. Use the meetup to get closure and move on.
NTA: Awkward surprise visit from dad’s GF, just don’t respond!
NTA- Absentee dad? Cut him off. No second chances needed.
Polite refusal: ‘No, thank you’ is all you need!
NTA. Take control of your relationships, don’t let others meddle.
NTA: Clear communication avoids misunderstanding and potential conflict.
Open communication can lead to clarity and reconciliation.
NTA. Dad’s careless treatment, no obligation for a visit.
A blunt rejection of a surprise visit, no second chances.
Cut ties, move on. You’re better off without him.
NTA – A Chance for Reconciliation or Disaster?
Not the a**hole, but what happened next?
NTA. Dad wants to make up for lost time
Is reconnecting with your estranged father worth the potential drama?
Girlfriend’s message speaks volumes. Update us on the situation!
Take a leap of faith and give your dad a chance
Work comes first! NTA – prioritize your job responsibilities
NTA- Why bother? He didn’t.
NTA. A clever response to the girlfriend, check it out!
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“NTA. Work comes first, just like my father taught me.”
NTA: Father is an a** who doesn’t care
GF questions identity of father, OP not the a**hole
Lunch with dad: A chance for resolution or just food?
A chance for reconciliation, meeting up could improve the relationship!
NTA. No obligation to see father. Focus on your own happiness.
