Family Gifts Turn Into Unwanted Surprises ??

We all love receiving gifts, right? But what if those gifts came with secret conditions that you only find out about weeks or even months later? One person shared their frustrating experience with their family’s gift-giving tradition, where gifts turned into unexpected obligations. ?? Let’s dive into their story…

Gifts with Hidden Conditions ?❓

Christmas Gift Card Dilemma ??

Forced to Buy Unwanted Items ??️

Birthday Gifts Held Over Their Head ??

School Trip Money Comes with a Price ??

Gifts Turn Into Favors and Obligations ??

Deciding to Skip Family Gifts ??

Gifts Feel Like Unread Contracts ??

No More Unpleasant Holiday Surprises ??

Mom’s Upset Reaction ??️

Dad Joins the Disappointment Party ??

Standing Their Ground ??

Grounded for Speaking Up ??

Is Saying No to Gifts the Right Move? ?‍♀️?

After years of dealing with gifts that came with hidden conditions, this person decided to put their foot down and say no to family gifts. They wanted to avoid the stress and uncertainty that came with these surprise obligations. But their parents were not happy about it, accusing them of being ungrateful and cherry-picking frustrations. ??‍?‍?‍? So, is it better to just say no to gifts that come with strings attached? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

NTA suggests returning unwanted gifts, but replies offer better advice ?

NTA. Retaliation for calling out BS. Parents more loan sharks ?

Gifts as leverage? Definitely NTA. Stick to your guns! ?

Parents’ controlling behavior sparks empathy and support from commenters ?

NTA wins court case over gifts, but don’t stoop to their level ?

NTA comment suggests hiding money from controlling parents with gift cards

Mother’s ‘gifts’ are just manipulation tactics. NTA. ?

Rejecting gifts to avoid emotional abuse and constant stress ?

Calling out manipulative parents for disguised rules, NTA ?

Unwanted gifts and unequal treatment in the family ?

Kid asks for no more gifts, parent calls them ungrateful ?

Don’t let them fool you with their ‘gifts’ . Give it back when it’s payback time

Setting boundaries with gifts

A heartwarming NTA comment on family gifts

Impressive communication skills, parents can learn from OP

Proud of you for standing your ground against transactional gifts!

Gifts with strings attached are obligations, NTA for refusing.

Stand your ground, but take the gifts

Conditional gift giving is a common tactic for narcissists.

Family’s ‘gifts’ are actually control issues and manipulative behavior. NTA

Heartbreaking abuse story with a hopeful NTA ending

NTA calls out parents’ ‘two bites of the apple’ gift-giving, met with defensiveness

Don’t let them ruin your birthday

Celebrate your birthday your way and avoid unwanted gifts

Politely refuse unwanted gifts and avoid toxic family gatherings

Parents passing off necessities as gifts, NTA for feeling manipulated

Gifts are yours to keep or sell. Don’t let manipulation win

Hold up the mirror to their actions

Don’t accept gifts from them anymore. They want a bargaining chip

Suggest zero effort activities for a gift-free birthday celebration

Gifts with strings attached are not gifts . NTA wins.

Standing up to family has consequences. NTA, but be cautious.

Setting boundaries with gift-giving can reduce family stress

Clever way to revive gifts and set boundaries

Setting boundaries with toxic gift-givers

Navigating manipulative parents, suggest contract and hope for better gifts

Gifts without strings attached. NTA

Dad confirms mom’s lies. NTA, keep this detail for later

Redditors suggest seeking advice from r/raisedbynarcissists subreddit.

Asking for no gifts isn’t selfish, why the control issues?

Unhealthy gift-giving habits can lead to toxic relationships

Commenter criticizes gift-giving tradition with witty reference.

Setting boundaries can be tough but necessary

NTA and not a babysitter.

Commenter not at fault

Don’t let them control you with gifts

NTA calls out gift-giving family, suggests returning unwanted gifts

Gifts should not come with strings attached. NTA

Politely refuse gifts to avoid unwanted surprises.

Be a gracious gift-receiver, suggest charity donations instead

Setting boundaries with family gifts, NTA gets support

Standing up to parents’ bad behavior. You go, NTA!

Setting boundaries with family during gift-giving

Standing up to family, even when right, has consequences

Gifts with strings attached? NTA for returning them

Don’t let your parents ruin gifts and holidays for you!

Parent receives mean gift, commenters support their reaction.

NTA calls out manipulative parents, warns of relationship strain

Hold onto everything they give you. Don’t spend it.

Parenting or the mafia? NTA calls out gift-giving manipulation ‍♂️

Gifts with conditions are a red flag for control

Pro tip: Always clarify conditions attached to gifts

Gifts shouldn’t come with strings. NTA for cutting them off

Regifting as revenge? NTA strikes back at bad gift giving

Gifts shouldn’t come with conditions. NTA.

Sister’s ‘gifts’ turn into financial manipulation

Mature OP receives support for not accepting unwanted gifts.

Stand up to manipulative gift-givers and call their bluff

Gifts with strings attached are not gifts . Parents being frugal?

Gifts are gifts, no strings attached. NTA for setting boundaries

Curious about the age of the NTA commenter

Gifts should come without strings attached. Keep going, OP!