In a world where family ties run deep, a woman finds herself in the eye of a storm, torn between her sister’s plea and her own fears. She’s a mother to three beautiful children, two of whom are adopted. Yet, when her pregnant sister asks her to adopt her unborn child, she hesitates. Her sister believes it would be a straightforward process, given her experience with adoption and parenting. But, our protagonist isn’t so sure. She fears her sister might not be able to detach herself from the child, leading to a messy situation. Let’s dive into her story… ️
A Plea for Adoption
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The Fear of Attachment
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The Potential Babysitter Dilemma
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The Boundary Blunder
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The Family’s Stance
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The Sister’s Response
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The Clock is Ticking⏰
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The Real Reason Revealed?
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The Family’s Readiness for Another Child
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The Final Decision
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The Fallout: Family Labels Woman ‘Arsehole’ for Refusing to Adopt Sister’s Baby
In a heart-wrenching turn of events, the woman’s refusal to adopt her sister’s baby has led to a family outcry. Her family, including her sister, siblings, parents, and grandparents, have labeled her an ‘arsehole’, accusing her of abandoning her family in a time of need. They can’t fathom the idea of letting the baby be surrendered to the system. The woman is torn, feeling guilty for not wanting her niece/nephew to live with strangers, yet fearful of the potential complications that could arise from adopting her sister’s child. She’s seeking different perspectives, hoping to find clarity amidst the chaos. Let’s see what the online world thinks about this situation… ️
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NTA: Sister wants OP to do all the hard work of parenting, only show up for the good bits. Concerns are valid based on sister’s attitude and comments. Replies highlight potential problems and suggest alternative options. Adoptive aunt shares her own negative experience with a bio parent who didn’t respect boundaries. It’s clear that sister’s plan is not in the best interest of the child. NTA for refusing to adopt and protect all 4 kids from emotional damage.
NTA. Open adoption allows visits, but not constant access.
“What a mess. You’re absolutely spot on that she will have no boundaries. She will swoop in and be the ‘fun biomom’ at best and the dysfunctional biomom more likely. She will undermine you at every turn and destabilize your entire family. Your family is calling you the a**hole now but imagine the constant conflict over the next 18 years when sis goes crying to the extended family every time you don’t let ‘her’ kid stay up past bedtime or whatever. NTA
If your siblings, parents, and grandparents want the baby to be raised by family, THEY can raise the baby!”
NTA. Don’t let anyone pressure you into adopting her baby.
NTA. Can’t adopt? Siblings and parents too busy. Boundaries important.
NTA. Taking the risk of adopting your sister’s baby?
NTA. Valid concerns and bio-father’s wishes complicate the situation.
NTA – Protecting boundaries and the baby’s future.
NTA. Offered help finding adoptive parents, but sister declined. ♀️
NTA. Setting boundaries and shutting down unwanted opinions
NTA: Set boundaries to avoid being used as a babysitter and moneybag.
NTA: A disaster waiting to happen!
NTA. Legitimate concerns, boundaries, and family dynamics. Have a conversation.
Engaging comment and replies about sister’s unexpected pregnancy and father’s abandonment
NTA. Don’t be her baby-raising scapegoat. Protect yourself!
NTA – Adopting within family can create complicated loyalties
NTA: You should have the choice to have more children.
Adopting sister’s baby? NTA. Tough choice, but not in best interests
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NTA: Don’t be the free babysitter for your entitled sister
NTA. Concerns about favoritism, confusion, and enabling behavior.
NTA. Foster/adopt experience helps vet options, valid and loving reasons.
NTA. Family dynamics can be complicated and demanding
Engaging comment and replies about sister’s decision to keep baby
NTA: Sister wants you to raise her baby, don’t do it
NTA- Sister wants the best of both worlds, unfair to all
NTA. Boundaries matter. Protect your family from toxic entitlement
NTA. Your family, not an incubator for her shopping buddy.
NTA. Sister willing to sign away rights, but can’t move
Op refuses to adopt sister’s baby, sparks controversy. NTA
NTA. Clap back at judgmental family for not adopting themselves.✊
NTA. Woman wants to adopt sister’s baby, but sister may interfere
Parents could adopt the baby? NTA! Family drama ensues
NTA. Adoption doesn’t mean it will still be “her baby”
NTA. Concerned about sister changing her mind about the baby. Can you offer help?
NTA. Sister wants you to adopt but it’s unfair to all.
NTA. Sister can’t decide if she wants the baby or not
Family feud over adoption: OP not the a**hole, demands support
NTA for refusing to adopt sister’s baby. Boundaries and well-being matter.
NTA. Sister wants you to raise her baby indefinitely
NTA refuses to adopt sister’s baby, sparks controversy
NTA prioritizes stability for her children, fears sister’s potential interference
Sibling refuses to adopt sister’s baby. Family tensions rise.
Boundaries broken: NTA refuses sister’s baby, family calls her AH
Trust your instincts, you’re not the a**hole in this situation. ✌️
NTA. Sister’s attachment will cause trouble. Step away and let her deal.
NTA. Being a glorified babysitter? No thanks!
Supportive comment defends personal choice not to adopt sister’s baby
Setting boundaries is important. You’re not obligated to adopt.
Setting boundaries: NTA refuses to adopt sister’s baby
OP’s concerns about adopting and starting over spark empathy.
NTA. Protect your family first
NTA: Valid concerns about adopting sister’s baby, future implications
Heartbreaking situation. NTA for prioritizing child’s well-being
NTA. Family pressures without offering help? That’s a minefield
Family feud: Sister wants you to adopt, but you’re NTA!
“NTA. Setting boundaries with your sister will be an uphill battle.”
NTA. Red flags. Don’t let immature sister disrupt your lives.
NTA. Valid reasons, selfish family, potential disruption for everyone’s lives⚠️
Counting down the days… What’s going to happen in 60 days?
“NTA. Valid concerns. Make sure legal work is done. Closed adoption.”
NTA: She wants you to do all the work, but not be the parent.
NTA. Don’t raise her baby while she takes the credit.
NTA trust your instincts. Your concerns are 100% valid.
NTA. Adoption can be complex, even within families. ♀️
Family dynamics and favoritism can cause tension and hurt feelings
“NTA. Your sister needs to decide. Stay out of it.”
Potential future drama: sister wants child for sleepovers later?
NTA. Adoption isn’t a one-sided responsibility. Stand your ground!
“NTA. Demand legal adoption in writing, no funny business. “
“NTA. No-win situation. She needs to figure out motherhood.”
NTA – Sister’s desire to keep baby, potential family therapy.
NTA: Considerations for adopting sister’s baby
