Expectant Mom Faces Off with Mother-in-Law Over Childcare Plans

Picture this: you’re a 25-year-old woman, newly pregnant with your first child, and your boyfriend’s mother has never liked you. She’s always been rude and cold, even going as far as calling your family ‘white trash’ because they’re lower-income than her son’s family. Now, you’re trying to plan for the future, balancing work, school, and a baby on the way. But instead of support, you’re faced with your mother-in-law’s unsolicited opinions and a ‘sacrificial’ offer that you just can’t accept. What would you do? Read on to find out how our protagonist handled this tricky situation!

Unexpected Pregnancy Announcement!

Future Engagement Plans

Mother-in-Law’s Disapproval

️ Covid’s Impact on Life

Pursuing a Degree

Planning for the Future

Taking Time Off for Baby

Supportive Boyfriend

Unwanted Calls from Mother-in-Law

Grandmother’s ‘Sacrificial’ Offer

Rejecting the Offer

University Daycare Option

Boyfriend’s Reaction

‍♀️ Choosing Daycare over Grandma: Right or Wrong?

Our 25-year-old mom-to-be is caught in a dilemma. She’s working hard to finish her degree while pregnant and plans to take a semester off after the baby is born. But her boyfriend’s mother, who’s never been a fan of her, swoops in with an offer to move to their city and watch the baby for free so her son doesn’t have to pay for daycare. Our protagonist doesn’t want this woman, who’s always been unkind to her, to be so involved in their daily lives. So, she politely declines the offer, explaining that her university has an affordable daycare option. This doesn’t sit well with the mother-in-law, who accuses her of wanting to ‘ride off her boyfriend’s income for as long as possible.’ The boyfriend agrees his mom’s words were unacceptable but thinks our protagonist should have at least considered the offer. Now, she’s left feeling awful about the whole situation. Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…

Don’t let her control YOUR baby. Good luck!

Refuse verbal conversation, use texts to have proof; set boundaries.

Moving in-laws may lead to guilt trips. NTA.

Cutting off toxic in-laws and trusting college daycare. Good luck!

Stand your ground and shut her down

Standing up to toxic mother-in-law with honesty and boundaries

Stand your ground, MIL would make a horrible babysitter

Stand firm and don’t let the witch bulldoze your family

Setting boundaries with in-laws can be tough

Expectant mother-in-law drama: NTA suggests calling out rude behavior

NTA stands up to mother-in-law with fiery response

Stand your ground, Mama! Cow MIL has no power here

BF needs to handle atrocious MIL behavior now or it’ll escalate

Stand up for yourself and your child. Don’t tolerate disrespect.

NTA. Daycare is great for socializing and learning boundaries. Watch boyfriend’s actions towards family.

Set boundaries with boyfriend’s mom to protect your baby

Expectant mom gets support for cutting off toxic mother-in-law

Mother-in-law wanted baby aborted, now wants to babysit? NTA.

Free childcare from relatives is rarely ever free

NTA. Have a real discussion with your partner and set boundaries

Consider daycare instead of involving mother-in-law in childcare decisions

Joint decision on post-partum leave and daycare – NTA

Choosing daycare over MIL due to neglectful babysitting. Yikes.

Set boundaries and exclude grandma until a genuine apology is made.

Stand your ground! Your BF’s mother can kick rocks!

Protect your baby from MIL , stick to your plan

Protect your child. Don’t let her babysit NTA

Communication is key with partner before baby arrives

Supportive Reddit communities for dealing with overbearing in-laws. Congrats!

Stand your ground and don’t take her bad mouthing you!

Setting boundaries with in-laws is important for a healthy relationship

Grandma’s childcare vs daycare debate results in snarky comment.

Boyfriend needs to stand up to his mother before it’s too late

Boyfriend’s mother is a viper, NTA for not letting her babysit

Boyfriend needs to stand up to his mean mother. NTA

Choose daycare over a mother-in-law who despises you.

BF needs to step up ASAP or MIL will make life hell

College daycare was a great option for my kids

Be firm with your partner and MIL about childcare decisions

Protect yourself and your child from toxic in-laws.

Standing up to toxic in-laws for baby’s safety

Working mom defends daycare, says not everyone enjoys staying home.

NTA, communicate thoughtfully and stand your ground with BF’s input

Protect your child & family from toxic MIL. NTA

Inspiring story of overcoming obstacles and pursuing education despite challenges

Avoiding the MIL’s offers might be the best decision. NTA

Stand up for yourself and reconsider marrying into disrespectful family

Don’t let toxic in-laws babysit your child.

User dislikes daycare and disapproves boyfriend’s mother’s behavior

Cutting off MIL? ‍♀️

Set boundaries with toxic mother-in-law to avoid parenting criticism. NTA

Set boundaries with firm kindness to avoid unwanted advice and visits

Get on the same page with BF before grandma debacle

NTA suggests confronting MIL about past behavior and setting boundaries

Setting boundaries early is key. NTA.

NTA stands up to overbearing mother-in-law with boyfriend’s support

Cutting off toxic MIL: a victory for self-care

Beware of toxic grandparents poisoning your relationship with your child

Stand up to toxic family members, even if it’s hard

Suggest daycare at school or limit contact with disrespectful MIL

Stand your ground and set firm boundaries with your boyfriend’s mother.

Set FIRM boundaries with BF’s mother for new baby arrival

Encouraging comment on standing up to mother-in-law, supporting family choices

University daycare with education PhDs helped my kids excel. NTA.

Mother-in-law’s toxic behavior towards expectant mom warrants a big NO

Suggests college daycare with student interns for best childcare. Advises not to engage with mother-in-law and stand up against her bullying behavior.

User supports OP and calls out mother-in-law’s behavior.

University daycare programs are great for early childhood development

Establish firm boundaries with MIL or risk minimal grandchild time

Don’t entertain toxic family, it’s not their decision

Navigating mother-in-law drama with communication tips. Good luck!

NTA. Follow your instincts and set boundaries with your MIL.

Supportive commenter congratulates and advises against mother-in-law babysitting.

Stand your ground and don’t let her bully you

NTA – Supportive advice to handle overbearing mother-in-law

Choosing professional daycare instead of MIL, and taking courses with baby.

Grandmother’s relocation for grandkids vs. daughter-in-law’s approach ‍♀️

Standing up to toxic MIL, putting baby’s well-being first

NTA. MIL issues often stem from SO not standing up.

Single mom’s inspiring success story

Facing off against a toxic mother-in-law. NTA, stick to your plan

Navigating mother-in-law conflicts with empathy and communication. NTA

Mother-in-law’s racist behavior causes family tension. NTA.

Boyfriend needs to set boundaries with controlling mother-in-law

NTA accused of getting pregnant to avoid school and job.

Stand your ground politely, it’s your baby and your decision