Divorce can be a messy and painful process, but what happens when it’s over and one party still needs help from the other? One man found himself in this exact predicament when his ex-wife called him for help with a media server he had set up during their marriage. The server contained their shared collection of movies, TV shows, music, and home videos. The man had given her copies of the data on hard drives, but she didn’t know how to use them. Should he help her out or leave her to figure it out on her own? ♂️
The Divorce Story
The Media Server
Dividing the Digital Assets
The Solution: Hard Drives
Ex-Wife’s Struggles
His Suggestions
Ex-Wife’s Frustration
His Refusal ❌
Her Alternative Request
His Second Refusal ❌
His Reasoning
No More Help
The Painful Past
Just Wanting Peace ✌️
Clarification on Drives
To Help or Not to Help: The Ex-Wife Dilemma ♂️
This divorced man faces a dilemma when his ex-wife begs for help with a media server he had set up during their marriage. He had given her copies of their shared media on hard drives, but she didn’t know how to use them. Despite offering her some advice and tutorial videos, she insisted he come over and set it up for her. He refused, not wanting to be responsible for her tech issues and preferring to move on from their painful past. Was he justified in his refusal, or should he have helped her out? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
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