Imagine being faced with a decision that could change the course of someone’s life – especially when that someone is your ex-husband. A 64-year-old woman finds herself in this exact situation when her ex-husband, who left her for a younger woman, is now dying and wants her to take him in during his final days. The ex-husband’s current wife has had enough and is ready to send him to a nursing home, where he’ll likely die alone. The woman is torn between her own feelings and the resentment her daughter holds towards her ex-stepfather. Let’s dive into this emotional rollercoaster of a story.
The Ex-Husband’s Story
Reconnecting with Daughter
Devastating Diagnosis
Nanny’s Refusal
Daughter’s Resentment
Ex’s Last Wish
Current Wife’s Ultimatum
The Heartbreaking Dilemma
Sense of Attachment
Financial Struggles
The Agonizing Decision
A Life-Altering Choice
This woman is faced with an incredibly difficult decision: take in her dying ex-husband, who left her for a younger woman, or leave him to his fate in a nursing home. Her daughter’s resentment towards her ex-stepfather adds another layer of complexity to the situation. With the ex-husband’s current wife unwilling to care for him and the woman’s own financial struggles, the choice seems almost impossible. As we dive into the internet’s reactions, we can’t help but feel for this woman and the heart-wrenching decision she must make.
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NTA. Ex made his bed, not your circus, not your monkey. ♀️
Ex-husband’s wife is TA, OP is NTA for visiting him in nursing home
Nursing home or hospice care is the best option.
Ex-husband dying, but no obligation to take care. NTA
Age difference causes confusion and concern among readers
Choosing between regret and responsibility
NTA. Commenter suggests adult protective services for elderly ex-husband. Replies agree.
Suggesting a hospice or nursing facility to help both parties
Putting yourself first is not selfish.
Compassionate commenter praises OP for considering ex-husband’s care.
Caregiving for abusive ex-husband: emotional toll on family discussed. ❌
Compassionate comment suggests alternative care options for dying ex-husband. ❤️
Encouraging support for a kind-hearted person.
Think twice before taking in an ex, it could backfire.
Ex-husband dying, but NTA for not taking him in.
No obligation to take in ex-husband. Visit in hospice.
Harsh judgment on ex-husband’s plea for help.
Commenter empathizes but advises against taking in ex-husband.
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Compassion without accommodation. Wife unfairly judged.
Ex-husband’s care is not your responsibility. Focus on yourself
New wife’s behavior shouldn’t be a surprise, OP is NTA
Don’t martyr yourself for him. His legal wife should handle it.
Expert care in hospice/nursing home is a blessing, not punishment.
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Abandoned ex-husband seeks shelter, but gets a reality check. ♀️
Setting boundaries is important. NTA for not taking him in.
Blunt response to dying ex-husband sparks debate.
Compassionate advice: visit if you can, but don’t feel guilty.
NTA, but it’s time to let him go.
Compassionate response: NTA. Nursing home is best for him now.
Cold-hearted response to dying ex-husband
Family experience shows NTA’s tough love is justified
Compassionate response suggests care home for dying ex-husband.
Choosing skilled nursing care is the best decision.
Prioritizing self-care: NTA comment advises against sacrificing future for ex-husband
Ex-husband abandoned her and their daughter, now expects her to sacrifice.
Ex-husband left for newer model, now reaping what he sowed. NTA
No sympathy for the ex-husband, stand your ground.
Choosing a nursing home for a loved one. NTA supported.
Tough love or harsh truth? NTA comment sparks debate.
A heartfelt message of support and advice during a difficult time ❤️
Choosing a nursing home doesn’t make you a bad person.
Caring for an ex-husband is a big commitment, protect yourself
Commenter suggests nursing home for dying ex-husband, reassures he won’t die alone
NTA commenter questions ex-husband’s motives with a twist
NTA. Nursing home is the right place for him.
A suggestion for caring for the ex-husband without obligation.
Compassionate response to ex-husband’s plea for help.
Commenter doubts ex-husband’s motives for returning. NTA.
Redditors debate whether dying ex-husband deserves wife’s care.
Don’t take him in. Let his wife handle it.
Commenter empathizes with kids and advises OP to not feel obligated.
You owe this man nothing. End-of-life care is draining emotionally.
Commenter refuses to help dying ex-husband. Harsh or justified? ♀️
Do what’s best for you, NTA. It’s not an easy decision
Consider hospice care for ex-husband’s final days. NTA for declining.
Commenter accuses woman of abuse, sparks debate.
Setting boundaries is important. Would he do the same for you?
Daughter’s well-being comes first. NTA for not taking him in.
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Confused reader seeks timeline clarification in heart-wrenching story
No guilt in refusing to be a death doula.
Compassionate NTA wants to help dying ex-husband, offers practical advice
Ex-husband’s choice, not her responsibility. Visit him in nursing home
Cold truth: Would he take you in? No, he wouldn’t.
Ex-husband’s infidelity leads to deserved karma. NTA.
You don’t owe him anything, take care of yourself first. NTA
Commenter says ex-husband’s situation is not her responsibility.
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Ex-husband’s choices, not OP’s. Visiting him in home kind.
No sympathy for ex-husband’s situation. Brutal but honest comment.
Ex-husband’s regret doesn’t justify emotional and financial hardship. NTA
You owe him nothing. Don’t let him ruin your life.
Taking in an ex-husband? NTA but ask for payment upfront
Ex fired caretaker, don’t take him in. NTA
