An adoptive mother is facing a difficult decision as the biological mother of her 11-year-old daughter, Erica, seeks contact. The daughter’s biological parents didn’t want the baby, and the adoptive parents offered financial help to Erica in exchange for adopting the child. Now, 11 years later, Erica wants to meet her biological daughter, but the adoptive mother is unsure if it’s the right time, as her daughter is currently in therapy for anxiety.
The Adoption Agreement
Financial Support
11 Years Later ⏰
A Strained Relationship
Daughter’s Emotional State
Son’s Opinion ️
Past Contact Attempts
The Dilemma
A Difficult Decision Looms ️
The adoptive mother is torn between honoring the wishes of her daughter’s biological mother and protecting her daughter’s emotional well-being. With their daughter currently in therapy for anxiety, they fear introducing her to her biological mother now could be confusing and upsetting. The situation has caused tension between the families, with the biological mother’s parents now refusing contact and accusing the adoptive parents of being in the wrong. The adoptive mother is left questioning if she would be the bad person in this situation.
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Gentle YTA, as the daughter should have been told earlier.
Seek professional help for your daughter’s adoption situation ASAP.
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Hiding adoption truth can cause trauma and trust issues. YTA.
Commenter calls out OP for ‘buying’ the child and not telling her daughter about her biological mom. Others agree and criticize OP’s actions.
Adopted daughter should have always known, YTA for hiding it.
Is the daughter aware of her biological parents?
Should the daughter be told she’s adopted?
Adopted daughter deserves to know for medical reasons. Tell her.
Adoptive parent criticized for late discovery adoption.
Adoptive parent questioned on counseling and support given to birth parents
Commenter calls out OP for being unfair to daughter’s mom. Yikes
Sensitive question: Has the daughter been told she’s adopted?
A complicated situation with a manipulative past and anxious daughter.
Commenter accuses parent of concealing daughter’s identity for selfish reasons
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Grandma’s abduction confession gets YTA judgement.
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Curious question, but does it really matter?
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Delay in telling daughter about adoption leads to conflict. YTA.
Adopted daughter deserves to know the truth. YTA for hiding.
Hiding adoption truth? YTA, daughter may trust Erica more
Commenter calls out OP for not telling child about bio mom
Adoptive mom faces tough decision on revealing daughter’s adoption. YTA.
Heartbreaking situation: Adopted daughter unaware of adoption, YTA called out.
Commenter calls out the mother’s actions as a clusterf**k. #YTA
Legal ties to the child? The answer may change everything.
11 years of secrecy? YTA. Time to tell daughter.
Adoptive mother accused of stealing baby and forcing a lie.
Delay in telling daughter about adoption, YTA, risk ruining relationship.
Manipulative adoption and withholding truth, YTA.
Adoptive parent criticized for not telling daughter she’s adopted.
Adopted daughter should know the truth. YTA
Commenter asks if OP has made a decision yet.
Honesty is the best policy . Lying about something life-altering will rupture relationships.
Time to tell daughter she’s adopted before situation gets worse
Grandma bought the child for college, INFO: 11yo adopted? YTA
Lying to your child about their identity is devastating. YTA
Honesty is key in adoption. YTA for not telling earlier.
Commenter calls out OP for lying to adopted daughter.
Harsh criticism of adoption, suggests therapy and honesty with granddaughter.
YTA for lying to your daughter about her biological mother.
Therapy can help navigate telling daughter about adoption.
Adoptee stresses importance of telling daughter she’s adopted.
The truth hurts, but it’s better than a painful secret.
Grandma’s secret: Is it fair to hide granddaughter’s parentage?
Consider the child’s well-being and therapy before making decisions.
Hiding the truth from your adopted daughter is damaging.
Commenter criticizes OP’s parenting, predicts future conflict.
Commenter calls out selfish behavior in adoption situation
OP accused of buying baby from desperate 18yo – YTA
Delaying the truth about parentage is wrong. Seek therapy ASAP.
