Imagine growing up without ever meeting your father, only to be introduced to him in your 30s – and then finding out he’s not the man you’d hoped he’d be. This 30-year-old woman has had a rough relationship with her estranged father, who was absent from her life due to his infidelity and manipulative behavior. Now, her father has been diagnosed with cancer, and she’s struggling with her emotions – or lack thereof. Let’s dive into her story and see if her feelings (or lack thereof) are justified.
A Product of Infidelity
Restraining Order and No Contact
Reconnecting on Facebook
Uncomfortable Dinner ️
Feeling Awful and Unresponsive
Mom’s Silent Treatment
Dad’s Manipulative Behavior
Cutting Contact ✂️
Dad’s Cancer Diagnosis
Mom Thinks She’s a Monster
Mom Isn’t Speaking to Her
Feeling Sorry, But That’s It
Heartless Daughter or Justified Distance?
So, this woman has had a tumultuous relationship with her estranged father, who has been manipulative and unsupportive. Now that he’s been diagnosed with cancer, she’s struggling with her emotions – or lack thereof. Her mom, who has grown close to her dad again, thinks she’s a monster for not being more upset. But is she really heartless, or is she just protecting herself from more manipulation and pain? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this complicated situation…
NTA and it’s time to cut contact with both parents . Build a support circle and seek counseling
Daughter called NTA, but mom also manipulated. Award received
Moving out might be the best option. NTA
NTA. Biological parentage does not equate to being a loving parent
No obligation to connect with boastful absentee father. NTA
User accuses father of faking cancer for attention.
Stranger with cancer demands emotional labor from daughter? NTA.
Choosing your own family is important. NTA for prioritizing your mental health.
Mother’s actions inappropriate, commenter supports daughter’s decision.
Commenter questions mother’s behavior, humorously misinterprets acronym, and receives agreement.
Daughter justifies lack of empathy for estranged father’s cancer diagnosis.
Biological father vs dad: A family’s complicated dynamics
Heartbreaking comment on parent’s failing health, sympathy expressed.
Don’t let your manipulative parents guilt you. Stay strong.
Cutting ties with a parent – justified or heartless? ♂️
Daughter criticized for lack of empathy towards estranged father’s illness
Supportive comment advises moving away from manipulative parents ♥️
Supportive comment acknowledges emotional burden of cancer diagnosis.
Valid feelings matter! Don’t let anyone control your emotions.
NTA, but dealing with manipulative and abusive parents
Support for NTA comment against terrible mom
A father’s perspective on a mother’s actions affecting their relationship.
Commenter advises daughter to prioritize her own well-being over her absent father’s.
Mom’s intuition? Commenter thinks dad’s infidelity was no secret.
Daughter rejects father’s cancer diagnosis due to past neglect.
Parent’s mistakes shouldn’t burden the child. NTA
Supportive comment section. NTA for prioritizing self-care
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Daughter stands up to unsupportive family in dad’s cancer battle
Commenter calls out parents, sparks no replies.
Cutting toxic people out of your life
Commenter advises daughter to prioritize her own mental health ❤️
Daughter justifies lack of feelings towards estranged father with therapist’s advice.
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NTA and a subreddit recommendation for more support
Commenter sympathizes with OP, calls out parents as a**holes.
Daughter justifies not caring for biological father. NTA
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Cutting ties with toxic family members is sometimes necessary
Daughter advised to set boundaries with manipulative parents.
Commenter supports OP and insults OP’s family. NTA
When the comment section takes an unexpected turn
Self-care is important. NTA comment offers gentle advice
Mom’s lack of empathy towards dad’s cancer, NTA daughter.
Standing up for yourself is never easy, but you’re NTA.
Estranged daughter’s justified reaction to dad’s cancer diagnosis.
Toxicity at its finest.
Mom still wants contact with dad? NTA commenter is confused �onfused
Daughter justifies not caring about estranged dad’s cancer.
Cutting off dad with cancer: justified or heartless? NTA wins.
Commenter relates to narcissistic behavior and justifies lack of empathy.
NTA comment suggests toxic family dynamics, need for independence.
Cutting toxic family ties: NTA comment sparks discussion
Family ties don’t justify entitlement.
Unsolicited advice or genuine concern? The internet debates.
Redditors debate whether OP is justified in not supporting dad’s cancer
No contact might be the best option. NTA
Daughter (21f) justifies lack of sympathy for estranged dad’s cancer.
No sympathy for abusive father. Justified to cut him off.
Cutting contact with toxic family members is necessary for healing.
Daughter’s cold response to dad’s cancer diagnosis sparks debate.
Daughter’s cold response to dad’s cancer diagnosis sparks debate
Commenter defends daughter’s stance on dad’s cancer diagnosis.
Enjoying silence after cancer diagnosis? Not all heroes wear capes.
Brutal honesty in a family can be hurtful.
Father’s cancer diagnosis doesn’t make him a daddy, NTA.
Daughter’s cold response to dad’s cancer diagnosis shocks readers. ♀️
Shared DNA doesn’t make someone a parent.
Family isn’t always about blood. NTA for setting boundaries.
Commenter calls out parents, supports daughter’s decision.
Choosing yourself over toxic family is hard, but worth it.
Taking control of your life and mental health.
Daughter defends her decision to stay no contact with abusive father.
Mom’s behavior towards Dad is questionable. NTA for feeling indifferent.
Supportive comment calls out toxic family dynamics.
Mom needs to pay rent or find new place
Introverted commenter defends NTA’s isolation, relatable but concerning.
Cutting toxic people out of your life
Empowering response to controversial comment.
Last Updated on May 14, 2023 by Diply Social Team
