Imagine having a loving family with both biological and adopted children, only for the issue of college funds to cause a rift between the parents. This 44-year-old father and his wife, Ami, have a biological son, Ethan, and two adopted children, Aiden and Gracie. The father decided to use his inheritance to fund equal college accounts for all three kids, but Ami wasn’t on board with that idea. The disagreement escalated into a massive argument, and now the wife has left the family home.
College Funds for All
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Wife’s Disagreement
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Biological vs. Adopted
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Standing Up for the Kids ️
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Wife Leaves the Family
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Father’s Love ❤️
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Adoption Background
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Financial Situation
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House and Mortgage
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Kids in Therapy
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Ami’s Whereabouts
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Father’s Dilemma
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Father’s Love and Support ❤️
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No Labels, Just Love
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Update: Meeting with Ami ️
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Dad’s Love Prevails, But What About Ami?
After the heartbreaking argument and Ami’s departure, the father continues to stand up for his adopted children’s right to equal college funds. He’s willing to support Ami if she needs help, but their relationship as a couple is on the rocks. In a recent update, Ami apologized for her actions but revealed she’s moving to Canada and doesn’t want any more contact with the children. The father’s love for all his kids remains strong, and he refuses to label them as ‘biological’ or ‘adopted.’ Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
NTA dad gets advice to protect kids’ college funds

NTA. Wife’s prejudice towards adopted kids is heartbreaking

Secret funds and overspending spouse ♂️

Adopted son hears wife’s hurtful words, may pull back from family

Wife wants more money, leaves for days. NTA, reconsider relationship.

NTA for standing up for adopted kids. Wife is TA

Adopted kids’ college funds cause marital strife

Wife’s greed threatens relationship with children and husband.

Adopted kids are family, mom’s comment is unacceptable

Wife wants new car and holiday, NTA dad stands up

Heartbreaking NTA story, glad kids have dad ❤️

Supportive comment defends dad’s decision to stand up for adopted kids’ funds

Dad defends adopted kids’ college funds, wife leaves

Father chooses his children’s safety and love over his wife

NTA, but wife’s behavior raises red flags . Equal support for all children is important

NTA stands up for adopted kids’ college funds, wife leaves

NTA dad stands up for adopted kids’ college funds

Adopted kids are yours as much as bio kids. NTA

NTA, but wife’s behavior is shocking. OP needs to reflect.

Commenter supports dad in wife’s departure.

Adoptive dad stands up for kids’ equal treatment. NTA

NTA. Ami advocating for herself, not the kids’ education.

Heartbreaking adoption situation, but glad dad supports son. ❤

NTA defends adopted children’s college funds. Family falls apart

Mother’s favoritism and selfishness causes family rift.

Parental love knows no bounds. NTA for prioritizing education

Adopted kids deserve same love and respect as biological children

Heartbreaking situation, but dad is NTA and a great parent

Adopted kids deserve equal treatment. Wife leaves

Protect the college funds from your wife

Money reveals true colors: NTA dad stands up for kids.

Adopted kids should be treated equally. NTA.

Wife leaves after dad stands up for adopted kids’ college funds

Putting kids first , wife needs to chill and prioritize ALL children.

NTA! Adopted kids deserve a parent who cares about their future

Concerned comment suggests wife may have mistreated adopted kids

Commenter questions history of wife’s behavior towards adopted children.

NTA. Don’t reward your wife’s selfishness. Keep taking care.

Heartwarming brotherly bond despite bio or adopted status ❤️

Adopted kids are hers, wife’s the a**hole

Blood doesn’t make family, NTA dad wins at parenting

Heartbreaking truth about wife’s attitude towards adopted children.

Father defends adopted kids’ college funds, wife leaves

Lock away inheritance in untouchable college funds to avoid divorce

Commenter advises dad to protect his children’s future from wife

Stepmom prioritizes money over adopted kids, husband NTA

Adopted kids are your kids. Wife who can’t see that leaves.

Heartwarming moment between dad and adopted kids ❤

Stepmom plays favorites with bio kid, dad stands up for adopted kids’ college funds. NTA

NTA, wife’s greed for inheritance doesn’t justify hurting adopted kids

NTA dad stands up for kids’ college funds, wife leaves

Adoptive dad stands up for kids’ college funds, wife leaves

Adopted kids need love too! Dad stands up for them

Supportive comment suggests taking time to consider wife’s behavior

NTA for standing up for kids’ college funds, wife leaves
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NTA comment advises to save money from awful Ami

NTA and marriage in question
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Adopted kids deserve equal treatment. Wife’s greed is appalling.

Protect your kids’ inheritance. Don’t let Ami ruin it.

Confusion and heartbreak over OP’s story of standing up for kids’ funds

Mother prioritizes wants over children’s future, husband not at fault

Heartbreaking situation for kids, sympathy for spouse, NTA verdict.

Father chooses adopted kids over wife, earns son’s gratitude ❤️

Commenter supports dad and suggests divorce, with shock and anger

Father prioritizes adopted kids’ college funds over wife’s wants

Heartbreaking conversation reveals true parent in NTA comment

Adopted kids are still yours, is Ami right in head? #NTA

Parent prioritizes kids’ college funds over wife, sparks debate

NTA Dad stands up for adopted kids’ college funds
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NTA for treating adopted kids like family
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NTA dad stands up for kids’ college funds, wife leaves

Dad prioritizes his kids’ future, wife leaves

Adopted kids deserve equal college funds. NTA for standing up.

Equal treatment for adopted kids. Wife’s behavior raises red flags
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Commenter praises OP for treating adopted and biological kids equally
