Picture this: a father who has a long-standing tradition of father-daughter dates with his two daughters. They’re all grown up now, but they still cherish these moments to catch up and bond. But what happens when the daughter-in-law wants to join in on the fun? One dad found himself in hot water after telling his son’s wife that she wasn’t invited to their special tea time. Was he too harsh, or was he just trying to maintain a cherished tradition? Let’s dive into the story.
Father-Daughter Dates: A Cherished Tradition

Tea Time with Dad

Daughter-in-Law Wants In

The Confusion Begins

Not Invited

The Harsh Truth

The Fallout

Update: The Conversation

Dad’s a J**k?

Apologies and Explanations

Sue’s Side of the Story

Understanding the Tradition

Embarrassed and Panicked

Seeking a Closer Relationship

Forcing Traditions Won’t Help

The Thread’s Discovery

Tea Time Turmoil: Dad vs Daughter-in-Law
In an attempt to bond with her husband’s family, Sue, the daughter-in-law, wanted to join the father-daughter tea time tradition. However, Dad wasn’t having it and told her she wasn’t invited, sparking a family conflict. After some heated conversations, apologies were exchanged, and Sue admitted she was just trying to get closer to her husband’s sisters. Dad suggested she find other ways to bond with them, without intruding on their special tradition. So, was Dad too harsh, or was he just trying to protect a cherished family ritual? Let’s see what the internet thinks of this situation…
“INFO: Who invited her? She obviously was told by someone. No one overhears a conversation and just invites themselves to things without telling anyone. Given she called and asked what time tea was, someone must’ve told her she could go. Whoever said person was should’ve communicated with you, but I’m interested to know if it was one of your daughters.”

NTA Daughter-in-law doesn’t understand the father-daughter tea date tradition.
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Inclusion is key for a harmonious family

Daughter-in-law excluded from tea time, wife finds it ridiculous.

ESH- Don’t exclude and mock DIL, but be more tactful.

YTA for excluding your DIL from a simple tea time

DIL excluded from tea time: Commenter calls out dad’s cruelty

NTA – Family time vs. entitlement: Boundaries are important

“NTA. I respect their boundaries, DIL should too. “

Commenter sympathizes with Sue and criticizes OP’s handling of the situation. Replies call out OP’s rudeness and suggest building a bridge. YTA.

“YTA. Alienating DIL. Harsh response. New tradition? Set it up!”

Daughter-in-law excluded from tea time, son’s partner not invited

ESH for miscommunication. Resolve it to be involved with grandchildren

Seriously, be kind and inclusive. Don’t mock and exclude.

NTA, but your family dynamic seems strange. Why exclude her?

Son is the a****e, daughter-in-law is out of line. NTA

INFO: Is this about inclusion or exclusion?

Cultural differences: daughter-in-law inclusion or exclusion?

YTA for excluding DIL from tea time

“YTA. Evil parent-in-law stereotypes exist because of people like you.”

YTA, excluding her was hurtful. Schedule another time to include her

Rejected daughter-in-law wanted to bond at father-daughter tea time

Last Updated on February 3, 2024 by Diply Social Team